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            <title><![CDATA[AI Is Just Infrastructure]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Tue, 10 Mar 2026 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[AI is not a product. It's infrastructure. Like electricity and the internet before it, the real opportunity is in what you build on top.]]></description>
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I've spent the last two years building with AI tools: [Cursor](https://cursor.com/), [Claude](https://claude.ai/), [Replit](https://replit.com/), [Windsurf](https://windsurf.com/), and more. The tooling changes every few months. Models get cheaper. New frameworks appear and disappear.

But one thing keeps getting clearer to me: **AI is not a product. It's infrastructure.**

We keep talking about AI like it's a chatbot, a SaaS feature, or a clever tool. That framing misses what's actually happening. AI is becoming more like electricity. More like the internet.

Power goes in, intelligence comes out.

This framing changed how I think about what to work on.

## The Stack

You can think about AI as a simple stack:

- **Energy**
- **Chips**
- **Infrastructure**
- **Models**
- **Applications**

Each layer enables the next. Energy powers everything. Chips turn electricity into computation. Infrastructure connects thousands of chips into massive AI factories. Models sit on top of that.

And finally, we get applications or in pop jargon, wrappers, where the value actually gets created.

I wrote in my [2024 life lessons](/blog/life-lessons-2024) that **"if you're building a startup today, your real moats are in the Three D's: Data, Distribution, and Design."**

That's still true. But now I'd add a fourth: understanding where you sit in this stack.

## Most Builders Are Fighting the Wrong Battle

When AI exploded, many founders immediately started trying to build models, AI infrastructure, or their own frameworks. I was guilty of this too. I tried building **Pynions**, an open-source AI agent framework in Python.

It was a fun learning experience, but I quickly realized I was competing with companies investing tens or hundreds of billions into the lower layers.

[OpenAI](https://openai.com/), [Google](https://deepmind.google/), [Anthropic](https://anthropic.com/), [NVIDIA](https://nvidia.com/), you're not going to outbuild them and you don't need to.

Electricity created power plants, but the real economic explosion came from appliances, factories, machines, tools that people actually used. AI may follow the same pattern.

_"The cheaper your company is to operate, the harder it is to kill."_ — Paul Graham

The opportunity isn't in the infrastructure. It's in what you build on top of it.

## Intelligence Is Getting Cheaper

One thing is becoming very clear: the cost of intelligence is falling fast.

The cost of frontier-model intelligence has dropped ~10–20x in roughly 3 years, while budget models now offer basic AI capabilities at **200x less** than GPT-4's launch price.

Models improve. Reasoning improves. Open models spread everywhere. I've watched the price of API calls drop dramatically just in the past year. What cost me hundreds of dollars in 2024 now costs a fraction.

This means the model itself won't be your moat. If you're building a business that depends on having access to a better model than everyone else, that advantage has a short shelf life.

Your advantage has to come from somewhere else.

## Distribution Still Wins

I keep coming back to this. AI models are quickly becoming interchangeable. Your distribution is not.

The companies that win usually control attention.

Search traffic, newsletters, communities, platforms. [Ross Simmonds](https://rosssimmonds.com/) hammered this in _Create Once, Distribute Forever_, and it's more true now than when I read it.

At [Rewardful](https://www.getrewardful.com/?via=tomaslau), I see this every day. The AI and SaaS companies growing fastest aren't the ones with the best models.

They're the ones with the best distribution:
- Affiliate programs
- Content engines
- Partnerships

If you control distribution, you can plug in better intelligence every year or even every month. Without it, even great products struggle.

## Context Is the Real Moat

AI becomes dramatically more powerful when it has context. Not generic internet knowledge, real context. Projects, goals, people, history, preferences.

This is why I'm excited about personal AI assistants and why tools like **Claude Code** feel so powerful. Claude doesn't just generate code. It understands my project, my files, my patterns. That context makes it 10x more useful than a generic chatbot.

The real advantage isn't the model. It's the memory. Context compounds over time, and whoever accumulates the most relevant context wins.

_"Ninety percent of success can be boiled down to consistently doing the obvious thing for an uncommonly long period of time without convincing yourself that you're smarter than you are."_ — Shane Parrish

Context works the same way. Feed it consistently, and it compounds.

## Workflow Over Intelligence

The best AI products don't sell intelligence. They sell outcomes.

[Cursor](https://cursor.com/) sells faster coding. [Perplexity](https://perplexity.ai/) sells better answers. Legal AI tools sell faster research. Users rarely care about which model is running under the hood. They care about the result.

I learned this the hard way with my own projects. When I was [vibe coding](/blog/vibe-coding) and building tools like [Bordful](https://bordful.com/) and Draftpen, the breakthroughs never came from switching to a better model.

They came from designing a better workflow, clearer prompts, structured files, smarter iteration loops.

Design the workflow first. Add AI second.

## AI-Native Companies

Something bigger is starting to happen. We're seeing the emergence of [AI-native companies](https://every.to/guides/agent-native), businesses designed from the beginning to run with automation, agents, and minimal staff.

In the past, scaling meant hiring more people. More writers, more analysts, more operators. Now a small team, sometimes even a single founder, can run what used to require an entire company. AI research, content production, distribution, analytics monitoring.

I wrote about this shift in my [2025 life lessons](/blog/life-lessons-2025): **"You must understand 100% of your business to get the full advantage and be able to move fast. If you can control it from bottom to top, you can't be stopped."**

That's the promise of AI-native. Full-stack understanding, full-stack leverage.

_"General ambition will give you anxiety. Specific ambition will give you direction."_ — Anu

## Where I'm Focused

Looking at the stack, the strategic choice becomes obvious for me.

I'm not interested in building models. I'm not interested in running GPU clusters. I'm interested in **applications**, turning intelligence into outcomes.

At [Craftled](https://craftled.com/), that means systems that combine AI reasoning, structured workflows, and real distribution. Media systems, automation tools, agents that monitor operations and surface opportunities.

The models will keep improving. That's not my job.

My job is designing the systems around them, and making sure I have the distribution to reach people who need them.

## We're Still Early

Despite all the hype, we're still early. Hundreds of billions have already been invested in AI infrastructure, and trillions will likely follow. New chip factories, new data centers, new models.

But the application layer is still wide open. Most industries have barely started integrating AI into real workflows.

[Paul Copplestone](https://www.linkedin.com/in/paulcopplestone/) at [Supabase](https://supabase.com/) shared data showing a hockey-stick growth in weekly sign-ups driven by AI coding tools. [Jan Curn](https://www.linkedin.com/in/jancurn/) at [Apify](https://apify.com/) reported similar organic traffic explosions.

The market for builders is expanding fast. The opportunity isn't building the next model. It's building companies that run on intelligence by default, not as a feature, but as the operating system.

_"You waste years by not being able to waste hours."_ — Amos Tversky

Start building. The infrastructure is ready. The leverage is there. Now it's about [what you do with it](/blog/you-already-know-what-to-do).]]></content:encoded>
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            <title><![CDATA[Life Lessons I Learned in 2025]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Fri, 02 Jan 2026 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[A year of extremes at 33: welcoming our puppy Pixel, Mediterranean adventures, getting comfortable with AI coding, and losing my dad unexpectedly.]]></description>
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I'm writing this from Alicante, Spain, still processing the year that was.

I just turned 34, and as every year, I'm now reflecting on the highlights, challenges, favorite purchases, and impactful books of 2025.

This year was a year of extremes. Incredible joy and devastating loss. New beginnings and final goodbyes. I became an uncle and lost my father.

Here's my annual review of 2025.

## The Year in Review

Started the year in Chiang Mai, visited Bangkok, enjoyed some massages and unlimited pad Thai. I can eat it all day.

January 11, we drove to Valencia to pick up our baby puppy Pixel, an Italian greyhound that brought a lot of joy to our home.

January 27-31, Marrakesh for saas.grouping. Lots of fun, workshops, activities, amazing food, and getting to know people I work with every day better. Coming from the padel court, I tried tennis and got absolutely demolished by Rewardful CEO Emmet. Lots of fun, and for the first time I tried a golf driving range and want to play golf sometime soon.

Did my first hiring interviews at Rewardful. Fotini excelled and became our partnerships and social media manager at Rewardful.

April 28-May 2, stayed in Mallorca, coworking, chatting, and doing some local sightseeing with Justas.

May 13-20, a Mediterranean cruise celebrating my mom's 50th and Isabella's mom's 60th birthdays: Barcelona - Tunis - Palermo - Naples - Livorno - Marseille - Barcelona.

Chatted quite regularly with my closest friends.

July: road trip for Isabella's birthday with her friends and Pixel. Granada, Cadiz, Sevilla, Cordoba. Isabella got her Spanish citizenship!

Bought a scooter, so much fun. It unlocks a new dimension and you see the world differently: more exciting, so much faster to move in the city, easy parking, and also lots of fun.

Early September, Lithuania - caught up with friends Kamile, Martynas, Justas, Egle, and Rokas, celebrated my mom's birthday, visited my dad for the last time.

September 12-14, did the first edition of a micro conference/retreat, grilled steaks, played poker with cigars, made homemade pizza, walked, chilled in the pool, and talked business, vibe coding, and making a living as online builders and makers. Ash, Edgaras, Janis.

End of September, moved to San Juan Beach, a much nicer area and a bigger apartment in a calm private neighborhood two minutes from the beach. Way more expensive, but I instantly felt a quality-of-life improvement.

End of November, visited Paris, sightseeing, eating good food, and entering the Louvre. Paris, even on cold and rainy days, still has its charm and is one of my favorite cities to visit. Unfortunately, my dad died when I was in Paris, so the stay wasn't as delightful.

In December, I flew to Lithuania for my dad's funeral. It was the most life-shattering moment and huge wake-up call to live. I wrote about the in-the-moment feelings and observations of losing a parent in detail here: [In memoriam](https://viciousnotes.com/p/in-memoriam).

Drove to Calella for Christmas to stay with Isabella's cousins and aunts.

I'm very fortunate to be in excellent health, have a loving and supportive wife who's also my business partner, have curious and successful friends, live on a beach with lots of activities and a nearly perfect daily lifestyle. The death of my father, while devastating, reminds me to live today, to remember that tomorrow is not promised, and all we've got is this moment.

![Welcoming Pixel](/images/welcoming-pixel.jpg)
Welcoming Pixel.

![Life in Alicante](/images/alicante-2025.jpg)
Life in Alicante.

![Golfing in Marrakesh](/images/golfing-marrakesh-2025.jpg)
Golfing in Marrakesh.

![Hiking](/images/hiking-2025.jpg)
Hiking.

![Work and fun](/images/work-fun-2025.jpg)
Work and fun.

![Cruise](/images/cruise-2025.jpg)
Cruise.

![Cruise activities](/images/cruise-activities-2025.jpg)
Cruise activities.

![Cruise fun](/images/cruise-fun-2025.jpg)
Cruise fun.

![Daily life](/images/daily-life-2025.jpg)
Daily life.

![Lithuania](/images/lithuania-2025.jpg)
Lithuania.

![Long walks with Pixel](/images/long-walks-with-pixel.jpg)
Long walks with Pixel.

![Mallorca, Spain](/images/mallorca-spain-2025.jpg)
Mallorca, Spain.

![Micro retreat with the boys](/images/micro-retreat-with-the-boys.jpg)
Micro retreat with the boys.

![Move to San Juan Beach](/images/moved-to-san-juan-beach-alicante.jpg)
Moved to San Juan Beach.

![Palermo, Italy](/images/palermo-italy-2025.jpg)
Palermo, Italy.

![Paris, France](/images/paris-2025.jpg)
Paris, France.

![Pisa, Marseille, Palermo](/images/pisa-marseille-palermo-2025.jpg)
Sightseeing in Pisa, Marseille, Palermo.

![Pixel in 2025](/images/pixel-2025.jpg)
Pixel in 2025.

![Spain road trip](/images/spain-roadtrip-2025.jpg)
Spain road trip: Granada, Cadiz, Sevilla, Cordoba.

![Staying active in 2025](/images/staying-active-2025.jpg)
Staying active in 2025.

![Team Rewardful at saas.grouping 2025 in Marrakesh, Morocco](/images/team-rewardful-saasgrouping-marrakesh-2025.jpg)
Team Rewardful at saas.grouping 2025 in Marrakesh, Morocco.

## Highlights

Here are the highlights of 2025:

- My brother became a baby girl dad. So happy for him and excited to meet the new parents next year.
- New family addition - our Italian greyhound Pixel, who brings enormous joy to my life every day.
- I loved visiting Mallorca, Sevilla, Palermo, Naples, Granada, Vilnius, and Paris.
- Did a cruise for my mom's and my wife's mom's birthdays. Seven-day Mediterranean cruise: Barcelona - Tunis - Palermo - Naples - Livorno - Marseille - Barcelona.
- Road trip Alicante - Granada - Cadiz - Sevilla - Cordoba - Alicante for Isabella's birthday.
- Isabella got her Spanish citizenship!
- Did a quick workation with my best friend Justas in Mallorca - deep life topics, business, sightseeing, and eating!
- Did a 3-day retreat with Ash, Edgaras, and Janis - absolutely amazing, and it was therapeutic to spend some time with fellow builders.
- Flew to Lithuania for my mom's 50th birthday, celebrating with family and close friends.
- Moved to San Juan Beach - a quality-of-life upgrade, living two minutes from the beach.
- Bought a scooter - it unlocks a new dimension of freedom in the city.

## Challenges

My dad unexpectedly and tragically died. I wrote a [long-form piece from the trenches](https://viciousnotes.com/p/in-memoriam). It's the most alive I ever felt. Death is no joke and it's coming for you.

Fixed and messed up my right shoulder again. This time, unfortunately, I slipped on ice and fell while in Lithuania. It will take some time to recover, the last time took 6 months.

Visited and saw my dad alive for the last time in my life during my September Lithuania trip. I didn't know it would be the last time.

## Achievements

Biggest achievement: getting fully comfortable with coding. I wouldn't be able to do it without AI coding tools, though. Jumped here and there and spent thousands on these tools

Tried Windsurf, Augment Code, Amp Code, Factory Droids, Cursor, Antigravity, Claude Code, Lovable, Replit, Bolt, Codex. Now sticking to VS Code + GitHub Copilot + Codex.

Due to heavy web development work, I invested in a 16-inch MacBook Pro (M4, 48 GB RAM) - absolute beast.

As in recent years, I spent mostly on convenience, travel, and food. Loving my lifestyle.

Reactivated dollar-cost averaging and investing in world indices, BTC, and ETH.

## Life Lessons of 2025

Here's what I learned in this year of extremes:

**Be mindful that everything around you is someone's life work.** True excellence is always recognized and respected. It can't be faked. You have to do it for the sake of the craft.

**Make reading your default activity.** Learning and exposing yourself to condensed valuable information will enrich you more than anything else. Even if you don't fully understand what you're reading, over time you will. Reading has a higher ROI per minute than any other activity, and it compounds fast.

**Start at the end.** I realized that working backwards will show all the gaps you couldn't even think about in the initial planning phase. Writing a book? Start from the cover and Amazon listing page. Starting a software product? Start from the most valuable user flow and get to value fast.

**Only focus on the next stepping stone in front of you.** Reading "Why Greatness Cannot Be Planned": the authors talk a lot about serendipity and stepping stones that may give us some hints and insights. [Just follow the breadcrumbs](https://tomaslau.com/blog/breadcrumbs) and find the next stepping stones. How? Follow curiosity and interestingness.

**Move faster. Action produces feedback.** So if we know we need to find stepping stones and test ASAP if they lead to dead ends and turn back ASAP when choices and branches appear, moving fast is the way to go!

**Don't get too concerned with small daily problems that have no significance in the long term.** Make a firm decision, acknowledge your disturbing emotions and move on. Whenever I find myself overthinking life choices, I listen to or read about history and founders, and it always helps me put things into perspective and be more long-term oriented.

**Move in silence.** Gather information, make alliances, do your homework and when the time comes, take massive action. It may take a while, but the opportunity will come and all the difference will be in preparation.

**All is noise. Build a real product.** It will be so much easier to sell.

**There's a different type of tired from joyful exercise like basketball or padel.** It's the kind of tired where no matter if you win or lose, you feel accomplished because you gave it all, you were in the arena, and all that mattered was being on the court and playing possession after possession.

**Routines might be overrated.** You live only once. You can choose to live abundantly. Lower expectations, be curious, get lost. Savour life.

**You already have the tools you need.** You already know what you need to do. No more excuses, just do it.

**No one is watching.** You are not famous and probably won't be, so do it for the craft. Do it for the joy of doing it. I discovered a golf driving range while in Marrakesh this year and loved it. A couple of Aperol Spritzes, a bunch of goofy coworkers, and I had a blast.

**Most people are good people.** I got to meet people from many countries, and I traveled to 50+ countries, hundreds of cities, and I can tell you that it's not a specific place - just a small percentage of humans are idiots no matter the place. Most people are good people. But there is a very small percentage of people who can ruin your life, you must actively monitor your environment and cut them out instantly.

**Building a personal brand may be overrated.** Signal > noise. If you build a persona and business dependent on being active and feeding the algorithm daily, what happens if you don't want to show your face anymore, the algorithm changes, or you want to sell? Build an interest-based brand instead. Go into niches and play games you can win.

**Always invest in the latest technology.** Embrace tools, workflows, new ways of thinking, or you will get stuck with square wheels when people are driving race cars and crossing oceans in airplanes. It may not always work, but when it does, you will get the 100x return and decades of edge over your competition.

**Speed and decisiveness are some of the highest leverage skills.** Move fast, gather feedback, trust your gut.

**You have zero excuses left not to live your best life.** Now with AI you're a few questions away from getting what you want. If you get stuck and are willing to keep asking questions, you will get what you want.

**You must understand 100% of your business to get the full advantage and be able to move fast.** If you can control it from bottom to top, you can't be stopped.

**It will take time.** You may want to make excuses and sugarcoat it when talking to people, but the only way to win is to play long-term.

## Favorite Books of 2025

- **Why Greatness Cannot Be Planned: The Myth of the Objective** by Kenneth O. Stanley
- **Alchemy: The Surprising Power of Ideas That Don't Make Sense** by Rory Sutherland
- **Thinking in Systems: A Primer** by Donella H. Meadows
- **Blue Ocean Strategy: How to Create Uncontested Market Space and Make the Competition Irrelevant** by W. Chan Kim & Renée Mauborgne
- **Obviously Awesome: How to Nail Product Positioning so Customers Get It, Buy It, Love It** by April Dunford
- **The Beginning of Infinity: Explanations That Transform the World** by David Deutsch

## Favorite Movies & TV Shows of 2025

**Movies:**

- F1
- Frankenstein
- Mission: Impossible – The Final Reckoning
- Avatar 3
- One Battle After Another
- Bugonia
- Wake Up Dead Man: A Knives Out Mystery

**TV Shows:**

- Silo
- Ted Lasso
- Your Friends & Neighbors
- Severance
- From

## Favorite Software & Tools of 2025

- AI SDK
- Mastra
- Neon DB
- Vercel
- Next.js
- Resend
- Claude Opus 4.5
- ChatGPT
- Typefully
- HTTPie
- Figma
- Granola
- Descript
- CleanShot X
- Screen Studio
- Cloudflare
- Visual Studio Code
- Cursor

It's quite therapeutic to reflect and review everything that happened in one year. This was a year that taught me the most important lesson of all: life is finite. My dad's death was a brutal reminder that we don't get unlimited time.

Thank you for reading. Hug your parents.

Here's to happy and healthy 2026!

If you are interested in my previous annual reviews, check my life lessons of [2013](/blog/life-lessons-2013), [2014](/blog/life-lessons-2014), [2015](/blog/life-lessons-2015), [2016](/blog/life-lessons-2016), [2017](/blog/life-lessons-2017), [2018](/blog/life-lessons-2018), [2019](/blog/life-lessons-2019), [2020](/blog/life-lessons-2020), [2023](/blog/life-lessons-2023), and [2024](/blog/life-lessons-2024).
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            <title><![CDATA[If by Rudyard Kipling]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Sun, 28 Dec 2025 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[Be humble. Do great things. Conquer. Improve. Build. Inspire. Stay humble.]]></description>
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If you can keep your head when all about you  
    Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,  
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,  
    But make allowance for their doubting too;  
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,  
    Or being lied about, don't deal in lies,  
Or being hated, don't give way to hating,  
    And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise:  

If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;  
    If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim;  
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster  
    And treat those two impostors just the same;  
If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken  
    Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,  
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,  
    And stoop and build 'em up with worn-out tools:  

If you can make one heap of all your winnings  
    And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,  
And lose, and start again at your beginnings  
    And never breathe a word about your loss;  
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew  
    To serve your turn long after they are gone,  
And so hold on when there is nothing in you  
    Except the Will which says to them: 'Hold on!'  

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,  
    Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,  
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,  
    If all men count with you, but none too much;  
If you can fill the unforgiving minute  
    With sixty seconds' worth of distance run,  
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,  
    And—which is more—you'll be a Man, my son!  

Source: A Choice of Kipling's Verse (1943)
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            <title><![CDATA[Quotes]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Sun, 28 Dec 2025 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[Collecting wisdom.]]></description>
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"Slow is steady. Steady is smooth. Smooth is fast. Fast is deadly." – Laurell K. Hamilton

“Every time you're given a choice between disappointing someone else and disappointing yourself, your duty is to disappoint that someone else. Your job throughout your entire life, is to disappoint as many people as it takes to avoid disappointing yourself.” – Glennon Doyle

“There are no solutions. There are only trade-offs.” – Thomas Sowell

“Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.” – John Lennon

“Whether you think you can, or you think you can't - you're right.” – Henry Ford

“All I want to know is where I’m going to die so I’ll never go there.” — Charles T. Munger

“All that matters is to survive. The rest is just words.” — Charles de Gaulle

“Play long-term games with long-term people. All returns in life, whether in wealth, relationships, or knowledge, come from compound interest.” — Naval Ravikant

“To love someone is firstly to confess: I’m prepared to be devastated by you.” – Billy-Ray Belcourt

"A crooked tree lives its own life, but a straight tree is turned into wood." – Chinese Proverb

“The knowledge we get by tinkering, via trial and error, experience, and the workings of time, in other words, contact with the earth, is vastly superior to that obtained through reasoning, something self-serving institutions have been very busy hiding from us.” – Nassim Nicholas Taleb

"I don't have talent, so I just get up earlier." - Henry Rollins

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            <title><![CDATA[Creative and Disorganized Productivity for Inevitable Success]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Sun, 06 Jul 2025 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
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You probably didn't expect disorganized and productive to be in the same sentence, but here it is.

Most great work is a scribble that only looks like a straight line in hindsight.

- Richard Feynman painted, [cracked safes](https://www.openculture.com/2013/04/learn_how_richard_feynman_cracked_the_safes_with_atomic_secrets_at_los_alamos.html) and rewrote quantum mechanics.
- Christopher Nolan kept the idea for _Inception_ in a notebook for [close to ten years before filming](https://gointothestory.blcklst.com/written-interview-christopher-nolan-b2b364b60f).
- James Cameron wrote an _Avatar_ treatment in 1994 and waited fifteen years [until the tech caught up](https://screenrant.com/avatar-movie-development-long-reason/).
- James Dyson [built 5,127 failed vacuums](https://www.jamesdysonfoundation.co.uk/who-we-are/our-story/) before one finally worked.
- Steve Jobs told graduates that you can only [connect the dots looking backward](https://news.stanford.edu/stories/2005/06/youve-got-find-love-jobs-says), so you have to trust the path while it is still messy.

Their stories prove that progress can be creative, unconstrained and apparently disorganized yet still lead to long-term victory.

## Own your weird way of learning

Feynman said you have no responsibility to live up to what other people think you ought to accomplish. It is their mistake, not your failing.

He learned physics while beating bongos and sketching in bars. The method looked undisciplined, yet the knowledge stuck.

## Trust that the dots will connect

Jobs urged students to trust in something because believing the dots will connect later gives you the confidence to follow your heart now.

Nolan did exactly that. He worked on _Inception_ off and on for nearly a decade until he felt ready to film a dream-heist on a blockbuster scale.

Cameron finished the _Avatar_ script then shelved it until performance capture and CGI could build Pandora.

Each kept moving forward in small bursts, letting time do some of the heavy lifting.

## Work with your own rhythm

I build online products the same way.

One day I tweak a design, another day I write copy, another I revise onboarding. When I feel friction, I switch tracks instead of forcing output on demand. The shuffle keeps me productive, gives me fresh insights and prevents burnout.

Dyson’s five-year slog through thousands of prototypes shows why this matters. Every failed cyclone taught him something that a tidy plan would have missed.

**Keep a single guiding goal**. Write one clear sentence that defines victory. It keeps random tasks aligned.

**Rotate tasks when resistance hits**. Stuck with design? Write. Writer's block? Code. Coding problem? Sketch. Motion beats stagnation.

**Store every fragment**. A central vault for half ideas lets today’s scrap solve tomorrow’s block.

**Ship small visible pieces**. Post a Loom demo or tweet a screenshot. Public checkpoints turn chaos into feedback loops.

Design in the morning, outline at lunch, polish copy at midnight.

It may look disorganized, yet the output graph keeps rising. Trust the scribbles. They have led Nobel laureates, billion-dollar directors and vacuum-cleaner inventors to the finish line. They will work for you too.

So you do you! Have fun.
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            <title><![CDATA[You Already Know What to Do]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Sun, 06 Jul 2025 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[You already know what to do, you just need to do it. Trust your instincts.]]></description>
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Most of us don’t need another how-to thread. We need to **do the thing we’ve rehearsed in our heads for eighteen months**.

Deep down, you already know the next step. Yet you stall, calling it _research_, _planning week_, or _one more course_. Underneath sit two silent fears:

1. **Fear of failure** – the ego hit if the launch flops.
2. **Fear of success** – the new expectations if it doesn’t.

So you buy another book, open another Notion doc, and stay perfectly safe by never shipping.

## The Missing Variable: Leverage

```
Output = Effort × Leverage
```

- **Effort** is capped at 24 h per day.
- **Raw intelligence** is capped by genetics.
- **Leverage** scales both.

If you are grinding twelve hours and still crawling, the constraint is not hustle, it is leverage:

| Leverage Type     | Multiplier         | Example (one-liner)                     |
| ----------------- | ------------------ | --------------------------------------- |
| **Code + Media**  | Infinite repeats   | Ship once, serve millions, online tools |
| **Capital**       | Money hiring money | Ad arbitrage, equity stakes             |
| **People**        | Other brains       | Delegated ops, agency model             |
| **Network/Brand** | Trust on tap       | “Published in Forbes” opens cold doors  |

Work on the part that keeps compounding while you sleep.

## Mine Your Existing Assets

Forget the blank slate, **reuse what is already on your hard drive**.

| Asset                 | Hidden Leverage   | Quick Move                                          |
| --------------------- | ----------------- | --------------------------------------------------- |
| Archive blog posts    | Authority and SEO | Bundle into a free e-book to capture emails         |
| Dormant newsletter    | Distribution      | Relaunch with a five-email “build in public” series |
| Old consulting slides | Product seed      | Convert into a 49-euro micro-course                 |
| Past podcast guests   | Network           | Ask each for a tweet at launch                      |

Every new project starts with one question: **Which asset makes this unfairly easy?**

## A Micro-Playbook to Get Moving

1. **One-page spec.** Force clarity, scope creep hates paper.
2. **Single leverage hook.** Audience, tiny script, friend’s Rolodex, pick one.
3. **Ship V0 in 48 hours.** Ugly beats imaginary, feedback is leverage you cannot buy.
4. **Iterate where upside compounds.** Add only what widens leverage, not what soothes perfectionism.

> Take a simple idea and take it seriously. – **Charles Munger**

You already know the simple idea: build, publish, learn. The serious part is rigging the game so each hour pushes on a bigger lever. Do that, and fear, whether of failure or success, gets crowded out by basic arithmetic. Now close this tab and go pull a lever.
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            <title><![CDATA[4 Quick Ways to Host an MCP Server in 2025]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Tue, 10 Jun 2025 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[LLM agents need an MCP endpoint, not a Swagger file. Below are four fast ways to wrap your API in MCP and put it online.]]></description>
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LLM agents need an MCP endpoint, not a Swagger file. Below are four fast ways to wrap your API in MCP and put it online.

## Quick Comparison

| #   | Platform                 | Time to live                   | Starting price                                              | Good when…                                    |
| --- | ------------------------ | ------------------------------ | ----------------------------------------------------------- | --------------------------------------------- |
| 1   | **Cloudflare Workers**   | Under 2 min (one click deploy) | Free up to 100 k requests/day. Paid plan $5/mo.             | You want a low-cost global edge.              |
| 2   | **Make.com**             | 3–5 min, no code               | Free 1 k ops/mo. Core $9/mo.                                | Teams that already build flows in Make.       |
| 3   | **Azure API Management** | 10–15 min                      | Basic v2 $150/mo, Standard v2 $700/mo, Premium v2 $2 801/mo | You use APIM and need VNet or policy support. |
| 4   | **Kong Konnect**         | 15–20 min                      | OSS gateway free. Konnect SaaS: ask sales.                  | You run Kong and want MCP as a plug-in.       |

Pricing sourced in June 2025.

## 1. Cloudflare Workers

- **Deploy:** Click **“Deploy to Workers.”** The template spins up a remote MCP server.
- **Free quota:** 100 k requests each day.
- **Paid plan:** $5 a month plus usage.
- **Why pick it:** Runs at the edge. Cold starts are rare.

[Cloudflare guide](https://developers.cloudflare.com/agents/guides/remote-mcp-server/) / [Pricing](https://developers.cloudflare.com/workers/platform/pricing/)

## 2. Make.com

- **Deploy:** Open any Scenario, switch it to **On Demand**, and Make hosts the MCP server for you.
- **Free quota:** 1 000 operations a month.
- **Paid plans:** Start at $9 a month for 10 000 ops.
- **Why pick it:** Works without code. Good for non-developers.

[Make developer hub](https://developers.make.com/mcp-server) / [Pricing](https://www.make.com/en/pricing)

## 3. Azure API Management

- **Deploy:** In the portal choose **APIs → MCP Servers → Create.**
- **Pricing:** MCP is only on v2 SKUs. Basic $150, Standard $700, Premium $2 801 per month.
- **Why pick it:** Keeps all APIM features—policies, VNet, analytics.

[How-to](https://learn.microsoft.com/azure/api-management/export-rest-mcp-server) • [pricing](https://azure.microsoft.com/pricing/details/api-management/)

## 4. Kong Konnect

- **Deploy:** Enable the MCP plug-in in Konnect or in a self-hosted Gateway 3.10+.
- **Pricing:** Open-source gateway is free. SaaS plans are quote-based.
- **Why pick it:** Fits teams that already route traffic through Kong.

[Launch post](https://konghq.com/blog/product-releases/mcp-server)

## Which One Should You Use?

| Need                                | Pick                   |
| ----------------------------------- | ---------------------- |
| The fastest public endpoint         | **Cloudflare Workers** |
| A no-code option                    | **Make.com**           |
| Enterprise network controls         | **Azure APIM**         |
| A plug-in for an existing Kong mesh | **Kong Konnect**       |

**Bottom line:** You can turn an API into an MCP server in minutes. Choose the tool that matches your stack and budget.
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            <title><![CDATA[How to Delete ChatGPT History]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Sat, 31 May 2025 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[Learn how to delete your ChatGPT history. Complete guide updated for 2025.]]></description>
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If you use [ChatGPT](https://chat.openai.com/) regularly, you might want to clear your chat history for privacy or simply to keep things tidy.

Whether you’re on desktop or mobile, deleting your ChatGPT conversations is quick and easy.

Here’s a complete guide to help you manage your ChatGPT history and memory.

## Why Delete Your ChatGPT History?

There are several reasons you might want to [delete your ChatGPT history](https://help.openai.com/en/articles/7730893-how-can-i-delete-my-chat-history):

- **Privacy:** Remove sensitive or personal information from your account.
- **Organization:** Keep your chat sidebar uncluttered.
- **Fresh Start:** Start new conversations without previous context.

## Deleting Individual Conversations

### On Desktop

1. Open [ChatGPT on your browser](https://chat.openai.com/).
2. In the sidebar, hover over the conversation you want to delete.
3. Click the three dots (⋯) next to the chat title.
4. Select **Delete** from the menu.

### On Mobile (Android/iOS)

1. Launch the [ChatGPT app](https://apps.apple.com/us/app/chatgpt/id6448311069) (iOS) or [ChatGPT on Google Play](https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.openai.chatgpt) (Android).
2. Tap the menu icon (usually at the top left).
3. Find the chat in your history.
4. Long-press the conversation title.
5. Tap **Delete** in the pop-up menu to confirm.

## Deleting All ChatGPT History

![How to delete ChatGPT history](/images/how-to-delete-chatgpt-history.jpg)

### On Desktop

1. Click your profile icon in the upper-right corner.
2. Select **Settings** from the drop-down menu.
3. Under the "General" section, find **Delete all chats** and click it.
4. Confirm the deletion when prompted.

### On Mobile

1. Open the ChatGPT app and log in.
2. Tap the menu icon (top left).
3. Tap your profile name or icon at the bottom.
4. Go to **Data Controls**.
5. Tap **Clear Chat History** and confirm.

For more details, visit [OpenAI’s official help article](https://help.openai.com/en/articles/7730893-how-can-i-delete-my-chat-history).

## Deleting ChatGPT Memory (If Using the Memory Feature)

If you use ChatGPT’s [Memory](https://help.openai.com/en/articles/8399155-what-is-chatgpt-memory) feature for personalization, you can clear or manage what ChatGPT remembers about you:

1. Go to **Settings** > **Personalization** > **Manage Memory**.
2. Delete individual memories or clear all at once.

### Important Notes

- **Deleted chats are permanent:** Once you confirm deletion, your data is permanently removed from your account.
- **Processing time:** OpenAI states that deleted chats are removed from their systems within 30 days.
- **Archiving:** You can also archive chats if you want to hide them instead of deleting. [Learn more about archiving](https://help.openai.com/en/articles/7730893-how-can-i-delete-my-chat-history).

### Quick Reference Table

| Action                         | Desktop Steps                                        | Mobile Steps                                                  |
| ------------------------------ | ---------------------------------------------------- | ------------------------------------------------------------- |
| Delete individual conversation | Hover > ⋯ > Delete                                   | Long-press chat > Delete                                      |
| Delete all chat history        | Profile icon > Settings > Delete all chats > Confirm | Menu > Profile > Data Controls > Clear Chat History > Confirm |
| Delete/clear ChatGPT memory    | Settings > Personalization > Manage/Clear Memory     | Menu > Profile > Personalization > Manage/Clear Memory        |

## Final Thoughts

Managing your ChatGPT history is simple and helps you maintain control over your data.

For the latest updates or more detailed instructions, always check the [OpenAI Help Center](https://help.openai.com/).
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            <title><![CDATA[How to Turn Red Light on iPhone: A Detailed 1-Minute Tutorial]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Thu, 17 Apr 2025 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[Turning your iPhone screen red is a practical solution to reduce eye strain, improve sleep quality, and preserve night vision.]]></description>
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Inspired by [Rick Rubin and Andrew Huberman](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NKoGINUeh1g), I wanted to try turning my iPhone screen red.

This guide provides step-by-step instructions for enabling the red light feature, creating shortcuts for quick access, and automating its activation.

Additionally, it explains the benefits of using a red screen and addresses common questions about its use.

## Step-by-Step Guide to Turning Your iPhone Screen Red

### Method 1: Using Accessibility Settings

1. **Open Settings**:
    - Navigate to `Settings` > `Accessibility` > `Display & Text Size`.
2. **Enable Color Filters**:
    - Scroll down and tap `Color Filters`.
    - Toggle the switch to turn on Color Filters.
3. **Select Color Tint**:
    - Choose `Color Tint` from the options.
    - Adjust the sliders for **Intensity** and **Hue** all the way to the right to achieve a full red-screen effect.
4. **Save Your Settings**:
    - Once configured, your screen will display a red tint.

### Method 2: Creating a Shortcut

1. **Set Up Accessibility Shortcut**:
    - Go to `Settings` > `Accessibility` > `Accessibility Shortcut`.
    - Select `Color Filters`.
2. **Activate with Triple Click**:
    - You can now triple-click the side button (or home button on older devices) to toggle the red screen on or off instantly.

### Method 3: Automating Red Light Activation

1. **Open Shortcuts App**:
    - Launch the `Shortcuts` app on your iPhone.
2. **Create Personal Automation**:
    - Tap on the `Automation` tab and select `Create Personal Automation`.
3. **Choose Trigger**:
    - Set triggers like `Time of Day` (e.g., sunset) or `Sleep Mode` for automatic activation.
4. **Add Action**:
    - Search for "Set Color Filter" and select it.
    - Ensure it’s set to "On."
5. **Finalize Automation**:
    - Disable "Ask Before Running" and tap "Done" to complete setup.


## Why Enable Red Light on Your iPhone?

Using a red light display on your iPhone offers several advantages:

- **Reduced eye strain:** Red light minimizes visual fatigue by avoiding the harmful effects of short-wave blue light. Blue light's short wavelength causes its focus to fall in front of the retina rather than directly on it, leading to prolonged exposure that [worsens visual fatigue and nearsightedness](https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC6288536/).
- **Improved sleep quality:** Red light reduces blue light exposure, which disrupts melatonin production and negatively impacts sleep.
- **Preservation of night vision:** Red light helps your eyes adapt better in dark environments, making it ideal for nighttime activities.
- **Decreased headaches:** Switching to red light can alleviate headaches caused by bright screens.

## How to Turn Off Red Tint

If you wish to disable the red tint:

1. Return to `Settings` > `Accessibility` > `Display & Text Size`.
2. Toggle off `Color Filters`, or adjust the sliders back to default settings.
Alternatively, triple-click the side button if you've set up an Accessibility Shortcut.

## Common Questions

### Is red light on iPhone good?

Yes, it is beneficial for reducing eye strain, improving sleep quality, and preserving night vision in dark environments.

### How do I turn off red tint quickly?

Use the Accessibility Shortcut (triple-click the side button) or disable Color Filters in Accessibility settings.

### Can I automate red light activation?

Absolutely! Use the Shortcuts app to create automations based on time or sleep mode triggers for seamless activation.

That's it.

By following this guide, you can easily enable and customize the red light feature on your iPhone, ensuring better eye health and improved nighttime usability while mitigating the harmful effects of blue light exposure.
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            <title><![CDATA[Vibe Coding: Making Everyone a Software Creator]]></title>
            <link>https://tomaslau.com/blog/vibe-coding</link>
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            <pubDate>Mon, 07 Apr 2025 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[Vibe coding is a new approach using AI to generate code via natural language, making programming more accessible.]]></description>
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If you've been scrolling through X or keeping an eye on tech trends lately, you've probably seen the term "vibe coding" popping up.

It's buzzing everywhere, from indie hackers to AI enthusiasts and it's shaking up how we think about building software.

But what exactly is vibe coding?

Vibe coding, a term recently gaining traction in the tech community, represents a paradigm shift in software development and creating things like apps, websites and games with AI.

Instead of writing code line by line, you tell the AI what you need, and it generates the code for you.

This method, popularized by former founding member at OpenAI, AI expert [Andrej Karpathy](https://karpathy.ai/), shifts the focus from technical coding to expressing your intent, making it easier for people without deep programming knowledge to build software.

In his now-iconic [X post](https://x.com/karpathy/status/1886192184808149383), Karpathy described vibe coding as a process where you "prompt an AI with a few sentences, hit 'I Accept All,' and let it build something—without sweating the details."

![Andrej Karpathy's vibe coding definition X post](/images/andrej-karpathy-vibe-coding-definition-x-post.png)

The idea is simple: **"I don't read diffs anymore. I just vibe."**

It's about trusting the AI, focusing on vision, and letting the technicalities and syntax sort itself out.

For example, you might say, "Make this button look cooler," and the AI handles the coding.

Tools like [Replit's Agent](https://replit.com/refer/tomaslau), [Cursor's Composer](https://cursor.com/), or [Windsurf's Cascade](https://codeium.com/refer?referral_code=d886df4b0e) and a growing ecosystem of AI-powered development environments support this approach, allowing you to interact naturally with AI.

## Vibe Coding Impact

So why is vibe coding taking off?

It's democratizing software creation.

Just like Shopify did for ecommerce, WordPress did for blogging, and Figma did for design, vibe coding is doing for software development.

You don't need a computer science degree or years of experience to build an app anymore.

While there's a lot of pushback from traditional developers and enterprises, I see this as a goldmine for non-technical creators.

For indie hackers and solopreneurs, the risk is low. If the code's a mess, you can scrap it and start over.

Marketers like myself might use it for creating dynamic content, while designers could prototype UIs faster.

For entrepreneurs, it could speed up building MVPs without needing a full-time developer.

This is the age where the "idea guy" can effectively code now. That's transformative for solopreneurs, designers, and marketers with big ideas but limited coding knowledge.

However, there's debate: some worry it might reduce the need for traditional coding skills, potentially affecting code quality and security.

It's not fully magical yet.

![Vibe coding security threats](/images/vibe-coding-security-threats.jpg)

AI-coding tooling space is becoming a fierce battleground. Source: [r/ChatGPTCoding](https://www.reddit.com/r/ChatGPTCoding/comments/1jgmri6/the_ai_coding_war_is_getting_interesting/).

Accepting AI-written code without understanding can lead to quick prototype but not knowing how it works will lead to problems if you're building something complex and even grave consequences if you're building something mission-critical, exposing your user data, trade secrets, or API keys.

## Cultural Impact

Beyond technical use, vibe coding has become a meme, with discussions about coding with the "right vibe," like listening to lo-fi beats or just feeling the right vibe.

My favorite meme is the reference to the great Rick Rubin and his vibe and approach to music production.

![Rick Rubin vibe coding](/images/rick-rubin-vibe-coding.jpeg)

**YouTube:** [Rick Rubin Says He "Knows Nothing About Music" - But Here's Why Artists Pay Him](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h5EV-JCqAZc&ab_channel=HipHopDX)

This cultural aspect shows how it's not just a tool but also a lifestyle for some developers and creators.

This cultural impact is evident in discussions on platforms like [Reddit's r/ChatGPTCoding](https://www.reddit.com/r/ChatGPTCoding/), where users share experiences of using AI for coding, often humorously.

## How It Works

The process involves several steps:

1. **Natural Language Input**: You describe your needs, such as "create a simple portfolio website" or "decrease the padding on the sidebar by half."
2. **AI Processing**: LLMs interpret these instructions, leveraging advanced AI capabilities (Anthropic's Sonnet 3.5 and newer Sonnet 3.7 models are the best for this).
3. **Code Generation**: The AI produces the code, often in real-time, using tools like Replit's Ghostwriter or Cursor's Agent (formerly known as Composer).
4. **Refinement**: You can refine outputs by providing further instructions or corrections, often accepting changes without reviewing diffs.

This method contrasts with traditional coding, where you write and debug code manually, requiring deep technical knowledge.

Vibe coding, instead, focuses on the "what" rather than the "how."

## Impact Across Industries

Vibe coding is making it easier for people in many different industries to code.

- For marketers, it could streamline tasks like customer segmentation and A/B testing.
- Designers might prototype user interfaces faster (some people are connecting AI to their Figma), reducing dependency on developers.
- Entrepreneurs could rapidly build and iterate on minimum viable products (MVPs) without hiring professional developers.

Real-world examples are emerging.

My colleague at [saas.group](https://saas.group/), [Jakub Szyszka](https://www.linkedin.com/in/jakub-szyszka-592312b9/), built a [CRM Matchmaker app](https://crmmatchmaker.ai/) to help people find the best CRM solution for any business.

![CRM Matchmaker by Jakub Szyszka](/images/crm-matchmaker-by-jakub-szyszka.png)

I've built a simple visual asset creator [Draftpen](https://draftpen.com/) to help me create social media posts.

![Draftpen](/images/vibe-coding-draftpen.jpg)

Also have been working on an open-source job board software [Bordful](https://bordful.com/).

![Bordful](/images/bordful-open-source-job-board-software.jpg)

I even was naive enough to try and build an open source local-first AI agent framework using Python called [Pynions](https://github.com/tomaslau/pynions).

![Pynions](/images/vibe-coding-ai-framework-pynions.jpg)

### Can You Actually Make Money Vibe Coding?

Pieter Levels, probably the most famous indie hacker today, [built a flight simulator game vibe coding](https://x.com/levelsio/status/1899596115210891751) and made $87,000+ in a month.

![Pieter Levels flight simulator game](/images/levels-fly-vibe-game.jpg)

![Pieter Levels flight simulator game](/images/fly.pieter.com-making-87k-in-a-month.png)

However, there are concerns and risks.

For more complex projects, vibe coding might oversimplify things, risking code quality and security.

It might also erode our overall understanding of core principles.

Experts caution that maintaining rigorous code review processes and foundational programming knowledge is essential to mitigate these risks.

For these reasons, I think bigger companies will be slower to adopt vibe coding.

## Personal Perspective and Future Outlook
As a self-taught marketer, designer, and writer I've been always curious about how to build things faster.

While I learned the programming basics at Business Academy Aarhus in 2012, I've never been a fan of writing code or had the patience to debug things sometimes taking weeks.

The feedback in programming was just too slow to keep me motivated. If you get stuck, previously you would spend hours trying to debug the issue, Google the problem, read Stack Overflow posts, ask in forums, and then if you're lucky someone would help you out.

Now, with vibe coding, you can describe what you want, and the AI will generate the code for you. If you want to learn and understand the code, you can always ask the AI to explain it. It can become a very stimulating way to learn programming.

I've experienced firsthand how vibe coding aligns with my journey of learning programming to build things faster.

Since 2023, I've experimented with [Cursor](https://cursor.com/) and Replit, and many more tools like v0, Lovable, Bolt and Windsurf have emerged.

Start small, just pick one of the AI coding tools, describe your project, and see what happens.

Worst case?

You learn what not to do. Best case? You've got a working product prototype by dinner.

But I also see vibe coding as a tool, not a lifestyle.

It's perfect for prototyping, brainstorming, or launching an MVP fast. But if you're building something complex or user-facing, you'd better understand what's under the hood—or have someone who does.

Andrej Karpathy's "I Accept All" approach is fun, but it's not gospel for every situation. Vibe coding is fun, vibe debugging is not.

Tech is moving fast, and as AI tools continue to evolve, vibe coding could become the preferred method for many to bring their ideas to life.

For me, vibe coding feels like the next evolution of no-code platforms, think [Bubble](https://bubble.io/) or [Webflow](https://webflow.com/), but with AI superpowers.

It's not replacing developers; it's empowering the rest of us to ship faster.

The need for professional developers will always be there—someone needs to clean up your spaghetti code—but vibe coding is a new way to code that can be a game changer for many and help you validate your ideas faster instead of regretting what could have been.

## Vibe Coding vs. Traditional Coding

To illustrate the differences, here's how vibe coding compares to traditional coding:

**Vibe Coding:**
- **Input Method:** Natural language, voice commands
- **Skill Requirement:** Lower, accessible to non-coders 
- **Speed:** Faster, AI handles generation
- **Code Quality Control:** Relies on AI, potential for errors
- **Accessibility:** Broad, inclusive

**Traditional Coding:**
- **Input Method:** Manual code writing
- **Skill Requirement:** High, requires programming knowledge
- **Speed:** Slower, manual debugging required 
- **Code Quality Control:** Developer-driven, more control
- **Accessibility:** Limited to trained developers

## Best AI Software Development Agents

The rise of vibe coding has been facilitated by the emergence of specialized AI software development agents.

Unlike general-purpose AI chatbots or code completion tools, these agents are designed to automate significant portions of the software development lifecycle traditionally performed by human developers.

These autonomous agents accept natural language inputs and produce executable software as output, handling tasks including planning, designing, writing code, debugging, testing, and sometimes even deployment.

Tools like [Devin](https://devin.ai/), described as an "autonomous AI software engineer," demonstrate how these systems can handle complete development tasks with minimal human intervention.

Here's an incomplete [vibe coding Ecosystem Matrix](https://v0-react-graph-design.vercel.app/)
Platforms categorized by technical expertise required and functionality

![Vibe coding ecosystem matrix](/images/vibe-coding-ecosystem-matrix.png)

Some notable examples in this space include:

- **[Cursor](https://cursor.com/)**: A full-stack browser-based IDE with conversational AI coding capabilities
- **[Windsurf](https://codeium.com/refer?referral_code=d886df4b0e)**: An AI-powered development environment that allows you to code with natural language
- **[Devin AI](https://devin.ai/)**: An autonomous AI software engineer that can handle complete development tasks with minimal human intervention
- **[Bolt](https://bolt.new/)**: A full-stack browser-based IDE with conversational AI coding capabilities
- **[Replit (Agent)](https://replit.com/)**: An online IDE featuring a conversational AI agent to assist with development
- **[v0](https://v0.dev/)**: An AI-driven frontend UI builder specializing in React and Next.js components
- **[Lovable](https://lovable.dev/)**: A conversational AI platform for quickly building full-stack web apps
- **[Co.dev](https://co.dev/)**: Specializes in AI-generated Next.js & Supabase apps from text prompts
- **[Devv](https://devv.ai/)**: Generate Production-Ready APIs in Seconds. No Code. No Hassle.
Devv transforms your prompts into secure, auto-scaling backends.
- **[Rork](https://rork.app/)**: Build any mobile app, fast.
Rork builds complete, cross-platform mobile apps using AI and React Native.
- **[BASE44](https://base44.com/)**: The all-in-one app building platform. No integrations needed

These tools represent a spectrum of approaches, from fully autonomous development agents to more collaborative systems that enhance human developers' capabilities through natural language interaction.

What they share is a commitment to the vibe coding philosophy: prioritizing intent expression over manual coding and making software development more accessible to non-specialists.

These tools have varying pricing models from free open-source options to premium services, suggesting significant market interest and investment in the vibe coding paradigm. This technological infrastructure will likely be crucial in determining whether vibe coding becomes the dominant development approach in the coming years.

## What's Missing?

While being able to code now doesn't always mean you should.

It's a fun activity in itself to see what your prompts will produce, but to build something people want, use, and pay money for, you will need to have specific knowledge, experience, and understanding of the problems your audience has.

Good taste can't be taught, you either have it or you don't.

It reminds me of the famous [THE GAP](https://vimeo.com/85040589) video by Ira Glass.

You start something because you have good taste but your skills lack behind and you must work hard to close that gap. Vibe coding helps you get close to the gap but you still need to have a good taste for what's possible. Curiosity, patience and constant iteration is the key.

### Real Limitations from Non-Techie Perspective

I asked my colleague [Jakub Szyszka](https://www.linkedin.com/in/jakub-szyszka-592312b9/), Head of Marketing at [Juicer](https://juicer.io/), who has been vibe coding for three months as a non-technical person, about his experience with the reality of these tools:

> After three months as a non-techie vibe coder, I've learned that while powerful, these tools have clear boundaries. The main limitations are: 1) AI hallucinations as projects grow in complexity (making direct code edits often more reliable than chat-based changes), and 2) your own understanding of software fundamentals (I once naively pasted an API key into a chat until Bolt rightfully scolded me about security risks).
> 
> That said, tools like Lovable and Replit excel at guiding beginners through implementation decisions - suggesting database connections for user dashboards or email APIs for notifications.
> 
> As of April 2025, most building blocks already exist; the real limitation is your ability to reason through problems, debug efficiently, and connect the right solutions. The learning curve isn't about coding syntax but understanding the underlying principles of what you're trying to build.

This practical insight highlights an important reality: while vibe coding democratizes the ability to build software, it doesn't eliminate the need to understand basic principles of how software works.

The tools can write the code for you, but you still need to guide them effectively and understand enough about what you're building to make good decisions.

## Should You Try It?

Absolutely yes!

I'm a big believer in **FAFO (f–k around and find out)**, so go give it a try.

If you're a creator with limited coding experience but big ideas, vibe coding might be worth exploring.

Here's a simple approach to get started with vibe coding:

1. **Choose a simple project**: Start with something small and well-defined
2. **Select an accessible tool**: [Replit](https://replit.com/), [Lovable](https://lovable.dev/), [Bolt](https://bolt.new/), or [Cursor](https://cursor.com/) offer free tiers
3. **Be specific in your prompts**: Clear instructions yield better results
4. **Expect iterations**: First attempts may need refinement
5. **Learn from the output**: Take time to understand the generated code

The beauty of vibe coding is that you can start small and build something people want, use, and pay money for while asking questions when coding and essentially gving yourself an education in programming.

I can't imagine a more immersive way to learn technology and business.

For professionals in marketing, design, or content creation, vibe coding can help you prototype ideas and create functional demos without dependency on development teams.

For solo entrepreneurs, it can accelerate your path from idea to market-ready product.

However, for enterprise applications or projects with specific security requirements, a hybrid approach may be more appropriate—using vibe coding for prototyping while maintaining traditional development practices for production code.

## Market Expansion: Early Signs of a Developer Revolution

Beyond theoretical debates, we're already seeing evidence that vibe coding is creating a significant market expansion in the developer ecosystem.

I predict this trend will lead to millions of new developers entering the global economy—people who previously couldn't participate due to technical barriers.

The early signs of this transformation are visible in the data from developer tooling companies.

Paul Copplestone, CEO of [Supabase](https://supabase.com/), [recently shared compelling evidence of this shift](https://www.linkedin.com/posts/paulcopplestone_its-pretty-clear-at-this-point-that-ai-is-activity-7300046773895532544-MiGI/):

> It's pretty clear at this point that AI is enabling more builders. The market is rapidly expanding for all developer tools. We're seeing a lot of growth in Supabase driven by tools like: cursor; bolt; lovable; v0; codev; windsurf. Many low-code builders from the past few years are now going all-in on AI.

![Paul Copplestone sharing Supabase growth](/images/paul-copplestone-sharing-supabase-growth.png)

This observation is supported by Supabase's internal metrics showing a dramatic increase in weekly sign-ups—with a hockey-stick growth curve appearing in late 2024 and early 2025.

This isn't isolated to just one platform; Jan Čurn, CEO of [Apify](https://apify.com/), reported a similar pattern: "Our organic traffic has also skyrocketed over the past two months."

![Jan Čurn sharing Apify organic traffic growth](/images/jan-curn-sharing-apify-organic-traffic-growth.png)

These market indicators suggest we're at the beginning of a significant expansion in who can participate in software creation. The implications are profound:

1. **Expanded talent pool**: Companies can tap into a broader range of creative talent, not limited to those with traditional coding skills
2. **Geographical diversity**: Software creation could decentralize further, empowering builders in regions without established tech education systems
3. **Industry-specific innovation**: Experts in non-tech fields (healthcare, finance, education) can directly implement their domain knowledge without technical intermediaries
4. **Economic opportunity**: New career paths will emerge for "prompt engineers" and "vibe architects" who specialize in guiding AI tools toward desired outcomes

This democratization of software development resembles previous technological inflection points.

Think of the introduction of word processors that freed writers from typewriters, or digital cameras that liberated photography from darkroom expertise.

Each time, the number of creators expanded exponentially while the required technical knowledge decreased.

As the trend continues, watch for further indicators of this expansion: rising user numbers for AI-powered developer tools, increases in amateur-built applications, and probably most tellingly, diversification in the profiles of people who identify as "developers" or "builders" in the tech ecosystem.

May the good vibes be with you!
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            <title><![CDATA[How to Wrap Long Code Lines in Windsurf and Cursor Editors]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Thu, 27 Feb 2025 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[Here's how to wrap long code lines in VS Code powered IDEs like Windsurf and Cursor.]]></description>
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Line wrapping in code editors serves two main purposes: visual wrapping (where long lines appear broken in the editor but remain intact in the file) and hard wrapping (where the line is actually split in the source code).

Here's how to implement both types in VS Code powered IDEs like [Windsurf](https://codeium.com/windsurf) and [Cursor](https://cursor.com):

## Visual Line Wrapping

Visual wrapping makes long lines appear wrapped without modifying the actual code:

### Windsurf Editor

Open Settings (gear icon in bottom-left corner)

- Search for "word wrap"
- Enable "Editor Word Wrap" option
- Set desired column width in "Editor Word Wrap Column"

![Long line wrapping in Windsurf](/images/long-line-wrapping-in-windsurf.png)

### Cursor Editor

Access Settings through the menu (Shift + CMD + P) then Open VS Code Settings

![Cursor word wrap settings](/images/cursor-word-wrap.png)

- Look for "Text Wrapping" or "Word Wrap" option
- Enable visual wrapping
- Configure column width if available

## Hard Line Wrapping

Hard wrapping actually splits long lines into multiple physical lines in your code:

### Windsurf Editor

Install a hard wrap extension (like Prettier)

- Configure maximum line length in extension settings
- Enable automatic formatting

### Cursor Editor

Install a formatting extension

- Set up rules in cursor.rules file
- Configure line length preferences

## Best Practices

Some recommended practices for line wrapping in code editors:

### Configuration Tips

Keep consistent line lengths across your project

- Document your wrapping preferences in project settings
- Consider team preferences when setting defaults

### Editor-Specific Considerations

- **Windsurf:** Use the built-in word wrap feature for visual wrapping
- **Cursor:** Leverage the rules file for consistent formatting
- **Both:** Regularly review and adjust settings as needed

If you're collaborating with different teams, it's important to document your chosen approach in your project's documentation.
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            <title><![CDATA[Barcelona Recommendations]]></title>
            <link>https://tomaslau.com/blog/barcelona</link>
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            <pubDate>Thu, 23 Jan 2025 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[Some of my friends asked for tips, I don't live in Barcelona but visited multiple times and enjoyed these things, publishing this for future reference, in case you find it useful.]]></description>
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Some of my friends asked for tips, I don't live in Barcelona but visited multiple times and enjoyed these things, publishing this for future reference, in case you find it useful.

Barcelona is great at any time of year. Summer can get pretty hot and busy. I don't know many places but can share some of the stuff I enjoyed.

Be smart with your belongings to [avoid pickpockets](https://www.reddit.com/r/AskBarcelona/comments/1cqa70i/best_way_to_avoid_pickpockets_in_barcelona/).

Stroll around Ciutat Vella (old town). We had a lunch menu del dia at [El Reloj](https://maps.app.goo.gl/qDSLSC8FSvz5Cx1R6) (not sure if it's good at different times of the day), but we had good service, good food and it was affordable at ±€20/person. It's a 10 min walk from Arc de Triomf.

[Montserrat](https://maps.app.goo.gl/QGdZz9QpopXqZ8yq9) is definitely worth a visit if it interests you. Leave early. You can [rent a car for cheap](https://www.discovercars.com/en/search/d1a75380-3e98-4adc-b3b7-f7206a8d230f?sq=eyJQaWNrdXBMb2NhdGlvbklkIjo0NjUsIkRyb3BPZmZMb2NhdGlvbklkIjo0NjUsIlBpY2t1cERhdGVUaW1lIjoiMjAyNC0xMS0wM1QxMTowMDowMCIsIkRyb3BPZmZEYXRlVGltZSI6IjIwMjQtMTEtMDRUMTE6MDA6MDAiLCJSZXNpZGVuY2VDb3VudHJ5IjoiTFYiLCJEcml2ZXJBZ2UiOjM1LCJIYXNoIjoiIn0%3D), around €30 per day (we went with our car) but it looks like you can also go by [train](https://www.barcelona-tourist-guide.com/en/tour/train-journey-barcelona-to-montserrat.html).

[Museu Nacional d'Art de Catalunya](https://maps.app.goo.gl/cJf3qWftwhWFgcgG7) is nice and free and has a great view.

Still have to go, but my wife is really excited about this [museum of banned art](https://bcnshop.barcelonaturisme.com/shopv3/en/product/30285/museu-de-l-art-prohibit.html).

Also check out the Olympic stadium - there's a nice park and viewpoint nearby.
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            <title><![CDATA[Digital Warm Up]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Tue, 14 Jan 2025 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[How I discovered the importance of a digital warm-up routine and how small tasks help me transition into focused coding sessions.]]></description>
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I've realized that even when working on projects I'm passionate about, I need a digital warm-up period. This discovery came from my recent increased focus on coding.

Sometimes, grasping the big picture requires significant mental resources, and this is when my brain tends to seek diversions.

However, I've noticed an interesting pattern in my work habits.

Instead of completely avoiding work, I find myself gravitating toward smaller, still valuable tasks:

- Organizing project files and documentation
- Cleaning up code and removing redundancies
- Completing small, manageable tasks

These activities create a sense of accomplishment and progress, effectively tricking my brain into a productive mindset. After this warm-up period, I naturally transition into the main project, often achieving a flow state that lasts for 2-3 hours of focused work.

What I've come to understand is that the actual coding isn't the challenging part.

The real complexity lies in the mental compilation process—organizing thoughts and concepts before translating them into prompts or actual code.
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            <title><![CDATA[Life Lessons I Learned in 2024]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Wed, 01 Jan 2025 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[A personal reflection on life at 33: returning to Chiang Mai, building a business with family, traveling through Europe and Morocco, staying active, and sharing insights on productivity, wealth building, and favorite media of 2024.]]></description>
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8 years later, I'm back in Chiang Mai, Thailand, which feels familiar but also different. So many things have changed, and I'm probably not the same person I was when I first came here.

I just turned 33, and I'm now reflecting on the highlights, challenges, favorite purchases, and impactful books of 2024.

I realize how far I've come and how much I've learned since my last visit.

I'm happily married to the love of my life, Isabella, I'm in good health, I have an inspiring and challenging job, and I'm building a business with my best friend and my wife as my partners at [Craftled](https://craftled.com/).

Here's my annual review of 2024.

My typical process takes a few days to gather all the photos, notes, and calendar events and process them before publishing.

This year I found the [YearCompass app](https://yearcompass.vercel.app/), and I might be using it going forward.

Here's my year in photos:

![Roadtrip to Barcelona with Mom 2024](/images/roadtrip-to-barcelona-with-mom-2024.jpg)

Roadtrip to Barcelona with my mom.

![Malaga 2024](/images/malaga-2024.jpg)
Quick trip to Malaga to see Justas and Egle before they became parents.

![Marrakesh 2024](/images/marrakesh-2024.jpg)
Exploring Morocco with my wife Isabella.

![Marrakesh 2024](/images/morocco-2024.jpg)
Short trip to Marrakesh.

![Staying Active in 2024](/images/staying-active-in-2024.jpg)
Staying active in 2024, lifting weights, hiking, playing basketball, and padel.

![Working Out 2024](/images/working-out-2024.jpg)
Working out in 2024.

![Mantas and Debora Wedding Porto 2024](/images/mantas-and-debora-wedding-porto-2024.jpg)
My brother Mantas and his wife Debora's wedding in Porto.

![Mantas and Debora Wedding 2024](/images/mantas-and-debora-wedding-2024.jpg)
Having a great time at my brother Mantas and his wife Debora's wedding in Porto.

![Porto 2024](/images/porto-2024.jpg)
Exploring Porto, Portugal with my wife Isabella and my mom.

![Portugal 2024](/images/portugal-2024.jpg)
Sightseeing in Portugal.

![Catching Up with Edgaras in Denmark and Thailand 2024](/images/catching-up-with-edgaras-in-denmark-and-thailand-2024.jpg)
Catching up with Edgaras on his birthday in Denmark and visiting him in Thailand when he started his digital nomad journey with his girlfriend.

![London 2024](/images/london-2024.jpg)
Visiting London after many years.

![London Trip 2024](/images/london-trip-2024.jpg)
Meeting Rewadful team in London and attending Elevate 2024 affiliate marketing conference.

![Dad Visiting Me in Alicante 2024](/images/dad-visiting-me-in-alicante-2024.jpg)
My dad visiting me in my home in Alicante.

![Meeting Old Friends 2024](/images/meeting-old-friends-2024.jpg)
Meeting old friends.

![Meeting Friends and Eating Good Food 2024](/images/meeting-friends-and-eating-good-food-2024.jpg)
Meeting friends and eating good food.

![Bangkok 2024](/images/bangkok-2024.jpg)
Visiting Bangkok.

![Thailand 2024](/images/thailand-2024.jpg)
End of year Thailand vacation visiting Bangkok, Krabi, Ao Nang, Phuket, Chiang Mai, and Chiang Rai.

![Thailand Vacation 2024](/images/thailand-vacation-2024.jpg)
Sightseeing, chilling, drinking coffee, and eating good food in Thailand.

![NYE 2024](/images/nye-2024.jpg)
New Year's Eve in Chiang Mai, Thailand 2024.

## Highlights

Scrolling through my photos, calendar, and notes, I realize how lucky I am.

This year was close to ideal and there's little I would change.

It's been a great mix and balance of hard work, learning, spending time with my amazing wife, multiple family visits and seeing friends, and enjoying life.

Here are the highlights of 2024:

- Mom's visit and road trip to Barcelona, stopping at Peñiscola along the way. It was wonderful spending a week together in Alicante.
- Road trip to Malaga to catch up with my best friend Justas and his wife Egle just before they became parents.
- Spontaneous trip to Marrakesh.
- Flew to Copenhagen for my best friend and business partner's birthday - coding sessions with fruits, Aperol Spritz, and fast WiFi made for my kind of party.
- Great conversations with like-minded friends passionate about tech, health, and lifestyle design - caught up with Martynas, Justas, Edgaras, Sergio, Janis, Prean, Yosef, Ivan, Stefan, Orlando, Steven, Dominykas, Diana, Jeisson, Nisaide, Alice, Alisa, Louis, Chris, and Israel.
- My brother's wedding in Porto was a highlight - playing basketball, enjoying lots of food, and getting to know my brother's wife and her family in their hometown. We explored the city and indulged in too many pastel de nata.
- Joined [Rewardful](https://www.getrewardful.com/?via=tomaslau) as a Growth Manager, transitioning from saas.group to work with a small but mighty team building affiliate software for fast-growing AI and SaaS companies.
- My dad drove all the way from Lithuania to visit me in Alicante. It was heartwarming to see his childlike excitement while sightseeing and trying new foods.
- Returned to London after 8+ years to meet my Rewadful teammates in person and attend the inaugural Elevate 2024 affiliate marketing conference. Enjoyed walking around, spending time with Isabella's family, and catching up with my long-time friend and former business partner, Prean.
- 4-week Thailand vacation across Bangkok, Krabi, Ao Nang, Phuket, Chiang Mai, and Chiang Rai.
- Regularly collaborated with [Edgaras](https://edgaras.com/) on multiple projects.
- Redesigned and rebuilt (again) my [personal website](https://tomaslau.com/) using Next.js.
- Rebuilt [Best Writing](https://bestwriting.com/) using WordPress, learning the hard lesson that doing less but better is the answer.
- Nearly revived my personal newsletter, realizing it needs to be short and unstructured for consistency.
- Launched [Bordful](https://demo.bordful.com/), an open-source Next.js job board template.
- Created [Pynions](https://pynions.com/), an open-source Python framework for building AI-powered marketing workflows locally, after experiencing challenges with AI agent development.

## Challenges

I've lost two family members this year - my grandmother and my godfather. It's sad that I couldn't be there with my mom and family during those times.

This year I've been embracing my chaotic nature and surrendered to my multi-interested curiosity, building things without overthinking too much.

While I achieved and learned a lot this year, there were frustrating moments. Unlike prior years though, I now welcome challenges and frustration as old friends.

I know it's inevitable to struggle the first time, and I'm learning to enjoy the process.

Generally, I struggled with patience, keeping my mind focused on tasks at hand, and maintaining composure when dealing with people.

Delays, inefficiencies, indecisiveness, and other people's behavior can trigger frustration and anxiety about wasting time when I could be learning or building.

I realize it's my nature and I absolutely prefer spending quality one-on-one time with people, but I'm learning to enjoy group settings and being around more people.

While I'm embracing my generalist approach, I understand that while I'm great at starting things, multitasking isn't my strength.

I'm learning to focus on one thing at a time. Working on multiple projects simultaneously is doable but not optimal - I've struggled with completing things before starting something new.

As I age, I notice my recovery taking longer after intense workouts and basketball pickup games.

Despite eating healthy, taking supplements, and prioritizing sleep no matter where I am, I still got injured and found it challenging to stay positive while working on recovery and prevention.

I'm ending the year with a minor right shoulder injury that, while not serious, is annoying and limits my workout capacity.

I'm a workhorse and feel like I've figured out how to handle hard work, but I still struggle with completely disconnecting and relaxing to give my mind and body the breaks needed to recover and recharge for the work I love so much.

## Achievements

It's been a hectic year, as I moved fast and worked on multiple projects, but I'm proud of what I've achieved. I believe in figuring things out by shipping fast and iterating.

- Joined [Rewardful](https://www.getrewardful.com/?via=tomaslau) as a Growth Manager and worked on multiple growth initiatives, redesigning the homepage, launching targeted landing pages, optimizing content for SEO, and more.
- [Coded extensively](https://github.com/tomaslau) and learned how to use AI code editors like Cursor, Windsurf, Lovable, Bolt, and Replit.
- Shipped various tools and experiments.
- Launched [Marketful](https://marketful.com/) and [UI Things](https://uithings.com/).
- Learned about self-hosting and deploying websites on Hetzner.
- Started two open-source projects: [Pynions](https://pynions.com/) and [Bordful](https://demo.bordful.com/).
- Listened to loads of inspiring [Founders podcast](https://www.founderspodcast.com/) episodes while walking and washing dishes.
- Practiced intermittent fasting, skipping breakfast on most days.
- Took a month-long break from work and vacationed in Thailand with my wife, her cousin, family, and friends.
- [Visited five countries](https://nomads.com/tomaslau): Morocco, Denmark, Portugal, United Kingdom, and Thailand.
- Joined [Bluesky](https://bsky.app/profile/tomaslau.com) and rejoined [Twitter/X](https://x.com/tomaslaucom) (after deleting it in 2018) and started posting more regularly, inspired by Ross Simmonds' book Create Once, Distribute Forever.
- Maintained consistent exercise using [StrongLifts](https://stronglifts.com/) with 143 gym workouts in 2024, averaging 134,516 kg monthly volume. Despite a shoulder injury, achieved personal bests:
  - **Deadlift 5x5:** 120 kg (Feb 2024)
  - **Squat 5x5:** 97.5 kg (Sep 2024)
  - **Bench Press 5x5:** 90 kg (Sep 2024)
  - **Overhead Press 5x5:** 58 kg (Jul 2024)

## Life Lessons of 2024

Here's what I learned in this fast-paced year:

**Everyone at every stage compares themselves to others.** It's fine. Don't demonize yourself. Everything is fine. Just catch yourself doing it, say, "thanks, judge," and move on.

It's fine to slow down or take one step back to take two steps forward.

**Everyone wants to give you advice on how to live.** But they see only 0.01% of your life. Don't get discouraged or offended. Just thank them, apply the good, and discard the rest.

**You can and should break promises you made to yourself and others.** Stubborn people are not fun to be around.

**The best investment you can make is not crypto, not gold, not picking stocks, or investing in index funds.** Not even early-stage investing or trying to spot the next hot trend. It's you and your business. Not saying it's going to work out 100%, but it's your best chance to succeed given the mediocre circumstances and excluding luck. Yes, people get lucky with gold, trading, crypto, and picking stocks, but these are rare cases. You have a better chance betting on yourself since you know yourself and have some sort of control over inputs and outputs. Betting on yourself and thinking long-term is probably the best way to get what you want.

_"Happy is the man who can recognize in the work of Today a connected portion of the work of life, and an embodiment of the work of Eternity. The foundations of his confidence are unchangeable, for he has been made a partaker of Infinity."_ – James Clerk Maxwell

**The only way to guess the future right is to work on your projects and follow curiosity.** You simply can't predict the next Internet, Bitcoin, or ChatGPT moment. Get exceptionally good at things you care about, and your preparation will align with the right opportunity when everything falls into place and looks like you just won the lottery.

**Absolutely everyone has doubts.** Even if things are going well and especially if not.

_"**What if it's not worth it?** Another common reason for procrastination is that you are not convinced that a given action is worth the time and effort. Or, more subtly, you might believe it is worth the time and effort in general, but not for you."_ – Luca Dellanna

**Don't play Russian roulette.** Protecting yourself from the risk of ruin is more important than exposing yourself to a small chance of winning big.

**Looking out in space is like [looking back in time](https://webbtelescope.org/contents/articles/how-does-webb-see-back-in-time).**

> The light we see today from galaxies in the Virgo Cluster started on its path toward us at the same time as the age of the dinosaurs was ending on Earth. If you were in a Virgo Cluster galaxy today, and you had a telescope powerful enough to study the Earth, you would be able to see the prehistoric reptiles.

_"A writer is working when he's staring out of the window."_ – Burton Rascoe

_"Building 50% of a thing isn't 50% as productive, it's 0% as productive. There are few things less productive than work that is thrown away."_ – Jeremy Mikkola

_"I love Brent Beshore's observation that, 'I am 100% happy to watch you get really rich doing something that I have no interest in doing.' It's not always a competition."_ – Morgan Housel

Selling might be just eliminating objections until there's extreme clarity that you are getting good value for money.

**Don't worry about talking about what interests you.** Being yourself attracts like-minded people and repels the boring ones. It's easier to sell a hotdog to a hungry person than trying to convince someone to get more food after lunch.

**Once you find something you are good at, enjoy doing, and people can pay for it, stick to it.** You'll get unfairly good over the years, making competition irrelevant.

**Be boring with personal finance.** Cut costs, cancel subscriptions, save money, invest in VWCE every month, and act very conservatively. Your personal finances have one job only: to keep you in the game indefinitely. Don't get ruined with big risks. On the other hand, regularly take calculated risks with your business, and create a business entity if you don't have one yet.

**You don't want to retire and do nothing.** You want to find something you want to do indefinitely.

**It's fine to change your mind.** What does 18-year-old me know about 33-year-old me's interests and preferences?

**It's never too late to start playing long-term games.** Just by staying in the game long enough, you increase your chance of success since you expose yourself to more randomness that can benefit you.

_"The special ops guys and the firefighters around the world have this great phrase. They say, 'Slow is smooth, and smooth is fast,' and that is true. Everything I've accomplished in my life has been because of that attitude."_ — Jeff Bezos

**If you're building a startup today, your real moats are in the Three D's: Data, Distribution, and Design.**

- **Data:** How well you understand your users and their behavior.
- **Distribution:** Your unique way of reaching and connecting with customers.
- **Design:** Your taste and craftsmanship.

Shane Levine, Founder at Turbo

Questions helping decision-making:

- Will it give me more options?
- Will it save time?
- Will it make me more money?
- Will it make me happier?
- Will it make me healthier?
- Will I have to maintain it?
- Can I combine it with other things? e.g. hike = socialize + exercise

**Building stuff >** books > courses > personal blogs > podcasts > documentaries > social media.

**Live frugally.** Money in the bank can give you better peace of mind and options to get away from most bad situations, focus on unprofitable but fulfilling projects, and invest in your health by buying faster private health services. I just canceled a bunch of personal subscriptions. I am still at $1,300/year (most expensive being the gym, mobile plan, and Apple iCloud). That's like $40,000 over the next 30 years.

_"**Never risk your long-term assets.** No bet of yours should, in case of failure, destroy your health, capital, relationships, and trustworthiness."_ – Luca Dellanna

_"How many speeches must you make to become a good public speaker? How many products do you need to launch to become a competent entrepreneur? **How many failures do you need to succeed?** Ensure you have a strategy that can afford that number of attempts. Hopefully, you will succeed faster, maybe even on your first try. But if you want your success to be inevitable, you must be able to afford to make many attempts - and start making them as soon as possible."_ – Luca Dellanna

_"You waste years by not being able to waste hours."_ – Amos Tversky

_"Ninety percent of success can be boiled down to **consistently doing the obvious thing for an uncommonly long period of time** without convincing yourself that you're smarter than you are."_ – Shane Parrish

_"General ambition will give you anxiety. Specific ambition will give you direction."_ – Anu

**Trajectory over goals.** It's fun to set goals, but they can be misleading while you achieve your goals focusing on the wrong thing, or they can be devastating as you focus on outcomes rather than inputs. Reviewing your life trajectory, health, relationships, and work is a better indicator as there are inevitably good and bad days, but your average should always be an upward trend.

**The internet is for everyone, but use cases are individual.** Don't treat every channel, platform, tool, or opportunity equally.

**Social media is for discovering things and learning opinions.** Search is for finding things you already know exist. Keep this in mind when marketing your business and tailor your content for each channel.

**Do things you say you'll do.** A simple but not easy way to build trust, authority, and reputation.

**Take care of your body hardware and software.** Your body is your hardware and software; constant maintenance, good sleep, and exercise are needed if you want to stay long in the game. There are days when going to the gym feels like work, but it is work—maintenance work and installing updates—boring, tedious, but needed.

_"Short-term players almost see winning long-term games as a failure. 'You could have achieved that faster.' So, short-term players take actions that are unsustainable over the long term. They sacrifice their health or personal lives, incur excessive spending, consume their trust capital, take small risks that could go wrong in serious ways, and so on. Conversely, long-term players only use strategies that they can sustain over the long term."_ – Luca Dellanna

**Play on easy mode.** Hustle culture looks good on social media, but you get better odds if you work on easy mode. Easier problems, easier solutions, easier work schedule. This way, you can sustain it long-term and play the game indefinitely.

Boring businesses give freedom and resources to work on challenging and interesting projects.

**Distribution is becoming more important than creation.** Finding a way to reach users and give them what they want is harder than ever.

You don't have to make money from the same place you lost it.

_"Uber was just one of many projects Kalanick juggled in 2010. Zuckerberg started quite a few software projects before Facebook. Sure, most of those were tiny, but was it so obvious before the fact that Facebook would become so big? Probably, for at least some time, it looked like 'just another project.' And J.K. Rowling wrote another novel and more minor projects before her world-famous Harry Potter. Most successful people start with a portfolio of bets that later converge to a single, major, winning bet. The keyword is 'later.'"_ – Luca Dellanna

## Favorite Purchases of 2024

I don't really buy much stuff these days. Mostly digital subscriptions to improve my productivity, but this year I've been obsessed with coding and absolutely loved Cursor, the AI code editor.

I'm also very happy with Windsurf as it understands my coding style better with certain projects.

I'm in Thailand now, traveling for a month and got a battery case. I usually don't use a case for my iPhone as I don't like how it feels, but exploring and using maps + data drains my battery quickly.

I got this [iPhone charger](https://www.amazon.es/gp/product/B00QUU6T0E/ref=ox_sc_act_title_12?smid=A217EVZJH2JMV5&psc=1) and it works great!

- [ZeroWork](https://www.zerowork.io/)
- [Cursor](https://www.cursor.com/)
- [Claude AI](https://claude.ai/)
- [Typefully](https://typefully.com/)
- [Windsurf](https://codeium.com/windsurf)
- [Screaming Frog](https://www.screamingfrog.co.uk/seo-spider/)
- [Achromatic](https://www.achromatic.dev/)

## Favorite Books of 2024

I [proudly claim](https://tomaslau.com/about) that I love books and have an Everand subscription until 2351. However, this year I didn't read as much as I would have liked.

I found myself spending more time on Twitter (now X) than I should. While scrolling feels good and addictive just like potato chips, I barely retain anything. I can't even remember what I saw on social media an hour ago, let alone a month ago.

Books, though sometimes feeling boring and slow, requiring that magical activation energy to start reading, are still superior to digital content. The repetitive stories and lengthy examples help cement the main ideas in my brain.

I primarily listened to the Founders podcast this year, and noticed that most people I admire are voracious readers.

While not the most practical way to store and consume books, physical books inspire me and give me a different sense of accomplishment.

I've realized that like some people enjoy shopping malls, I love browsing bookstores and libraries - not necessarily to buy books, but to feel humbled by the abundance of knowledge and ideas.

It reminds me of my insignificant existence and the fact that I'll never read all the books in the world.

My approach to reading has evolved.

Instead of measuring success by the number of books completed or forcing myself to finish unenjoyable reads, I now follow Naval's approach of choosing books based on current interests.

If a book doesn't captivate me, I don't hesitate to skim or leave it unfinished.

Fortunately, books have no feelings (not yet).

Here are some of the [books I enjoyed reading](https://www.goodreads.com/author/show/14358907.Tomas_Laurinavicius), listening to, or skimming through:

- Fooled by Randomness by Nassim Nicholas Taleb
- The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer
- Never Enough by Andrew Wilkinson
- Only the Paranoid Survive by Andrew S. Grove
- Winning Long-Term Games by Luca Dellanna
- The Mom Test by Rob Fitzpatrick
- Hackers & Painters by Paul Graham
- Optionality by Richard Meadows
- Crypto Confidential by Nat Eliason
- Alchemy by Rory Sutherland
- Steal Like an Artist by Austin Kleon
- Create Once, Distribute Forever by Ross Simmonds

## Best Movies & TV Shows I Watched in 2024

- Society of the Snow (2023)
- Poor Things (2023)
- Griselda (2024)
- The Creator (2023)
- Dune: Part Two (2024)
- All the Light We Cannot See (2023)
- Kaos (2024)
- From (2022)
- Dark Matter (2024)
- Gladiator II (2024)
- Silo (2023)
- Beef (2023)
- Severance (2022)
- Band of Brothers (2001)
- One Hundred Years of Solitude (2024)

## Looking Forward to 2025

Here are my predictions and goals for 2025:

- Squat 100kg
- Achieve pain-free shoulders through consistent band exercises
- Bitcoin will dip to the low $40,000s during 2025
- It's unlikely I'll revive my personal newsletter
- Explore self-publishing and release 5 books
- Continue avoiding TikTok
- Consider starting a YouTube channel
- Resist the urge to start a podcast
- Practice intermittent fasting with a 9:00-16:00 eating window (skipping dinner)
- Witness and participate in the renaissance of personal blogging
- Read more physical books
- Write more short-form and long-form essays
- Focus on consuming existing courses and books rather than buying new ones

Thank you for taking the time to read this. Here's to a prosperous 2025!

If you’re interested in my previous annual reviews, check out my life lessons from [2013](/blog/life-lessons-2013), [2014](/blog/life-lessons-2014), [2015](/blog/life-lessons-2015), [2016](/blog/life-lessons-2016), [2017](/blog/life-lessons-2017), [2018](/blog/life-lessons-2018), [2019](/blog/life-lessons-2019), [2020](/blog/life-lessons-2020), and [2023](/blog/life-lessons-2023).
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            <pubDate>Fri, 07 Jun 2024 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[How to resolve Contentlayer issues when upgrading to Next.js 14.2+ from version 13 with a simple fix in your package.json file.]]></description>
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![Contentlayer issue fix when upgrading to Next.js 14.2+](/images/next-contentlayer-overrides-fix.png)

If you're encountering an issue with [Contentlayer](https://contentlayer.dev/) when trying to upgrade to Next.js 14.2 or later from version 13, there's a simple fix that can resolve the problem.

The issue arises due to compatibility problems between `next-contentlayer` and Next.js 14.2+. Next.js 14.2 introduced some breaking changes that caused issues with the Contentlayer package.

Specifically, the `next-contentlayer` plugin, which integrates Contentlayer with Next.js projects, had a peer dependency on `next` versions `^12 || ^13`.

However, with Next.js 14, the `next` package was updated to a newer version, causing a peer dependency mismatch when trying to install `next-contentlayer`.

This resulted in errors like `npm ERR! ERESOLVE unable to resolve dependency tree` when attempting to install `next-contentlayer` in a Next.js 14 project.

The root cause is that the `next-contentlayer` package was not immediately updated to support the latest `next` version 14, leading to the peer dependency conflict when upgrading to Next.js 14.2+.

In your project's `package.json` file, add the following code under the `"devDependencies"` section:

```json
"overrides": {
  "next-contentlayer": {
    "next": "$next"
  }
}
```

This override tells Next.js to use the latest version of the `next` package for the `next-contentlayer` dependency, resolving the compatibility issue.

After adding this code, save the `package.json` file, and you should be able to upgrade to Next.js 14.2+ without any Contentlayer-related issues.

That's it! With this small change, you can smoothly upgrade your Next.js project to the latest version while ensuring that Contentlayer continues to work as expected.

Thank you [Edgaras](https://edgaras.com/) for the tip!
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            <pubDate>Sat, 24 Feb 2024 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[My fast-changing list of dev bookmarks, including GitHub repos, reading list, tools, courses, fun experiments, and makers.]]></description>
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Here's my fast-changing list of dev bookmarks, including GitHub repos, reading list, tools, courses, fun experiments, and makers.

## Large Language Models (LLMs)

## Search

| Tool                                               | Description                                                                                                      | Price |
| -------------------------------------------------- | ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | ----- |
| [Grep.app](https://grep.app/)                      | A search tool that allows users to search across over half a million Git repositories using regular expressions. | Free  |
| [Globe Explorer](https://explorer.globe.engineer/) | Super fast and cool topic researcher.                                                                            | Free  |

## Prompts

## Blogs

## Lists

## People

## Tools

## CMS

| Tool                               | Description                                                                      | Price | Open-Source |
| ---------------------------------- | -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | ----- | ----------- |
| [Pages CMS](https://pagescms.org/) | A user-friendly CMS for static site generators (Next.js, Astro, Hugo, and Nuxt). | Free  | ✅          |

## Repositories

## Courses

To be continued...
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            <description><![CDATA[A year-end reflection on the highlights, challenges, favorite purchases, and impactful books of 2023.]]></description>
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I’m back and this is my annual review of 2023.

I skipped the last two years of annual reviews. Maybe I was busy, felt it wasn't needed anymore, or I was getting bitter with the Internet and myself.

Last year, my buddy Edgaras shared his [yearly reflections](https://edgaras.com/yearly-reflections-2022), and I was inspired to return to this practice, mostly because it forces me to review my calendar, and photos and reflect on the whole year.

This process always brings a smile to my face and fills me with gratitude for all the experiences I've had.

Another significant motivation for returning to this practice is the opportunity to revisit my own thoughts and lessons from five years ago.

It's rewarding to see my personal growth, to reflect on my past naivety, and to realize how much my understanding of the world and myself has evolved.

![Craftled Partners Workation 2023](/images/workation-2023.jpg)
A productive workation with my [Craftled partners](https://craftled.com/about), who also happen to be my wife, Isabella, and my best friend, Edgaras.

![Indonesian Vacation 2023](/images/vacation-2023.jpg)

Savoring the local cuisine, enjoying refreshing drinks, and witnessing breathtaking sunsets during our vacation in Lombok and Bali, Indonesia.

![UAE 2023](/images/uae-2023.jpg)
Exploring the Sheikh Zayed Grand Mosque in Abu Dhabi, tasting a unique camel burger, and enjoying shisha in front of the world's tallest building, the Burj Khalifa, in Dubai, United Arab Emirates.

![Stopovers 2023](/images/travels-2023.jpg)
We enjoyed brief, but memorable stopovers in Bulgaria and Singapore, where we ate lots of local food.

![saas.grouping 2023 in Barcelona](/images/saasgrouping-2023.jpg)
Attending the saas.grouping event in Barcelona, Spain.

![Go-Kart Racing 2023](/images/karts-2023.jpg)
Exhilarating go-kart racing experience in Elche, Spain.

![Proposal and Family Reunion 2023](/images/proposal-2023.jpg)
The much-anticipated proposal to my wife, Isabella, and a heartwarming meeting with our mothers in Lithuania, with Isabella's mother making the journey all the way from Chile.
![Indonesia 2023](/images/indonesia-2023.jpg)
We had fun swimming with dolphins in Lovina, enjoyed the different tastes of Indonesian food, tasted the local coffee, and had many relaxing massages.

![Memorable Moments of 2023](/images/fun-2023.jpg)
A collection of memorable moments from 2023 that brought joy and laughter.

![Foods of 2023](/images/food-2023.jpg)
Savoring a variety of cuisines, as evidenced by the hundreds of food photos we took.

![Basketball 2023](/images/basketball-2023.jpg)
Enjoyed the thrill of playing basketball frequently this year.

![Bali Revisit 2023](/images/bali-vacation-2023.jpg)
Revisiting Bali after half a decade was a truly enriching experience.

![Bali Sunsets 2023](/images/bali-2023.jpg)
Enjoyed the stunning sunsets in Bali, ate tasty local food, read a lot, and had a great time catching up with Diego from WiFi Tribe.

## Highlights

Lots of good things happened. I enjoyed delicious food, traveled, and had fun with loved ones.

Here are the highlights of 2023:

- Joined [saas.group](https://saas.group/) as a Growth Manager.
- Played basketball for the local team “El Altet.” We secured the 8th position out of 16 teams by the end of the season.
- Co-worked with [Edgaras](https://edgaras.com/) on several workations.
- Visited places around Alicante, enjoyed looking at the sights, went on hikes, and chilled on the beaches.
- Returned to coding and learned how to use AI to assist me with Python and Next.js.
- Redesigned and rebuilt my blog using Next.js.
- Rebranded [Best Writing](https://bestwriting.com/) to [Craftled](https://craftled.com/), and decided to adopt a portfolio approach instead of focusing on building one thing.
- Met lots of smart folks at the saas.grouping event in Barcelona.
- Traveled around Lithuania and Latvia, introducing my wife’s mother to my home country and my family.
- Officially proposed to my wife. We got married in Lithuania in 2019, but I had never proposed. We want to remarry in Colombia soon.
- Attended a 3-day music festival, Mad Cool, in Madrid and danced to music by Robbie Williams, The Offspring, Sam Smith, Tash Sultana, Kaleo, Rüfüs Du Sol, Years & Years, and Red Hot Chili Peppers.
- Enjoyed an incredible 3-week vacation in Bali, with short stops in Sofia, Abu Dhabi, Dubai, and Singapore.
- Launched a [digital product on Gumroad](https://store.craftled.com/l/websites-that-pay-writers?layout=profile) and made my first sales.
- Nearly revived my personal newsletter. I realized it needs to be short and unstructured for me to maintain it consistently.
- Achieved the best physical shape of my life. On the last day of the year, hitting a 5x5 90KG squat and a 5x5 100KG deadlift. I used [the StrongLifts](https://stronglifts.com/) app.
- Simplified my personal and business expenses and operations by canceling most subscriptions and consolidating everything into one spreadsheet.
- Caught up with Diego, the co-founder of [WiFi Tribe](https://wifitribe.co/). We exercised, shared meals, and had meaningful conversations. It had been 5 years since our last meeting, so it was wonderful to catch up in Bali.
- Explored Bali and the nearby islands of Gili Air and Lombok.

## Challenges

This year was mentally and emotionally demanding.

Attempting to control uncontrollable aspects took a toll on my mental well-being.

While I don't perceive challenges as inherently negative, I believe it's crucial to reflect on what didn't go as planned and understand why. This understanding can help adjust the approach or realize when it's time to move on and try something different.

- I had to liquidate most of my overly optimistic and over-leveraged investments in tech stocks and crypto.
- I intended to write more, but didn't manage to.
- I meditated, but not as much as I would have liked.
- The fear of missing out (FOMO) with AI was real, just like with the whole crypto hype train. I realized that I'm not immune to trends and hype and can easily be distracted by the latest shiny object. I'm working on developing my own guiding principles to avoid these short-term distractions in the future.

## Achievements

When I look at the bigger picture, I feel positive.

I'm confident that I'm heading in the right direction and gaining clarity about what truly matters to me.

- Joining [saas.group](https://saas.group/) provided financial stability and emotional peace, although it wasn't as lucrative as my freelance ventures.
- I built and published a Chrome extension that displays writing quotes on a new tab.
- I delved deeper into programmatic SEO.
- I learned about web scraping.
- I became a member of the Small Bets community.
- I took Janis Ozolins's course on creating visuals and we became friends when he and his family moved to Alicante.
- I had engaging random calls and chats with fellow indie hackers, creators, marketers, and founders.
- I read several books, notably Die With Zero, and Arnold’s new book, Be Useful.
- I learned how to use Next.js and deploy websites to Vercel.
- I learned how to automate tasks using [Make.com](https://make.com/), Google Sheets, and code.
- I maintained a regular exercise routine (gym, basketball, padel, hiking).
- I practiced intermittent fasting.
- I took a complete break from work and vacationed in Lithuania and Bali.
- I visited six countries: Lithuania, Latvia, Bulgaria, United Arab Emirates, Indonesia, and Singapore.

## Life Lessons of 2023

Here's what I learned in this overwhelming year:

**Simplicity lasts.** Complexity is easy to break and hard to sustain. Always aim for simplicity.

**Leverage is key.** There's no direct correlation between the hours you spend and the effort and goodwill you put into work. Only leverage matters.

**Do more of what only you can do.** AI is intimidating because it may render me irrelevant. The only antidote is to be uniquely you and do things that only you can do.

**Be kind.** We all have bad days, but that's not a license to be rude. Be kind to yourself and others.

**Tinkering beats planning.** You can spend months or years stressed trying to create a master plan, or you can try something you feel might work and see for yourself. If it works, great, iterate to make it better. If it doesn't, move on and try something new.

**Ship fast, ship often.** In a world with infinite variables, you can't know what will work until you try. Your opinion doesn't matter.The market will tell if it's useful or not. Act on your energy burst. Storage doesn't work.

**Having an incredible wife is a life cheat code.** She's my peace, stability, and inspiration. I feel loved, heard, and challenged. It's us against the world.

**Listen and empathize.** Rather than trying to reason and respond, make the other person feel comfortable sharing and opening up, without judgment. It's enough to respond with "I hear you."

**You already know what to do.** For some reason, we seek validation, but we know what we must do right now. It's uncomfortable, it's hard, it's boring, but only complete focus towards one thing can bring you to it faster.

**If it's not on the calendar, it won't happen.** Use a calendar, reminders, notes, and other scheduling tools to commit yourself to something happening.

**Figure out the big stuff.** Decide the direction you want to go and don't sweat the small things, just do it. You can reflect later and see what works. You can't edit an empty page.

**You're a sum of your habits and decisions.** Make better decisions now if you want to be in a different place physically, emotionally, and financially.

**You can find contradicting advice for anything.** You will only know if you try.

**The only judge you have to impress is the future you.** Everyone plays a different game with different rules and prizes. Your game, your rules.

**Make your life tomorrow a bit easier.** Become 1% better every day, but also do somethingto your future self that will make your life 1% easier tomorrow.

**You don't have to have an opinion on everything.** You can just respond, "I don't know, I haven't actively thought about it."

**Do more stuff that can benefit from randomness.** Private notes, thoughts, and prototypes can't benefit from someone randomly discovering them. People buy even bad products, so put something out there and improve it later if it hurts.

**Close open loops.** Clean up your desktop, email inbox, messages, downloads folder, bookmarks, reminders, unsubscribe from newsletters, and cancel subscriptions. Most of these are just hanging there, taking your energy and headspace.

**State of mind matters.** You can't do your best work or think clearly when you're stressed.

**Creating in seasons is fine.** There are months when you learn, there are months where you explore, and there are months when you create more than in the last six months. That's fine.

**Follow what comes naturally right now.** The order usually doesn't matter, once you've set your goal and figured out the big stuff.

**Create luck.** Be in charge, call the shots, and make mistakes.

## Favorite Purchases of 2023

- Apple MacBook Air 15”
- Rockrider ST 120 mountain bike
- [Practical Programmatic](https://practicalprogrammatic.com/) course
- [Small Bets](https://smallbets.co/) membership
- [MakerKit](https://makerkit.dev/) SaaS boilerplate
- [Explain Ideas Visually](https://ozolinsjanis.com/course) course
- Golf shorts, pants, and T-shirts (I don’t play golf)
- [The Network Effects Masterclass](https://www.nfx.com/masterclass)
- [ChatGPT Prompt Engineering for Developers](https://www.deeplearning.ai/short-courses/chatgpt-prompt-engineering-for-developers/)
- Spotify
- HBO Max
- Apple iCloud
- Netflix

## Favorite Books of 2023

In the past, I used to measure my success by the number of books I managed to read in a year. I would even force myself to finish books that I didn't find enjoyable.

However, my approach has changed. Now, influenced by Naval, I choose books based on my current interests. If a book doesn't captivate me, I don't hesitate to skim through it or even leave it unfinished.

Fortunately, books have no feelings; otherwise, I would be in a lot of trouble.

Here are some of the books I enjoyed reading, listening to, or skimming through:

- Die with Zero by Bill Perkins
- A Short Stay in Hell by Steven L. Peck
- Be Useful by Arnold Schwarzenegger
- Greenlights by Matthew McConaughey
- The Almanack of Naval Ravikant by Eric Jorgenson
- The Untethered Soul by Michael A. Singer
- LeBron by Jeff Benedict
- Generating Product Ideas by Artiom Dashinsky

Thank you for taking the time to read this. Here's to the adventures that await in 2024!

If you’re interested in my previous annual reviews, check out my life lessons from [2013](/blog/life-lessons-2013), [2014](/blog/life-lessons-2014), [2015](/blog/life-lessons-2015), [2016](/blog/life-lessons-2016), [2017](/blog/life-lessons-2017), [2018](/blog/life-lessons-2018), [2019](/blog/life-lessons-2019), and [2020](/blog/life-lessons-2020).
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You can easily launch a software business in a week by leveraging SaaS boilerplates.

I found a simple back-end script on [CodeCanyon](https://codecanyon.net/), built the landing and marketing pages using the [Framer template](https://www.framer.com/templates/), and launched [Draftpen](https://web.archive.org/web/20230628101125/https://draftpen.com/) (now shut down) in less than a week.

![Envato's CodeCanyon](/images/ai-scripts-codecanyon.jpg)

I had some technical issues deploying the project, but with the help of [ChatGPT](https://chat.openai.com/), I could fix them quickly without losing motivation or momentum.

Launching a SaaS product is easier than ever. Just find pre-made SaaS boilerplates, scripts or templates close to your vision and ship it. **Don’t overthink it.**

![AI SaaS Script on Codester](/images/codester-ai-saas-script.jpg)

Here are some cool SaaS starter kits:

- [Wave](https://devdojo.com/wave) (PHP)
- [Makerkit](https://makerkit.dev/) (React, Next.js, Remix + Firebase & Supabase)
- [Supaboost](https://www.supaboost.dev/) (Next.js + Supabase)
- [PySaaS](https://pysaas.io/) (Python)
- [NextBase](https://usenextbase.com/) (Next.js)
- [Bedrock](https://bedrock.mxstbr.com/) (Next.js + GraphQL)
- [Gravity](https://usegravity.app/) (Node.js & React)
- [Boilerplate](https://github.com/ixartz/Next-js-Boilerplate) (Next.js)
- [Supastarter](https://supastarter.dev/) (Next.js)
- [ShipFast](https://shipfa.st/) (Next.js)

Check out some script marketplaces and search for SaaS scripts:

- [CodeCanyon](https://codecanyon.net/search/ai) (my favorite)
- [Codester](https://www.codester.com/tags/SaaS)
- [Readymade PHP Scripts](https://www.phpscriptsonline.com/)

Using scripts lets you take care of the essential stuff like user profiles, authentication, payments, invoices, and some basic functionality. It saves you time to focus on developing something of value and marketing.

![ChatGPT acting as my Python tutor](/images/chatgpt-python-tutoring.jpg)

**Technical knowledge is optional.** However, it helps if you understand programming concepts. Clear communication skills are required. Being specific with your questions is the key to getting helpful assistance from ChatGPT.
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            <title><![CDATA[Inspirations]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Sun, 20 Aug 2023 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[Inspired by Salman Ansari's list, I'm sharing my evolving list of people, brands and stories that inspire me.]]></description>
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Inspired by [Salman Ansari's list](https://salman.io/notes/inspirations/), I'm sharing my evolving list of people, brands and stories that inspire me.

## Musicians

- Coldplay
- Eminem
- 50 Cent
- Depeche Mode
- Red Hot Chili Peppers
- LP
- The Weeknd
- Bon Jovi
- Imagine Dragons
- Linkin Park
- Queen
- Michael Jackson

## Entrepreneurs

- Paul Graham
- James Dyson
- Thomas Edison
- Richard Branson
- Steve Jobs
- Jeff Bezos
- Bill Gates
- Morgan Housel
- Eric Jorgensen
- [Pat Walls](https://patwalls.com/)
- [Pieter Levels](https://x.com/levelsio)
- [Nathan Barry](https://nathanbarry.com/)
- [Rob Walling](https://robwalling.com/)
- [Daniel Vassallo](https://dvassallo.com/)
- Julian Shapiro
- [Luca Dellanna](https://luca-dellanna.com/)
- Derek Sivers
- Glen Allsopp
- Nat Eliason
- [James Currier](https://www.nfx.com/team/james-currier)
- Brian Dean
- Ray Dalio
- Andrew Wilkinson
- Corey Haines
- Ross Simmonds
- Ben Issen
- George Mack
- Steph Smith

## Athletes

- Michael Jordan
- LeBron James
- Arnold Schwarzenegger
- Kobe Bryant

## Scientists

- Richard Feynman
- Albert Einstein
- Stephen Hawking

To be continued...
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            <title><![CDATA[Reading List]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Mon, 31 Jul 2023 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[Explore the essential reading list for founders with over 100 book recommendations and insightful articles.]]></description>
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Welcome to my reading list of over 100 book recommendations and thought-provoking articles.

I disliked reading in school. Maybe because it was forced or I didn’t read anything exciting. But that changed when I discovered a great book. Reading one of my favorite books, **[How to Win Friends & Influence People](https://amzn.to/2wzzmbF)** by Dale Carnegie, completely changed my relationship with books and awakened my curiosity.

Since then, I read hundreds of good books ranging from psychology, neuroscience, business, design, historical fiction, short stories, human history to communication, spirituality and more.

I’m still fascinated by how much you can change by reading a good book. People who might have been the best mentors in the world are not among us anymore. Books carry centuries of knowledge and wisdom.

It’s foolish not to read every day.

However, it's not so easy to find a good book to read and with so many books you don't want to waste your time and only read the best books in the world. My goal is to carefully curate a list of great books and simplify your decision-making process when selecting what to read next.

## How to Find Time to Read?

You don't find time to read, you make it.

Read in the morning when you drink your coffee, read before going to bed, read before you binge watch Netflix. The goal isn't to read a book in one sitting, the goal is to develop a life-long habit of feeding yourself food for thought and exposing yourself to new ideas.

I'm constantly updating this list of books to help you discover the best books to read.

## Reading This Year

I'm not updating this list that often, the best way to see what I'm reading now is to check out my [Goodreads](https://www.goodreads.com/author/show/14358907.Tomas_Laurinavicius).

## Best Career Books

**Must-Read: [The Defining Decade](https://amzn.to/2R8jOnn)** by Meg Jay

**Must-Read: [A New Earth](https://amzn.to/2GGE1gm)** by Eckhart Tolle

**[The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F\*ck](https://amzn.to/2V1y0xU)** by Mark Manson

**[Linchpin](https://amzn.to/2CoQkto)** by Seth Godin

**[Who Moved My Cheese?](https://amzn.to/2R9mWzs)** by Spencer Johnson

**[Choose Yourself!](https://amzn.to/2RePWpo)** by James Altucher

**[The Crossroads of Should and Must](https://amzn.to/2R6RNwK)** by Elle Luna

## Best Personal Development Books

**[Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It](https://amzn.to/2V2n2Ib)** by Kamal Ravikant

**[Think and Grow Rich](https://amzn.to/2ScddFZ)** by Napoleon Hill

**[The Art of the Good Life](https://amzn.to/2SchgCd)** by Rolf Dobelli

**[The Art of Fully Living](https://amzn.to/2V2o3zZ)** by Tal Gur

**[The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari](https://amzn.to/2Rdy8Lm)** by Robin S. Sharma

**[The School of Greatness](https://amzn.to/2R7cQPD)** by Lewis Howes

**[Tribe of Mentors](https://amzn.to/2R2STtp)** by Tim Ferriss

**[The Four Agreements](https://amzn.to/2Cpw7np)** by Miguel Ruiz

**[The Traveler’s Gift](https://amzn.to/2LxpW3C)** by Andy Andrews

**[The Greatness Guide](https://amzn.to/2V10305)** by Robin S. Sharma

**[The Dip](https://amzn.to/2Sf9K9y)** by Seth Godin

## Best Lifestyle Books

**[Simplify](https://amzn.to/2EGtkbQ)** by Joshua Becker

**[The Life‐Changing Magic of Tidying Up](https://amzn.to/2R6TMkG)** by Marie Kondo

## Best Spirituality Books

**Must-Read: [The Power of Now](https://amzn.to/2GwJVQR)** by Eckhart Tolle

**[Buddhism Plain and Simple](https://amzn.to/2V0gERK)** by Steve Hagen

## Best Health Books

**[10% Happier](https://amzn.to/2RePUhC)** by Dan Harris

**[Start the Keto Diet](https://amzn.to/2V0wwnx)** by Vytautas Alech

**[The Blue Zones](https://amzn.to/2Scuy1n)** by Dan Buettner

## Best Business Books

**Must-Read: [Zero to One](https://amzn.to/2VtSnrp)** by Peter Thiel

**Must-Read: [How to Be a Capitalist Without Any Capital](https://amzn.to/2E0x71G)** by Nathan Latka

**Must-Read: [The Mom Test](https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/52283963-the-mom-test)** by Rob Fitzpatrick

**[Anything You Want](https://amzn.to/2UYEMUV)** by Derek Sivers

**[Expert Secrets](https://amzn.to/38XfRu8)** by Russell Brunson

**[Internet MBA](https://amzn.to/2R80Jlh)** by Tom Hunt

**[Oversubscribed](https://amzn.to/2LrPwa6)** by Daniel Priestley

**Must-Read: [The 4‐Hour Work Week](https://amzn.to/2V0jOVC)** by Tim Ferriss

**[The $100 Startup](https://amzn.to/2ByIewN)** by Chris Guillebeau

**[Start Something That Matters](https://amzn.to/2R7rLcC)** by Blake Mycoskie

**Must-Read: [The Millionaire Fastlane](https://amzn.to/2LsAW1Y)** by M.J. DeMarco

**[The Personal MBA](https://amzn.to/2RdBApi)** by Josh Kaufman

**[The Hard Thing About Hard Things](https://amzn.to/2V04UPh)** by Ben Horowitz

**[Your Move](https://amzn.to/2ByyfY4)** by Ramit Sethi

**[Stop Thinking Like a Freelancer](https://amzn.to/2QHenwh)** by Liam Veitch

## Best Design Books

**[The Elements of User Experience](https://amzn.to/2QHymen)** by Jesse James Garrett

**[Don’t Make Me Think](https://amzn.to/2RcPA2E)** by Steve Krug

## Best Marketing Books

**Must-Read: [DotCom Secrets](https://amzn.to/2QKZ5a3)** by Russell Brunson

**[Create Once, Distribute Forever](https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/208675874-create-once-distribute-forever)** by Ross Simmonds

**[The One Hour Content Plan](https://amzn.to/2BuoxpH)** by Meera Kothand

**[The 22 Immutable Laws of Marketing](https://amzn.to/2LrSrQ6)** by Al Ries

**[Hooked](https://amzn.to/2QL0i15)** by Nir Eyal

**[Launch](https://amzn.to/2EGt8sL)** by Jeff Walker

**[Content Machine](https://amzn.to/2GzvHyE)** by Dan Norris

**[The Tipping Point](https://amzn.to/2S7KgLc)** by Malcolm Gladwell

## Best Writing Books

**Must-Read: [On Writing Well](https://amzn.to/2LtlHWt)** by William Zinsser

**[You Are a Writer](https://amzn.to/2BuEVq7)** by Jeff Goins

**[On Writing](https://amzn.to/2R7iaCB)** by Stephen King

## Best Philosophy Books

**[Finite and Infinite Games](https://amzn.to/2JuJNBc)** by James Carse

**[Ego is the Enemy](https://amzn.to/2BAl3BV)** by Ryan Holiday

**[As a Man Thinketh](https://amzn.to/2EFbt4R)** by James Allen

**[The Allegory of the Cave](https://amzn.to/38WMQP9)** by Plato

## Best Finance & Money Books

**[Rich Dad, Poor Dad](https://amzn.to/2S7gJkO)** by Robert T. Kiyosaki

**[Invest Like a Pro](https://amzn.to/2RcSnZy)** by Jesse Mecham

**Must-Read: [I Will Teach You to Be Rich](https://amzn.to/2GwGJVt)** by Ramit Sethi

**[The Richest Man in Babylon](https://amzn.to/2EF2wbO)** by George S. Clason

## Best Creativity Books

**[Everything I Know](https://amzn.to/2Bz2XR1)** by Paul Jarvis

**Must-Read: [Do the Work](https://amzn.to/2SdizAH)** by Steven Pressfield

**[Fluent in 3 Months](https://amzn.to/2QGVbi9)** by Benny Lewis

**[Big Magic](https://amzn.to/2LuP36N)** by Elizabeth Gilbert

## Best Psychology Books

**Must-Read: [Mindset](https://amzn.to/2Lrp14D)** by Carol Dweck

**[How to Stop Worrying and Start Living](https://amzn.to/2Bx32V7)** by Dale Carnegie

**Must-Read: [The Power of Habit](https://amzn.to/2LrplAn)** by Charles Duhigg

**[Tribes](https://amzn.to/2BAqKAa)** by Seth Godin

**Must-Read: [Man’s Search for Meaning](https://amzn.to/2LrLn5W)** by Viktor E. Frankl

**[Willpower](https://amzn.to/2V0mmTG)** by Roy F. Baumeister

**[Influence](https://amzn.to/2Se4F1g)** by Robert B. Cialdini

**[Free Will](https://amzn.to/2LzrHgJ)** by Sam Harris

**Must-Read: [Essentialism](https://amzn.to/2EGhlL8)** by Greg McKeown

**Must-Read: [Emotional Intelligence](https://amzn.to/2EGygxo)** by Daniel Goleman

**[Blink](https://amzn.to/2RdUGM0)** by Malcolm Gladwell

## Best History Books

**Must-Read: [Sapiens](https://amzn.to/2Rd8t5q)** by Yuval Noah Harari

## Best Strategy Books

**[The Art of War](https://amzn.to/2EFieUk)** by Sun Tzu

**Must-Read: [Principles](https://amzn.to/2RbHWFN)** by Ray Dalio

**Must-Read: [Start with Why](https://amzn.to/2RfbJO4)** by Simon Sinek

## Best Biographies

**Must-Read: [When Breath Becomes Air](https://amzn.to/2EEwMDz)** by Paul Kalanithi

**[Elon Musk](https://amzn.to/2LtBtRb)** by Ashlee Vance

**[Perfectly Reasonable Deviations from the Beaten Track](https://amzn.to/2QF0m2a)** by Richard Feynman

## Best Productivity Books

**Must-Read: [Managing Oneself](https://amzn.to/2LtPRcq)** by Peter F. Drucker

**Must-Read: [The Miracle Morning](https://amzn.to/2QGpkyr)** by Hal Elrod

**[Smartcuts](https://amzn.to/2LzJjJn)** by Shane Snow

**[The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People](https://amzn.to/2V0VR0w)** by Stephen R. Covey

**[Willpower Doesn’t Work](https://amzn.to/2LvUFh6)** by Benjamin Hardy

**Must-Read: [Deep Work](https://amzn.to/2UZrLKR)** by Cal Newport

**[Remote](https://amzn.to/2R50yHB)** by Jason Fried and David Heinemeier Hansson

**Must-Read: [The 10x Rule](https://amzn.to/2LsRSW6)** by Grant Cardone

**[Rework](https://amzn.to/2UY2xMN)** by Jason Fried and David Heinemeier Hansson

**[My Morning Routine](https://amzn.to/2LtClFr)** by Benjamin Spall and Michael Xander

**[Virtual Freedom](https://amzn.to/2EGn8jM)** by Chris C. Ducker

**[The One Minute Manager](https://amzn.to/2EIGkOb)** by Ken Blanchard and Spencer Johnson

## Best Relationships Books

**[The Game](https://amzn.to/2Sj04ep)** by Neil Strauss

**Must-Read: [How to Win Friends and Influence People](https://amzn.to/2SbH5lN)** by Dale Carnegie

## Best Science Books

**[Habits of a Happy Brain](https://amzn.to/2QI2CpC)** by Loretta Breuning

**[Outliers](https://amzn.to/2UUC9nb)** by Malcolm Gladwell

## Best Fiction Books

**Must-Read: [The Alchemist](https://amzn.to/2QGbw6W)** by Paulo Coelho

**[Siddhartha](https://amzn.to/2rLPpNs)** by Hermann Hesse

**[The Fountainhead](https://amzn.to/2Lxro64)** by Ayn Rand

**[The Little Prince](https://amzn.to/2R8onhx)** by Antoine de Saint-Exupery

**[Jonathan Livingston Seagull](https://amzn.to/2LsiO8y)** by Richard Bach

**[The Prophet](https://amzn.to/2RaLRTl)** by Kahlil Gibran

**[All Quiet on the Western Front](https://amzn.to/2SeEN5e)** by Erich Maria Remarque

**[The Fifth Mountain](https://amzn.to/2SbHAMH)** by Paulo Coelho

**[Warrior of the Light](https://amzn.to/2Se5VBF)** by Paulo Coelho

**[Manuscript Found in Accra](https://amzn.to/2CpD8UW)** by Paulo Coelho

## Best Articles

**Must-Read: [How to Pick a Career (That Actually Fits You)](https://waitbutwhy.com/2018/04/picking-career.html)** by Tim Urban

**Must-Read: [Listen to What’s Being Whispered, not What’s Being Said](https://taylorpearson.me/listen-to-whats-being-whispered-not-whats-being-said/)** by Taylor Pearson

**[Travel Is No Cure for the Mind](https://moretothat.com/travel-is-no-cure-for-the-mind/)** by Lawrence Yeo

**[The Quest to the Unlived Life](https://moretothat.com/the-quest-to-the-unlived-life/)** by Lawrence Yeo

**[The Bucky Fuller Method: How Dividing Yourself in Half Improves Your Personal Productivity](https://taylorpearson.me/buckyfuller/)** by Taylor Pearson

**[The Goal Setting Template for a High-Output Life](https://www.nateliason.com/blog/goal-setting)** by Nat Eliason

**[The Only Three Ways To Be More Productive](https://taylorpearson.me/3productivity/)** by Taylor Pearson

**[Noise Pollution Is a Thing, and It’s Making You Sick](https://medium.com/s/the-nuance/noise-pollution-is-a-thing-and-its-making-you-sick-c9f67958992c)** by Markham Heid

**Must-Read: [8 Things Every Person Should Do Before 8 A.M.](https://medium.com/@benjaminhardy/8-things-every-person-should-do-before-8-a-m-bdd0e547ff30)** by Benjamin Hardy

**[23 Smart Ways To Increase Your Confidence, Productivity, and Income](https://medium.com/@benjaminhardy/23-smart-ways-to-increase-your-confidence-productivity-and-income-5ee8a3158f31)** by Benjamin Hardy

**Must-Read: [Life Is a Game. This Is Your Strategy Guide](https://oliveremberton.com/2014/life-is-a-game-this-is-your-strategy-guide/)** by Oliver Emberton

**Must-Read: [The P.A.R.A. Method: A Universal System for Organizing Digital Information](https://fortelabs.co/blog/para/)** by Tiago Forte

## Go and Read Something

There you have it. My curated list of great reads to help you find an exciting new book to read next.
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            <title><![CDATA[7-Step Content Production Process]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Fri, 21 Jul 2023 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[Here’s my 7-step content production process I followed to create thousands of articles in the last decade.]]></description>
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Over the last 10 years, I’ve written content for Forbes, HuffPost, Envato, Adobe, BigCommerce, Webflow, and many more publications.

Here’s the 7-step content production process I followed to create thousands of articles in the last decade.

## 1. Talk With the Stakeholders

Talk with the stakeholders. In this case, the Content Marketing Director and SEO team to better understand their needs, process, expectations, and deliverables.

## 2. Study the Brand and Content Guidelines

Review internal documentation, [SOPs (standard operating procedures)](https://tomaslau.com/blog/sops), and previous examples of work to better understand the audience, brand, mission and adopt the voice and tone, and preferred content format.

## 3. Research

Research the competition, identify target keywords and relevant terms, and prepare detailed [content briefs](https://bestwriting.com/blog/content-brief/) to ensure it stands a chance to become the best piece on the topic in the world once published.

## 4. Write

Write engaging data-driven content. Brainstorm and propose multiple headline ideas.

Add relevant visuals and media (videos, infographics, tables, polls).

## 5. Optimize

Use leading [content optimization software for SEO](https://marketful.com/blog/content-optimization-tools/) to include relevant keywords, terms, and questions.

Ensure clean content formatting, interlink strategic inner pages, and links to authoritative external sources.

## 6. Edit

Follow the editing checklist and cut the fluff, improve readability, fact check, improve flow and proofread.

## 7. Deliver and Improve

Deliver content on time in an agreed-upon format (Google Drive or directly in the client’s CMS) and make any edits necessary.

Once the client reviews deliverables, implement the feedback, improve the process, and keep shipping top content.

## Writer Interview Questions

Here are some questions I ask when interviewing writers:

1. Are you familiar with WordPress?
2. Do you have image editing experience?
3. What’s your SEO knowledge?
4. Have you used Clearscope?
5. Are you comfortable with Google Docs?
6. Can you prpvode multiple rounds of edits?
7. Are you OK with asynchronous communication, I don’t do calls?
8. Do you have experience following content guidelines and checklists?
9. How does your research process looks like?
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            <title><![CDATA[SOPs and The Boring Art of Documentation]]></title>
            <link>https://tomaslau.com/blog/sops</link>
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            <pubDate>Mon, 17 Jul 2023 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[Discover the practical side of documenting things through standard operating procedures (SOPs) and learn about helpful tools such as Google Docs, Notion, Loom, Descript, Tango, and Scribe.]]></description>
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Documenting things is often considered boring, but there's a bright side to it.

Standard operating procedures (SOPs) can significantly increase productivity and reduce wasted time and resources.

Whether you're a solo freelancer, agency, or a large company, implementing SOPs can bring numerous benefits. Even if you're not an expert at creating documentation, you can still experience the advantages.

To emphasize the significance of documentation, I rebranded my newsletter from Life Designed to [Growthlog](https://tomaslau.com/newsletter), aligning it with the concept of documenting and logging personal and professional experiences.

With the rise of personal AI assistants, extracting and documenting processes has become easier than ever, leading to faster workflows and noticeable improvements.

To dive deeper into the why, how, and what of SOPs, I recommend watching the insightful presentation by web designer John D. Saunders: [How to scale a web design agency with standard operating procedures](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hG3vA6QBqfA).

[![How to scale a web design agency with standard operating procedures](/images/mcdonalds-sops-example.png)](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hG3vA6QBqfA)

Implementing SOPs can transform your workflow from one characterized by lack of clarity, wasted time, and errors to a more efficient, quality-driven process with predictable turnaround times.

Checklists provided by SOPs help ensure quality and reduce the chances of mistakes.

| Before SOPs                                                                                        | After SOPs                                                                              |
| -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- | --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- |
| Lack of clarity and direction, wasted time, mentally exhausting, quality suffers, prone to errors. | Predictable turnaround times, ensures quality, efficient, checklists help avoid errors. |

Here are some recommended tools for creating and implementing SOPs:

- [Google Docs](https://docs.google.com/): Ideal for collaborative work on SOPs.
- [Notion](https://www.notion.so/): A versatile tool for creating knowledge bases and SOPs, offering [SOP templates](https://www.notion.so/templates/category/standard-operating-procedure-sop).
- [Loom](https://www.loom.com/): Enables quick video recordings that guide others through your processes step-by-step.
- [Descript](https://www.descript.com/): Provides automated text transcriptions (additional payment may be required) and advanced editing tools.
- [Tango](https://www.tango.us/) and [Scribe](https://scribehow.com/): Advanced tools for taking documentation to the next level.

In the past, when I used to design, I wrote numerous tutorials explaining how to use Photoshop, involving the manual capture of many screenshots.

With tools like Scribe, creating tutorials has become significantly easier. Explore the [Scribe gallery](https://scribehow.com/gallery) to discover a wealth of walkthroughs created by people like you.

Overall, implementing SOPs and utilizing the recommended tools can revolutionize your workflow, bringing clarity, efficiency, and improved quality to your processes.
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            <title><![CDATA[AI Bookmarks (Reading List and Tools)]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Sun, 16 Jul 2023 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[My fast-changing list of AI bookmarks, including reading list, case studies, tools, courses, and trusted people.]]></description>
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Here's my fast-changing list of AI bookmarks, including reading list, case studies, tools, courses, and trusted people.

## Large Language Models (LLMs)

- [AI21 Studio](https://www.ai21.com/studio)
- [Cohere](https://cohere.com/)
- [Gemma](https://ai.google.dev/gemma/) (Open Source) [Gemma on Hugging Face](https://huggingface.co/google/gemma-7b-it)
- [Mixtral-8x7B](https://huggingface.co/mistralai/Mixtral-8x7B-v0.1)
- [Ollama](https://ollama.com/): Open-source tool for building and running language models on a local machine.

## Case Studies

- [Extract Structured Data From Text: Expert Mode (Using Kor)](<https://github.com/gkamradt/langchain-tutorials/blob/main/data_generation/Expert%20Structured%20Output%20(Using%20Kor).ipynb>)
- [Free Script](https://colab.research.google.com/drive/1NeJbtLGCEszwAkaq9KQ_9Ai-52wmAska#scrollTo=rL-UYrcMGNY_) - Automatic Schema Enhancement: Improve Search Visibility With the Help of GPT4 via [Kristin Tynski](https://www.linkedin.com/posts/kristintynski_gpt4-googlecolab-python-activity-7058863537414131713-ggIV?utm_source=share&utm_medium=member_desktop)
- [Use ChatGPT to clean company names](https://burly-dessert-828.notion.site/Use-ChatGPT-to-clean-company-names-d714eabddc9442fbb969e1924fd1ea1f)
- [Using GPT-3 To Automate Your Workflows (Full Tutorial)](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZrpKQVNtTws)

## Prompts

- [ChatGPT can access the internet, use APIs and display images! Might need a few tries and often throws a final "network error" but it works.](https://twitter.com/SchmartinMartin/status/1602462324429922310)

## Blogs

## Lists

- [Supertools](https://supertools.therundown.ai/)

## People

- [Greg Kamradt](https://github.com/gkamradt), [@GregKamradt](https://twitter.com/GregKamradt)

## Tools

| Tool                                                                         | Description                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              | Open-Source |
| ---------------------------------------------------------------------------- | ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ | ----------- |
| [Phind](https://www.phind.com/)                                              | Personal search-enabled assistant for programmers.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       | No          |
| [LangChain](https://python.langchain.com/docs/get_started/introduction.html) | A framework for developing applications powered by language models. It enables applications that are data-aware and agentic.                                                                                                                                                                                             | Yes         |
| [LlamaIndex](https://gpt-index.readthedocs.io/en/latest/index.html)          | LlamaIndex (GPT Index) is a data framework for your LLM application.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     | Yes         |
| [Chroma](https://www.trychroma.com/)                                         | The AI-native open-source embedding database.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            | Yes         |
| [Vectara](https://vectara.com/)                                              | Vectara is a developer-first API platform for easily building conversational search experiences that feature best-in-class Retrieval, Summarization, and “Grounded Generation” that all but eliminates hallucinations.                                                                                                   | No          |
| [Chainlit](https://chainlit.io/)                                             | An open-source asynchronous Python framework for building scalable conversational AI or agentic applications quickly and efficiently.                                                                                                                                                                                    | Yes         |
| [Embedchain](https://embedchain.ai/)                                         | An open-source retrieval-augmented generation (RAG) framework that simplifies the creation and deployment of AI applications using RAG models.                                                                                                                                                                           | Yes         |
| [CrewAI](https://www.crewai.io/)                                             | An open-source Python framework designed to orchestrate the collaboration of autonomous AI agents, enabling them to work together seamlessly to accomplish complex tasks.                                                                                                                                                | Yes         |
| [Devv.ai](https://devv.ai/)                                                  | A next-generation search engine for developers offering various modes like Fast Mode for quick answers, Agent Mode powered by GPT-4 for complex questions, and GitHub Mode for interacting with repositories. Provides lightning-fast responses, documentation, and code snippets to assist developers in their queries. | No          |

## Courses

- [ChatGPT Prompt Engineering for Developers](https://www.deeplearning.ai/short-courses/chatgpt-prompt-engineering-for-developers/)
- [Learn Prompting](https://learnprompting.org/)
- [LLM University](https://docs.cohere.com/docs/llmu)
- [LangChain: Chat with Your Data](https://www.deeplearning.ai/short-courses/langchain-chat-with-your-data/)

To be continued...
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            <title><![CDATA[SEO Bookmarks (Reading List and Tools)]]></title>
            <link>https://tomaslau.com/blog/seo-bookmarks</link>
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            <pubDate>Sat, 15 Jul 2023 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[My evolving list of SEO bookmarks including reading material, case studies, tools, courses and trusted people.]]></description>
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Here's my evolving list of SEO bookmarks including reading material, case studies, tools, courses and trusted people.

- [Learn Programmatic SEO and Grow Your Google Search Traffic](https://www.preetamnath.com/programmatic-seo) by Preetam Nath
- [Building Long-Tail Keyword Lists for Programmatic SEO](https://mackgrenfell.com/blog/building-long-tail-keyword-lists-for-programmatic-seo) by Mike Taylor
- [Building 2,000 Unique SEO Pages with GPT-3](https://mackgrenfell.com/blog/building-2-000-unique-seo-pages-with-gpt-3) by Mack Grenfell
- [Find programmatic SEO datasets](https://ian.is/blog/find-programmatic-seo-datasets/) by Ian Nuttall
- [How to Acquire Websites Using Cold Email](https://playbooks.com/guide/cold-emails/) by Ian Nuttall

## Case Studies

- [Growing a Habit Tracker App using Programmatic SEO](https://www.preetamnath.com/programmatic-seo/grow-habit-tracker-app-case-study) by Preetam Nath
- [Podia's hub of competitor comparison pages](https://marketingexamples.com/seo/comparison-hub) by Harry Dry
- [The Canva Backlink Empire: How SEO, Outreach & Content Led To A $6B Valuation](https://foundationinc.co/lab/canva-seo) by Ross Simmonds
- [How Notion Built A $2B SaaS Startup Through Community & Templates](https://foundationinc.co/lab/notion-strategy) by Josh Gallant
- [How MasterClass Built a $2.8 Billion EdTech Empire in 7 Years](https://foundationinc.co/lab/masterclass-empire/) by Ross Simmonds
- [The Growth Toolkit: How Shopify Landed 188,029 Links & 2M Visits](https://foundationinc.co/lab/the-growth-toolkit/) by Ross Simmonds
- [Grubhub's link building strategy](https://marketingexamples.com/seo/grubhub-link-building) by Harry Dry
- [SEO project marketing](https://marketingexamples.com/seo/seo-project-marketing) by Harry Dry
- [How Nomad List dominates longer tail keywords](https://marketingexamples.com/seo/long-tail-keywords) by Harry Dry
- [SEO Marketing Examples](https://marketingexamples.com/seo) by Harry Dry

## Checklists

- [Technical SEO Audit Checklist](https://www.danielkcheung.com/technical-seo-checklist/) by Daniel K Cheung

## Blogs

- [Gaps](https://gaps.com/) by Glen Allsopp
- [Detailed](https://detailed.com/) by Glen Allsopp
- [Backlinko](https://backlinko.com/) by Brian Dean

## People

- [Mack Grenfell](https://mackgrenfell.com/), [@MackGrenfell](https://twitter.com/MackGrenfell)
- [Ane Wiese](https://www.linkedin.com/in/ane-wiese-seo-cro-saas-strategy/)
- [Ian Nuttall](https://ian.is/), [@iannuttall](https://twitter.com/iannuttall)
- [Glen Allsopp](https://detailed.com/glen-allsopp/), [@ViperChill](https://twitter.com/ViperChill)
- [Kristin Tynski](https://www.linkedin.com/in/kristintynski/)

## Tools

- [Google Search Console](https://search.google.com/search-console?utm_source=about-page)
- [PageSpeed Insights](https://pagespeed.web.dev/)
- [Bulk Page Speed Test](https://www.experte.com/pagespeed)
- [GTmetrix](https://gtmetrix.com/)
- [Google Sheets](https://www.google.com/sheets/about/)
- [Ahrefs](https://ahrefs.com/)
- [Clearscope](https://www.clearscope.io/)

## Courses

- [SEO Blueprint](https://seoblueprint.com/) by Glen Allsopp
- [Authority Hacker Courses](https://www.authorityhacker.com/courses/)
- [Lean SEO: Our Framework For SEO Traction](https://www.starterstory.com/lean-seo) by Pat Walls

To be continued...
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            <title><![CDATA[Cockroach Startups: Build a Company That's Hard to Kill]]></title>
            <link>https://tomaslau.com/blog/hard-to-kill</link>
            <guid isPermaLink="false">https://tomaslau.com/blog/hard-to-kill</guid>
            <pubDate>Thu, 13 Jul 2023 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[Like cockroaches, the most resilient startups adapt and thrive in any environment. Learn strategies from Paul Graham on building a company that's hard to kill.]]></description>
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Cockroaches are awesome, but only when we talk about startups and staying alive.

Cockroaches are resilient creatures capable of surviving extreme conditions.

Like cockroaches, startups need to be adaptable and robust to thrive in competitive environments.

[Paul Graham](https://www.paulgraham.com/index.html) leveraged a technological advantage early in his career by using Lisp, which enabled rapid iteration. He could implement new features daily, which is unheard of in corporate settings.

This raises an important question:

How can I make my tech stack and workflows so efficient that I can run more experiments?

**"The cheaper your company is to operate, the harder it is to kill." – Paul Graham**

Running lean allows more room for failure and flexibility.

If you minimize the costs, you immediately increase the upside and profitability.

Inspired by relentless resourcefulness, I decided to learn to code and moved my blog to [Vercel](https://vercel.com/), which is free for personal projects.

At [Best Writing](https://bestwriting.com), we minimized monthly costs to $300, and there's still room for optimization.

Source: [Founders Podcast, #275 Paul Graham's Essays](https://founders.simplecast.com/episodes/275-paul-grahams-essays).
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            <title><![CDATA[My Favorite Personal Blogs]]></title>
            <link>https://tomaslau.com/blog/personal-blogs</link>
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            <pubDate>Wed, 12 Jul 2023 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[At the far edges of global madness, you can find some thoughtful personal websites created by people loving their craft and sharing their life and work stories.]]></description>
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The web often feels like a race for performance.

Who gets more likes, pageviews, and ads. Who installs more trackers and popups. Who sells what.

However, the web is not dead.

At the far edges of global madness, you can still find some neat and thoughtful personal websites created by people who love their craft and want to share their life and work stories.

Here's a list of some of my favorite personal blogs I read from time to time:

- [Julian Shapiro](https://www.julian.com/): Investor, marketer and thoughtful writer.
- [Pat Walls](https://patwalls.com/): Entrepreneur, writer and founder of Starter Story.
- [Edgaras](https://edgaras.com): Designer and coder, co-founder of Best Writing and my best friend.
- [Kevin Kelly](https://kk.org/): Writer, explorer, thinker and optimist. Co-founder of Wired.
- [Manu](https://manuelmoreale.com/): Manu is developer and writer.
- [Derek Sivers](https://sive.rs/): A musician, circus performer, entrepreneur, and TED speaker.
- [Paul Stamatiou](https://paulstamatiou.com/): Designer and coder.
- [Julian Lehr](https://julian.digital/): Thoughtful designer and thinker.
- [Nat Eliason](https://www.nateliason.com/): Reader, writer and curious modern philosopher.
- [Nathan Barry](https://nathanbarry.com/): Creator, author, speaker, designer, and the founder of ConvertKit.
- [Adam Durrant](https://adamdurrant.co.uk/): SEO specialist and front-end developer.
- [Rauno Freiberg](https://rauno.me/): Design engineer at Vercel, devoted to fine, detailed polish.
- [Sam Becker](https://sambecker.com/): Product designer at Vercel.

To be continued...
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            <title><![CDATA[Increments: Growth Habits & Routines]]></title>
            <link>https://tomaslau.com/blog/increments</link>
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            <pubDate>Tue, 04 Jul 2023 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[What it takes to reach the next level in life, work, and relationships? It's all about growth. Incrementally becoming better at life, work, and relationships.]]></description>
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![Increments](/images/increments-book.jpg)
What does it take to reach the next level in life, work, and relationships?

It's all about **growth**. Incrementally becoming better at life, work, and relationships.

[Get the book](https://growthlog.gumroad.com/l/increments)

## Habits, Routines & Tools

![Increments](/images/increments-preview-1.jpg)
Successful entrepreneurs, writers, designers, marketers, athletes, scientists, philanthropists, and artists shared their ✍️ **habits**, ⏰ **routines**, and 📚 **tools**.

[Get the book](https://growthlog.gumroad.com/l/increments)

## Featuring Inspiring People

![Increments](/images/increments-preview-2.jpg)
Arianna Huffington, Dan Ariely, Brian Dean, Richard Meadows, Paul Jarvis, Paul Minors, Ryan Robinson, Steph Smith, David Kadavy, among many other brilliant thinkers and doers.

[Get the book](https://growthlog.gumroad.com/l/increments)

Full list:

- Max Deutsch
- Andrew Henderson
- Andrej Ilisin
- Richard Meadows
- Demir and Carey Bentley
- Benjamin Spall
- Brittany Berger
- Shane Vitaly Foran
- Spencer Fry
- Matas Jakutis
- Liam Martin
- Sean Kim
- Paul Millerd
- Loretta Breuning
- Patricia Parkinson
- Ryan Robinson
- Lydia Lee
- Joel Runyon

## What Do You Get?

![Increments](/images/increments-full-preview.jpg)
Once you buy, you'll get an instant access to PDF and a live Notion document where you can leave your feedback, suggestions, and ideas.

[Get the book](https://growthlog.gumroad.com/l/increments)

## About the Author

Hi! 👋 I'm Tomas Laurinavicius. I'm a founder, marketer, designer and writer from Lithuania living in Spain. [Learn more about me](/about) and what I do.
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            <title><![CDATA[My Favorite Stuff for Work and Play]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Mon, 03 Jul 2023 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[My collection of essential apps and tools for productivity and simplifying life, from efficient lifting with StrongLifts to privacy-focused browsing with Brave.]]></description>
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Some of my favorite apps and tools I use in life and work, listed in no particular order:

- [Cursor](https://cursor.sh/): The best AI-first code editor for building things quickly.
- [StrongLifts](https://stronglifts.com/): The best lifting app I've ever used, simple and effective, based on the 5x5 strength program.
- [Brave](https://brave.com/): A fast and privacy-focused Chrome alternative.
- [Ahrefs](https://ahrefs.com/): My go-to tool for keyword research, market analysis, and competitor research.
- [1Password](https://1password.com/): A powerful and intuitive password manager for securely storing and sharing sensitive data.
- [Signal](https://signal.org): A privacy-focused messenger app highly recommended by Snowden.
- [Framer](https://www.framer.com/): A fast and visually stunning website builder.
- [Notion](https://www.notion.so/): The all-in-one app for wikis, documentation, and project management.
- [Gmail](https://mail.google.com/): After trying various options, I found Gmail to be the best with its strong spam filters and fast interface.
- [CleanShot X](https://cleanshot.com/): Capture your Mac's screen like a pro.
- [Google Drive](https://drive.google.com/): An affordable and user-friendly file storage solution.
- [Figma](https://www.figma.com/): A super-fast and powerful interface design tool with a large community and extensive template library. I rarely start from scratch.
- [Raycast](https://www.raycast.com/): Replaces Mac's spotlight search with powerful tools and apps. I switched from TextExpander and Alfred.
- [Slack](https://slack.com/): An intuitive and enjoyable chat app.
- [Spotify](https://open.spotify.com/): My daily companion for listening to music and podcasts while working, exercising, or running errands.
- [ChatGPT](https://chat.openai.com/): It quickly replaced Google for me for generating ideas and troubleshooting code.
- [Phind](https://www.phind.com): AI search engine for developers with real-time browsing and code generation capabilities.

To be continued...
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            <title><![CDATA[How to Set Up Favicon for Your Next.js Project]]></title>
            <link>https://tomaslau.com/blog/nextjs-favicons</link>
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            <pubDate>Sun, 02 Jul 2023 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[Learn how to set up a favicon for your Next.js project using a complete favicon generator in Figma.]]></description>
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Here are some useful resources if you're trying to set up a favicon for your Next.js project.

- [Complete Favicon Generator](https://www.figma.com/community/file/914233657397286062): In the end, I used this generator in Figma. Thank you, [Ernest Ojeh](https://www.figma.com/@ernest)!

- [Metadata Files API Reference (favicon, icon, and apple-icon)](https://nextjs.org/docs/app/api-reference/file-conventions/metadata/app-icons) from the official Next.js documentation. I found it not very clear and spent time asking [Phind](https://www.phind.com/) to help me find a solution.

- [RealFaviconGenerator](https://realfavicongenerator.net/): It promises to generate perfect favicon files in 5 minutes. It's doing a good job, but many files were missing.

- [Favicon checker](https://realfavicongenerator.net/favicon_checker): Use this tool to check if everything is working properly. It has some requirements, and I deployed without satisfying all of them.

Here's my working code snippet:

```tsx
export const metadata: Metadata = {
  title: "Growthlog by Tomas Laurinavicius",
  description:
    "Welcome to Growthlog by Tomas Laurinavicius, a founder, marketer, designer, and writer from Lithuania, based in Spain.",
  manifest: "/manifest.json",
  icons: {
    shortcut: { url: "/favicon.ico", type: "image/x-icon" },
    icon: [
      { url: "/favicon.ico", type: "image/x-icon" },
      { url: "/favicon.svg", type: "image/svg+xml" },
      { url: "/favicon-16x16.png", type: "image/png", sizes: "16x16" },
      { url: "/favicon-32x32.png", type: "image/png", sizes: "32x32" },
      { url: "/favicon-96x96.png", type: "image/png", sizes: "96x96" },
      {
        url: "/favicon-192x192.png",
        type: "image/png",
        sizes: "192x192",
      },
    ],
    apple: [
      { url: "/favicon-57x57.png", sizes: "57x57", type: "image/png" },
      { url: "/favicon-60x60.png", sizes: "60x60", type: "image/png" },
      { url: "/favicon-72x72.png", sizes: "72x72", type: "image/png" },
      { url: "/favicon-76x76.png", sizes: "76x76", type: "image/png" },
      {
        url: "/favicon-114x114.png",
        sizes: "114x114",
        type: "image/png",
      },
      {
        url: "/favicon-120x120.png",
        sizes: "120x120",
        type: "image/png",
      },
      {
        url: "/favicon-144x144.png",
        sizes: "144x144",
        type: "image/png",
      },
      {
        url: "/favicon-152x152.png",
        sizes: "152x152",
        type: "image/png",
      },
      {
        url: "/favicon-180x180.png",
        sizes: "180x180",
        type: "image/png",
      },
    ],
  },
};
```
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            <title><![CDATA[Follow the Breadcrumbs: How to Find More of What You Like]]></title>
            <link>https://tomaslau.com/blog/breadcrumbs</link>
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            <pubDate>Sat, 25 Feb 2023 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[Discover more of what you like by following the breadcrumbs, subtle hints from your past. Start your journey and see where it leads.]]></description>
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![Follow the breadcrumbs to find more of what you like](/images/follow-the-breadcrumbs-how-to-find-more-of-what-you-like.png)

**Breadcrumbs are scattered all around. These subtle hints of history, preferences, choices, and ideas can reveal a lot about the things you enjoy.**

I recently realized that following breadcrumbs is an effective method for discovering more of what you love.

Currently, I am absorbed in listening to Founders, a podcast created by David Senra that features biographies of prominent entrepreneurs.

In 5th episode, the spotlight was on [Steve Jobs](https://founders.simplecast.com/episodes/5-steve-jobs), who expressed his fascination with Da Vinci.

It caught my interest, and I turned to the Da Vinci episode, which mentioned Machiavelli, a name I recognized from book recommendations.

Since Machiavelli's writing had influenced many of the individuals I found fascinating, there's a high probability that I would enjoy it too.

Now, let's backtrack to how I discovered the Founders podcast.

When I began my nomadic lifestyle in 2013, I met several entrepreneurs and curious people who mentioned that they enjoyed reading biographies.

I took a mental note but never followed through.

With time I began to hear the same recommendation repeatedly while [reading books](/blog/reading-list) and listening to podcasts.

Some years ago, I discovered [My First Million](https://www.mfmpod.com/) podcast and heard about [How to Take Over the World](https://www.httotw.com/), another fascinating podcast exploring the biographies of the most powerful people in history.

Later on, Andrew Wilkinson, whom I admire, mentioned that he listened to the [Founders](https://founders.simplecast.com/) podcast.

Curious, I followed the breadcrumb trail he had left and was pleasantly surprised to find that the podcast resonated with me. It feels like it's made just for me.

Thank you, [David](https://twitter.com/founderspodcast)!

The takeaway here is to pay attention to the small details, the breadcrumbs, as they can lead you to discover things you never knew you would enjoy.
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            <title><![CDATA[Best SaaS Website Design Inspiration Sources for 2024]]></title>
            <link>https://tomaslau.com/blog/saas-inspiration</link>
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            <pubDate>Wed, 22 Feb 2023 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[My favorite sources for SaaS examples, resources, best practices, inspiration, and templates.]]></description>
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My favorite sources for SaaS examples, resources, best practices, inspiration, and templates.

For anyone building, improving, and working with SaaS.

**[Figma Community](https://www.figma.com/community/search?resource_type=mixed&sort_by=popular&query=saas&editor_type=all)**. Simply search Figma community and you'll always find new inspiring examples, resources and templates.

![Figma Community](/images/figma-community.jpg)

**[LandingFolio](https://www.landingfolio.com/)**. A searchable database of the best landing page designs, templates, and components.

![LandingFolio](/images/landingfolio.jpg)

**[Mobbin](https://mobbin.com/)**. Browse and search across hundreds of iOS apps for UI & UX research.

![Mobbin](/images/mobbin.jpg)

**[SaaS Landing Page Examples](https://saaslandingpage.com/)**. A gallery featuring 740 landing page examples created by top-class SaaS companies.

![SaaS Landing Page Examples](/images/saas-landing-page-examples.jpg)

**[SaaS Interface](https://saasinterface.com/)**. At the time of writing, this gallery has 1,606 SaaS app UI and UX design examples and super affordable annual plan.

![SaaS Interface](/images/saas-interface.jpg)

**[SaaSFrame](https://www.saasframe.io/)**. Design research library for SaaS makers, including marketing pages, product interfaces and emails. You can analyze flows, advanced filters and Figma files.

![SaaSFrame](/images/saasframe.jpg)
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            <title><![CDATA[My 12 Problems: What Are Yours?]]></title>
            <link>https://tomaslau.com/blog/problems</link>
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            <pubDate>Tue, 02 Aug 2022 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[The main goal is to start filtering the information that goes my way and apply solutions to solve these problems.]]></description>
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I get lost on the web daily. There’s so much information it’s easy to get overwhelmed but this may help.

![Problems](/images/problems.jpg)

While following my curiosity is fun and games, I want to build a company that helps writers make a living, pays my bills, and allows me to create even more.

Without filters and a clear path, all the information becomes noise. Information is nothing without application.

Inspired by [John Nicholas](https://www.johnnicholas.org/writing-12-problems/), I decided to share my 12 favorite problems.

This list is a quick brain dump and will evolve with time.

The main goal is to start filtering the information that goes my way and apply solutions to solve these problems.

## People

1. How to keep in touch with different groups of people and **support my family and friends** with their problems?
2. How to **connect in person** with more interesting people in my city?

## Work

1. How to build an ecosystem where writers connect and collaborate with businesses, and everyone wins?
2. How to leverage user-generated content to turn and keep turning the Best Writing flywheel?
3. How to best build a sustainable and ethical business I’m proud of with limited money and time resources?
4. How to use the abundance of data and automation tools to build and launch digital products quickly?
5. What can I do to place more bets? How can I use my writing, design, and marketing skills to run more experiments and increase the odds of succeeding?

## Health

1. How to rest effectively, so I don’t feel guilty about not working or learning?
2. How to implement mobility and knee exercises into my routines to prevent injuries and increase longevity?

## Personal

1. How to implement mental frameworks to operate optimally, utilizing my natural interests and focusing on high-leverage and high ROI (return-on-investment) activities?
2. How to simplify my life?
3. How to learn to enjoy the inevitable (e.g., paying taxes, regularly visiting a doctor, washing dishes)?

That’s about it.

I'm curious to see what problems you're trying to solve.

Please send me your list of problems (privately or publicly), and I’ll share it here with your permission.
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            <title><![CDATA[What If You’re Just a Spectator?]]></title>
            <link>https://tomaslau.com/blog/spectator</link>
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            <pubDate>Sat, 23 Jan 2021 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[If we act for the whole, everyone wins and we’ll enjoy more prosperity, more opportunities, more respect, and less chaos.]]></description>
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If we act for the whole, everyone wins and we’ll enjoy more prosperity, more opportunities, more respect, and less chaos.

How can you ensure that things are happening to you and not you are causing them?

From our self-centric perspective, it may be easy to assume that things happen to us because we are the cause, but why if the opposite is true?

What if you’re just a spectator?

You don’t come up with an idea, it comes to you. You don’t write the book, it enters the world through you. You don’t build a business, the problem finds the way to monetization through you and your skills.

But then, who takes the credit? Sometimes you, sometimes no one. Sometimes it’s for the good of the world.

It can be liberating to detach yourself from ideas, work, results, titles, and achievements. These things weigh a lot and automatically carry expectations, and…

Expectations create drama.

That’s friction by default.

Once any of your expectation isn’t met, you feel bad and suffer more than necessary. Your ego takes over and forces you to blindly look for ways to prove yourself. As you already know, it rarely ends up being a good use of time. You feed the ego by burning bridges and acting as there’s no tomorrow.

But then, do we just sit and do nothing because we have no power over the things that happen to us? I don’t think so. There are certain things that you can influence and most of the time it happens when you’re aware.

Human nature is inherently flawed and destructive. It helped our ancestors survive but if we want to build a better future we need to be smarter in ways that we observe ourselves and act in the best interest of the whole, not just the short term personal gain. If we act for the whole, everyone wins and we’ll enjoy more prosperity, more opportunities, more respect, and less chaos.

The next time you’re about to do something, observe yourself, where does it come from? The idea, the feeling, the craving, the desire… If it’s there just to materialize and waste your time feeding your ego, just wait. It will pass. It always does.

Now your job becomes actively filtering what happens through you. Is it causality? It is, partly. You’re now the gatekeeper of what happens through you.

How do you know if something serves only you and not the whole?

Think about it this way, exclude yourself from the whole and see how it feels, if it feels like losing, it might be the right thing to do as your ego is scared to death to be excluded.

To sum up, the idea is not to become an altruist and never think of yourself, the idea is to think of yourself in terms as a whole that exists because there is no other way you exist other than the whole. So instead of depriving the system, do your part so the system flourishes and as a result, you, a small part of the whole will gain more than you would by only serving yourself.
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            <title><![CDATA[If You're Not Paying, You're the Product]]></title>
            <link>https://tomaslau.com/blog/you-are-the-product</link>
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            <pubDate>Fri, 22 Jan 2021 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[I purged most of the apps and realized that most of the stuff is just noise.]]></description>
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I purged most of the apps and realized that most of the stuff is just noise.

_“If you are not paying for it, you’re the product being sold.”_

It’s [not entirely clear who is the author](https://quoteinvestigator.com/2017/07/16/product/) of this quote and variations of it but it’s getting more attention. Especially after recent [privacy scandals](https://www.theguardian.com/technology/2019/jun/20/facebook-usage-collapsed-since-scandal-data-shows) at tech companies, most notably at Facebook.

When you _pay_ for Netflix, Spotify, Dropbox and any other service you know exactly what you get. When you _don’t pay_ for stuff such as blogs, articles, webinars, and courses, you start a journey with no clear milestones and no clear destination.

It can be costly.

You can end up in the wrong place, you can waste a lot of time, or worse, you can start believing that you need something you don’t.

Desire can be manufactured. Being a marketer myself, I know how companies build [sophisticated customer journeys](https://bestwriting.com/blog/customer-journey-content-marketing) to sell stuff and keep you hooked.

Why is this important?

The answer is **opportunity cost**.

By choosing something available for free, you enter into a contract with no clear terms. You don’t know how much time, attention and energy it will require to get what you want. Instead of wandering, you can choose to pay for what you’re seeking for and get exactly that.

Just think about all the lost opportunities and great things you could do with your time.

Now, what’s the alternative?

I wish there was a browser extension that would instantly show what the website is selling and what’s the amount I can expect to spend (monthly, yearly, lifetime).

As far as I know, there’s no such solution yet and the only solution I found so far is to **seek clarity**.

Why was I using Facebook? To connect with my family and friends. It became a huge distraction and didn’t serve me so I deleted it.

I purged most of the apps and realized that most of the stuff is just noise.

The next time someone offers you something for free, think twice about what you’re giving away.
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            <title><![CDATA[Growth Habits of Finance Blogger: Insights from Richard Meadows]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Sun, 10 Jan 2021 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[Finance blogger and author Richard Meadows shares his most influential habits, time management techniques, and insights on growth and productivity.]]></description>
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![Growth Habits of Finance Blogger: Insights from Richard Meadows](/images/richard-meadows-growth-habits-interview.jpg)

Meet Richard Meadows, a finance blogger, investor, journalist, world traveler, and bestselling author.

My friend [Yuri](https://marketful.com/blog/yuri-burchenya-interview/) recommended I read the [Deep Dish](https://thedeepdish.org/) blog. I read a lot of his work and was surprised by his writing style, honesty, and rationality.

I got an advanced copy of his new book and I can assure you it is full of contrarian ideas and valuable research to help you design a more robust and enjoyable lifestyle. This world is getting weirder as we speak, and Optionality offers some great ideas to help you adapt. It's is one of my best reads this year.

Here’s my interview with Richard Meadows sharing his most influential habit in life, hard-learned investing lessons, and one question that makes navigating through life easier.

## Who Is Richard Meadows?

![Richard Meadows is a finance columnist, investor, and journalist. His writing and gonzo lifestyle experiments have been featured in the likes of CNBC, MSN, Vice, and Yahoo Finance.](/images/richard-meadows-hiking.jpg)

Richard Meadows is a finance columnist, investor, and journalist. His writing and gonzo lifestyle experiments have been featured in the likes of CNBC, MSN, Vice, and Yahoo Finance.

![Optionality by Richard Meadows.](/images/optionality-book-by-richard-meadows.jpg)

_[Optionality](https://amzn.to/3fG8RDH) by Richard Meadows._

After quitting his full-time job at age 25, Richard reached financial independence while traveling and living across three different continents, which he wrote about in his recently-launched book, [Optionality: How to Survive and Thrive in a Volatile World](https://amzn.to/3fG8RDH).

## What Are the Most Influential Habits in Your Life?

Resistance training has been my north star for the last decade. This is the single keystone habit that brings everything else into alignment for me—my mental health, my sense of self-discipline, my diet, sleep, and general quality of life.

Whenever I miss workouts for longer than a week or so, something feels off.

Of all the habits I’ve tried to instil, this is the one that has stuck with me the longest, has the highest return on investment, and is so deeply ingrained that it no longer requires any willpower on my part.

## How Do You Manage Time?

I hate the feeling of having a bunch of loose ends floating around in my head, so I use a [modified version of David Allen’s ‘Getting Things Done’](https://thedeepdish.org/roam-research-for-getting-things-done-gtd/) to pin them to the page.

I have a bad memory, so this has made a big difference to my productivity and being able to relax. I also just find it weirdly satisfying to have a kind of project management system for my whole life, rather than leaving everything up to chance.

## What's Your Work Process and Thinking Behind It?

Taking a leaf from [Cal Newport’s book](https://amzn.to/361GXyo), I try to do my uninterrupted ‘deep work’ in the mornings.

That means no email, no social media, no meetings, or any other distractions. It takes me a while to spin up and load everything I need to think about into my cache—usually I don’t start producing anything useful until about 45 minutes in, so shorter blocks of time don’t really work.

I use an app called [Freedom](https://freedom.to/) to ban myself from distracting websites, which has saved my ass on countless occasions.

The afternoons and evenings are more relaxed. I like to do creative, idea-generation work which often benefits from being a little scatter-brained, transcribe my notes, do admin and chores, and so on.

## How Do You Train Your Body and Mind?

I started out dabbling in amateur strength sports (powerlifting and strongman), then got into calisthenics when I went traveling. I ended up [really enjoying it](https://thedeepdish.org/calisthenics/), and haven’t switched back to lifting.

I’m not as strong or muscular as I used to be, but I’m much more flexible, have developed a better sense of proprioception and mastery over my body, and generally just feel less beat up.

I’m not sure I do anything that would qualify as ‘training’ for the mind, although I do try to write every day, which I suppose is the equivalent of deliberate practice in my field. I’m also a big believer in doing some kind of introspective practice for self-growth, whether it be journaling, meditation, psychedelics, or therapy.

## How Do You Meet and Connect with People?

Historically I haven’t put much effort into this, so I’m trying to make up for lost time.

I’m more active and intentional on Twitter lately ([let’s be friends](https://twitter.com/MeadowsRichard)), and am generally taking out every cheap option for attracting like-minded people into my life.

Fortunately, one of the [happy side effects of blogging](https://thedeepdish.org/blogging-serendipity/) is that it acts as a lightning rod for serendipity, and I’ve ended up meeting several of my closest friends and confidants as a consequence of writing in public.

My next challenge will be building a community offline. I’ve been living the nomadic life since 2016, which is a great way to meet people—everyone is looking to make friends, there are no cliques—but difficult to sustain long term. Once I settle down, I’m planning on doing some community-building, which will involve attending meetups, finding niche interest groups, going on coffee dates, and perhaps starting some kind of get-together to throw me into the mix with like-minded people.

## What Are Your Sleeping Rituals?

I used to be paranoid about getting enough quality sleep, but now it seems like there’s a certain level of fearmongering going on, and some [scientific shenanigans](https://guzey.com/books/why-we-sleep/).

I’m still doing all the basic stuff like avoiding screens before bed, using blackout curtains or a face mask, and trying to maintain a schedule, but I don’t beat myself up about not getting eight hours.

## What Are Your Investing Habits?

Like many people, I started out buying individual stocks that I thought would perform well. I [lost $10,000](https://thedeepdish.org/catching-a-falling-knife/) pretty early on, which was a great lesson. That was a catalyst for finally converting to the passive investing ‘buy-and-hold forever’ school, which I still practice to this day.

However, I’ve also set aside some of my portfolio to dabble with some slightly more [advanced strategies](https://thedeepdish.org/advanced-investing-barbell-strategy/) in the hunt for asymmetric returns—highly speculative bets which would either make me a whole lot of money, or go to zero. At this point in time, that side of my portfolio has generated something like a 300x return.

The most important investing habits is to automate things as much as possible—both in terms of drip-feeding money into the market as an enforced savings plan, and in preventing yourself from getting weak hands and doing something stupid.

The idea is to commit to a strategy ahead of time, and then make it hard for your future self to deviate from in the heat of the moment.

If you’re doing any more fancy than basic index investing, the other crucial habit is to calculate and track your annual return (I use the [Bogleheads spreadsheet](https://www.bogleheads.org/wiki/Calculating_personal_returns)), and compare it against appropriate benchmarks. If you don’t do this, you’re guaranteed to start selectively remembering your wins, and discounting your losses. It is incredibly tempting to think that you’re a market-beating genius, but sadly, this is [highly unlikely to be true](https://thedeepdish.org/efficient-market-hypothesis-is-not-dead/).

## What's One Question That Helped You Understand the World Better?

> What do you think you know, and why do you think you know it?

This is a recurring line in the first and last Harry Potter fanfiction I will ever read (seriously, [it’s great](http://www.hpmor.com/)), written by an AI researcher who founded a community of ‘rationalists’ aspiring to make better decisions and model the world more accurately.

I ask myself this question all the time: when I’m reading the news, listening to someone else speak, thinking about the social consensus on a given topic, or during my own self-criticism and introspection. The idea is to try to catch myself in motivated reasoning, to go back to first principles when necessary, and make sure my map of the world is as clear as possible.

It’s necessarily imperfect, but I quite like living in a slightly ambiguous and uncertain world. It’s very liberating not to feel compelled to have an opinion on everything.
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            <title><![CDATA[Life Lessons I Learned in 2020]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Fri, 01 Jan 2021 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[I'm sipping red tea and finishing my birthday cake while reviewing my calendar and photos from 2020. What was that?]]></description>
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Annual review of 2020. A year like no other.

![Tulum, Mexico](/images/tulum-mexico-tomaslau-2020.jpg)

Tulum, Mexico.

*“There are decades where nothing happens; and there are weeks where decades happen.”* – Vladimir Ilyich Lenin

This century-old quote perfectly sums up the weeks when the pandemic became uncontrollable and the World Health Organization announced it a global pandemic. I was on my way from Mexico to Lithuania and together with my wife we safely returned before the government decided to seal the country and close the borders. Then the weeks Lenin refers to happened. Stocks plummeted, crypto nosedived, oil was trading at negative prices, and everyone was freaking out. Remote work overnight became the norm and the present of work.

The year is over but the events that started in 2020 continue.

I'm sipping red tea and finishing my birthday cake while reviewing my calendar and photos from 2020. What was that?

It's been another year on this planet and oh boy what a colorful human experience can be.

I've been writing my annual review since 2013 and now is the time to wrap up 2020 – a year like no other (and no more please).

Today, I’d like to review my year and share the highlights, failures, successes, and biggest life lessons of 2020. It's been a crazy wild ride and I'm grateful to still be here publishing my thoughts to you my internet friend.

☕️ *This post contains partner links earning me commissions if you buy something at no extra cost to you.*

## Highlights

You only value things you don't have. You only understand how much you love the ordinary and boring when really bad things happen. 2020 was a year that we may never forget but many good things happened as well.

![Chichen Itza, Mexico](/images/chichen-itza-mexico-tomaslau-2020.jpg)

Chichen Itza, Mexico.

![Exploring Cozumel, Mexico](/images/exploring-cozumel-mexico-tomaslau-2020.jpg)

Exploring Cozumel, Mexico.

![Quad biking in Cusco, Peru](/images/quad-biking-in-cusco-peru-tomaslau-2020.jpg)

Quad biking in Cusco, Peru.

![My best friend's wedding. Vilnius, Lithuania](/images/my-best-friends-wedding-vilnius-lithuania-2020.jpg)

My best friend's wedding. Vilnius, Lithuania.

![After playing paintball during the bachelor party. Lithuania](/images/after-playing-paintball-during-the-bachelor-party-lithuania-2020.jpg)

After playing paintball during the bachelor party. Lithuania.

![Vilnius old town, Lithuania](/images/vilnius-old-town-lithuania-2020.jpg)

Vilnius old town, Lithuania.

Here are the highlights of 2020:

- Celebrated New Year with my wife's family in Santiago, Chile.
- Explored Lima, Peru enjoying one of the best cuisines in the world.
- Visited Machu Picchu ⛰ for the second time.
- Explored the magnificent countryside of Cusco on a quad bike.
- Moved my blog to **[Ghost](https://ghost.org/)**.
- Visited Chichen Itza, one of the Seven Wonders of the World.
- Took a ferry to Cozumel island, rented a Jeep, and drove around the island exploring, sunbathing, and snorkeling in lagoons.
- Joined a fun BBQ party on a rooftop organized by **[Adventure In You](https://www.adventureinyou.com/)**.
- Swimmed in freshwater cenotes in Tulum, Mexico.
- Went on a party boat tour to Isla Mujeres and had a blast.
- Started aggressively investing in the stock market. My tech-heavy portfolio is **+37.55%** for the year.
- Celebrated our first wedding anniversary.
- Stayed with my brother and had a chance to reconnect and bond playing FIFA, working on some projects together, and playing basketball.
- Launched **[Content Writing Jobs](https://contentwritingjobs.com/)** with **[Edgaras Benediktavicius](https://edgaras.com/)**.
- Rented a beautiful apartment in a great location in Vilnius that we can now call home.
- Hit the gym and played basketball 2 times a week before the quarantine restrictions.
- Worked with some great organizations including Product Hunt, BigCommerce, Webflow, and Envato.
- Visited my parents multiple times and shared some great time.
- Celebrated my grandma's 70th birthday.
- Had a crazy fun bachelor party before my best friend's wedding.
- Celebrated **[Isabella's 22nd birthday](https://www.instagram.com/isa_russi10/)**.
- Attended my best friend's special wedding event.
- Celebrated my dad's 50th birthday.
- Flew to Warsaw to attend Isabella's cousin's wedding.
- Went fishing with my wife (only caught one little fish).
- Launched Cleantechy over the weekend.
- Played Secret Santa and exchanged gifts with my family.

## Failures

This year was tense mentally and emotionally. Trying to control things that can't be controlled took a toll on my mental health.

While I don't see failures as an inherently bad thing, I think it's important to reflect on what didn't work and try to understand why so you can change the approach to doing things or realize that it's time to move on and try something new.

In 2020, I failed to:

- Keep my work/life balance.
- Avoid burn out.
- Manage my energy.
- Juggle client work and personal projects.
- Outsource and delegate.
- Find time to just sit in silence and breathe.

## Successes

Despite the global unrest and personal failures, 2020 has been one of the most successful years of my life. This year I:

- Made over six figures in personal income. Financially it was the most successful year and I'm happy to be working with some great organizations and professionals while having time for my side projects.
- Saved more than 60% of my income.
- Became a **[Makerpad](https://makerpad.zapier.com/)** member and learned building software solutions without coding.
- Learned a lot reading **[Trends](https://trends.co/)** reports analyzing rising industries.
- Learned UX/UI and switched from Photoshop to **[Figma](https://figma.com/)**.
- Migrated most of my websites to **[Webflow](https://webflow.com/)**.
- Learned automation using **[Zapier](https://zapier.com/)** and **[Integromat](https://integromat.com/)**.
- Spent a lot more time with my family.
- Exercised quite regularly (gym, basketball, HIIT).
- Practiced intermittent fasting.
- Visited 5 countries: Chile, Peru, Mexico, Poland, and Lithuania.
- Improved my spoken Spanish.
- Launched my first iOS app **[Secret Santa Friend](https://apps.apple.com/us/app/secret-santa-friend/id1540482599)** together with my brother.
- Spent quality time with friends.

## Life Lessons of 2020

Here’s what I learned in this overwhelming year.

**Crisis teaches you to be resourceful and responsible.** You learn to hack things yourself. You save your precious resources such as time and capital. All of that helps you to become more **[antifragile](https://taylorpearson.me/planning/)** that will serve you in good and bad times to come.

**Lower the downside, exploit the upside.** Protect the essentials while maximizing your potential returns.

**Personalization is everything.** Whether it's business, entertainment, diet, or the ultimate life experience, it all comes down to personalization. Big tech is doing it for you but probably not the way you want it, you can personalize your life to fit your preferences.

**Email people randomly.** Sending a **[cold email](https://hunter.io/templates/)** can do wonders. If you have been following someone's blog or YouTube channel or business, reach out and let them know. This way I connected with some really interesting people.

**Create.** Write, record, paint, draw, design, develop, speak. Keep creating even if it is for just one person. It's well worth it.

**Think in systems.** It's the ultimate leverage. You may have 24 hours in a day or 9 million hours in a day like Jeff Bezos (Amazon has 1,225,300 employees, assuming they work 8 hours a day we get over 9 million hours).

**History can't predict the future.** But we can study patterns and identify similar events happening that may help us adapt faster.

**Winning is not about being the strongest but surviving the longest.** It's not the strongest who survives but the one who adapts. Avoiding death pays better dividends than risking boldly.

**Exploit tech.** Technology is amazing unless it works against you. Personalize technology to fit your needs and learn automation. Use it as leverage to replace, clone, and amplify yourself. From startups to large enterprises to solo founders, the new generation of successful entrepreneurs knows how to make tech work for them.

**Quality thinking is a skill and you must develop it.** You have to create space and time for it. Quality work doesn't happen under pressure or with set outcomes in mind.

**Use your natural strengths.** The things you do when no one watches you, the things that make you comfortable is your unfair advantage. Do more of these, if you can't find a sustainable way to keep doing it.

**Explore a lot before you commit to something.** Just because you're good at something, it doesn't mean you have to commit right away. Whether it's your partner, business, career, diet, whatever, you have to explore first to understand what options you have before burning the bridges and deciding on the spot.

**Doing nothing is still a decision.** Even if you decide to sit and ignore the world, it's a decision you have to own and accept the consequences.

**Curious people are more interesting.** IQ is not everything as logic and your so-called “expertise” will stop you from exploring fearlessly. Curiosity leads to serendipity.

**Timing matters.** If you feel you have information that others may not have and you have the ability to execute, do it. If you wait and only wonder about it, you'll have to regret not taking action.

## Favorite Purchases of 2020

This year I invested in better software and tech that improved my productivity and lifestyle.

- **[Apple 27" iMac](https://www.amazon.com/imac-27/s?k=imac+27)**
- **[Bose 700](https://amzn.to/3n4wl7w)**
- **[Apple Watch 6](https://amzn.to/38OIrwp)**
- **[Apple iPhone 12 Pro](https://amzn.to/38OZQoF)**
- **[Withings Body Cardio](https://amzn.to/34ZFQyx)**
- **[Coda](https://coda.io/)**
- **[Fitbod](http://apple.co/fitbod)**
- **[Airtable](https://www.airtable.com/)**
- **[ConvertBox](https://convertbox.com/)**
- **[Webflow](https://webflow.com/)**
- **[SendFox](https://sendfox.com/)**
- **[Makerpad](https://makerpad.zapier.com/)**
- **[ClickMinded](https://www.clickminded.com/)**
- **[Scribd](https://www.scribd.com/)**
- **[YNAB](https://www.ynab.com/)**
- **[1Password](https://1password.com/)**
- **[Pipedrive](https://www.pipedrive.com/)**
- **[UI8](https://ui8.net/)**

## Favorite Books of 2020

- **[Optionality](https://amzn.to/38fXrDd)** by Richard Meadows
- **[The Psychology of Money](https://amzn.to/2WqMs4l)** by Morgan Housel
- **[Thinking in Bets](https://amzn.to/37rGHK7)** by Annie Duke
- **[The Courage to Be Disliked](https://amzn.to/3oYyF15)** by Ichiro Kishimi & Fumitake Koga
- **[Finish Big](https://amzn.to/38cszn1)** by Bo Burlingham
- **[Invent and Wander](https://amzn.to/38QK4cW)** by Walter Isaacson & Jeff Bezos
- **[How to Fail at Almost Everything and Still Win Big](https://amzn.to/384xvvl)** by Scott Adams
- **[The Almanack of Naval Ravikant](https://amzn.to/2L8Dg2e)** by Eric Jorgenson

It's quite therapeutic to reflect and review everything that happened in one year. While some things look important or not at all in the moment, they carry a different meaning in the hindsight.

2020 was a year like no other for most humans. While it was horrible in many ways, it's still just one year in your life. You can choose courage to live to be curious and take ownership of your life and live a grand life with some unavoidable failures that may not even end up on your life review.

Thank you for reading. Stay safe.

If you are interested in my previous annual reviews, check my life lessons of **[2013](/blog/life-lessons-2013)**, **[2014](/blog/life-lessons-2014)**, **[2015,](/blog/life-lessons-2015)** **[2016,](/blog/life-lessons-2016)** **[2017](/blog/life-lessons-2017)**, **[2018](/blog/life-lessons-2018)**, and **[2019](/blog/life-lessons-2019)**.
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            <title><![CDATA[Life Lessons I Learned in 2019]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Wed, 01 Jan 2020 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[Today, I’d like to review my year and share the highlights, failures, successes and biggest life lessons of 2019. It's been a wild ride.]]></description>
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![Marbella, Spain](/images/marbella-spain-tomaslau-2019.jpg)
Marbella, Spain.

What a year 2019 has been and what a decade.

At the end of each year, I try to slow down and reflect on what went well and not so well. I like to dig into my learnings to find what I'd like to improve the next year.

Today, I’d like to review my year and share the highlights, failures, successes and biggest life lessons of 2019. It's been a wild ride.

## Highlights

The toughest part of life is finding joy in the ordinary. Life is mostly boring routines and things that you forget but there's beauty in it.

Here are the highlights of 2019:

- I got married to the love of my life.
- Enjoyed the SPA experience.
- Went on a road trip to Poland with my wife.
- Attended the LP concert in Lithuania.
- Rode ATVs in Lithuania.
- Played bowling with my family.
- Rode go-kart in Lithuania.
- Joined a boxing class.
- Explored Costa Brava coast, Marbella and Ronda in Spain.
- Played beach volleyball and street basketball in Valencia, Spain.
- Joined a blind wine tasting party hosted by **[The Unconventional Route](https://www.theunconventionalroute.com/)**.
- Discovered Italy on a 5-day trip with my wife.
- Hosted my mom in Valencia, Spain.
- Celebrated early Christmas with my wife's family in Huesca, Spain.
- Partied on a rooftop in Madrid, Spain.
- Chilled on a picnic with my wife's family in Santiago, Chile.

## Failures

The year wasn't perfect. The biggest failure was expectation management.

In 2019, I failed to:

- Be patient.
- Talk and express my feelings.
- Be in the moment.
- Write without judging myself.
- Create just for the sake of it.
- Stay in touch with my closest friends.
- Spend more time on creating systems.
- Save more money.
- Disconnect from work.

## Successes

Despite the failures, 2019 has been one of the most successful years of my life. This year I:

- I got married to the love of my life.
- Spent a bit of time in Lithuania reconnecting with my family.
- Exercised quite regularly.
- Practiced intermittent fasting.
- Visited 8 countries: Colombia, Lithuania, Latvia, Poland, Spain, Italy, Vatican City, and Chile.
- Published 14 posts on my blog.
- Improved my spoken Spanish.
- Read 15 books and listened to 6 audiobooks.
- Worked with great companies in travel, SaaS (software as a service), fashion, ecommerce, and publishing industries.
- Enjoyed working with professional freelance writers and designers.
- Earned more while working less.
- Reduced stress related to work.
- Separated my personal projects and work by incorporating **[LAURO MEDIJA](https://lauromedija.com/)**.
- Co-founded and grew Modo Maravilla.
- Sent regular updates to **[Life Designed](/newsletter)** subscribers.
- Spent quality time with friends.
- Stayed in touch with my best friends.

## Life Lessons of 2019

In 2018, many good and bad things happened. Here’s what I learned in 2019.

**We use religion, science, business, war and everything else to answer it.** No one knows what they are doing yet there are tons of definitions and ways of life.

![My wife and mom in Valencia, Spain](/images/my-wife-and-mom-in-valencia-spain-2019.jpg)

My wife and mom in Valencia, Spain.

**Know what you want.** Every time I want to change the world, mostly for selfish reasons I don’t want to admit, I try to remind myself this ancient Indian proverb, “If you conquer your mind, you conquer the world.”

**Schedule 1-2 hours just for yourself.** For me it’s mornings. For you might be evenings. Having a scheduled block of uninterrupted “me” time will allow you to fully focus on your tasks.

![Our wedding](/images/our-wedding-2019.jpg)

Our wedding.

**I’m tired of waking up and feeling like I’m already behind.** I used to be a big fan of rising early, quite often at 5 am, to get more done. But things have changed recently. After getting married, I started questioning my craving for being productive all the time and trying to get as much done as possible. Rising early just for the sake of it won’t improve your life. You must use that time to develop yourself to have a better life.

![Anyksciai, Lithuania](/images/anyksciai-lithuania-tomaslau-2019.jpg)

Anyksciai, Lithuania.

**What if you’re just a spectator?** How can you ensure that things are happening to you and not you are causing them? From our self-centric perspective, it may be easy to assume that things happen to us because we are the cause, but why if the opposite is true? You don’t come up with an idea, it comes to you. You don’t write the book, it enters the world through you. You don’t build a business, the problem finds the way to monetization through you and your skills.

![Tulua, Colombia](/images/tulua-colombia-tomaslau-2019.jpg)

Tulua, Colombia.

**Developing self-discipline takes time and it consists of decisions made every day.** Whether you choose to take stairs or elevator, you develop discipline, whether you choose to eat more veggies instead of fast food, you develop discipline. Choosing water instead of soda, that is discipline. Doing your homework is discipline. Even if you do it and get a bad grade you showed up to develop your discipline.

![Klaipeda, Lithuania](/images/klaipeda-lithuania-tomaslau-2019.jpg)

Klaipeda, Lithuania.

**Set a “no meetings” day.** It enables you and your team to have a free mind and focus on your work thanks to some uninterrupted work time.

**Prehistoric humans were no more important and impressive than other mammals.** No special skills, no language, no higher self-awareness, and consciousness. Humans were not even at the top of the food chain, they resided in the middle. Our ancestors were fear-filled living beings carefully going after predators and eating the leftovers.

![Watercolor painting](/images/watercolor-painting-tomaslau-2019.jpg)

Watercolor painting.

**Exhaustion isn’t a badge of honor, it’s a badge of stupidity.** Being busy and working long hours is not something to be proud of. Having an empty calendar, plenty of time for yourself and your loved ones is the ultimate achievement.

**Competition is irrelevant.** Competing kills the joy of the act itself. If you build a business, build it to support your lifestyle, to help others. The moment you start competing, you plague yourself with irrelevant things. Our competitor A is beating us at twitter, let’s create a twitter strategy. Oh, our competitor B is opening a church program, let’s do one as well, but better. You see how ridiculous it can get just to please your ego and win the competition.

![Celebrating Isabella's birthday in Lithuania](/images/celebrating-isabellas-birthday-in-lithuania-2019.jpg)

Celebrating Isabella's birthday in Lithuania.

**There’s another way.** There are many things you do on a typical day, but how many things you can do differently? How many times do you challenge the status quo? It’s not about the breakthroughs and discoveries, just about flexing the brain muscle and coming up with different ways of thinking. If you keep doing the same things and getting the same results, maybe it’s time for a change? There’s another way to do things. To work, to rest, to communicate, to sell, to sleep, to eat, to appreciate, to accept.

**Productivity boils down to knowing what to work on (clarity) and working on it (focus).** All the other stuff is a distraction and oh sweet and satisfying distraction it is to evaluate the next to-do app, take notes on paper and then scan it all to turn into a digital note, choose the best pen or listen to a podcast with a productivity guru promising to reveal the productivity secrets and the list goes on.

![Costa Brava, Spain](/images/costa-brava-spain-2019.jpg)

Costa Brava, Spain.

**You don’t need to do anything.** Generally speaking, you don’t need to go to work, clean your house, cook dinner or talk to your annoying neighbor. Your mind is very good at coming up with a list of things to do but you are not obliged to do them. Obviously, there are consequences of not taking care of yourself, not going to work and not building better relationships but you don’t need to do things just because you think you need or someone told you need to do them. It’s important to remember that there’s a lot of noise in the world and ticking another box may feel productive while it’s completely irrelevant to your journey.

**Hustle is not sustainable.** The modern entrepreneur hustles 24/7 and pushes her dream forward ignoring health, sleep, and family. It’s not sustainable. It can’t be. It’s not about motivation and hustle, it’s about creating better systems and environments that lift the wellbeing and performance of everyone.

![Vatican City](/images/vatican-city-2019.jpg)

Vatican City.

![Rome, Italy](/images/rome-italy-2019.jpg)

Rome, Italy.

**The world isn’t getting worse.** Mass media makes it look like the world is ending so they can rake in more advertising dollars. You’re the product they sell. Invest in better entertainment, books, meetups, conferences, events rather than clicking on the next clickbait promising you the armageddon.

![Florence, Italy](/images/florence-italy-tomaslau-2019.jpg)

Florence, Italy.

**Eyes don’t produce illusions, your brains do**. Our worldview isn’t shaped by what we see, it’s shaped by what we think and tell ourselves. Combining all the experiences we create our reality and try to keep it consistent sacrificing living in the moment and observing what really happens in front of us.

**Creative work is not machine work.** You can’t plan your creative productivity to be 8 hours a day 5 days a week. It’s a complex process and many factors vary from person to person. Lower your expectations, let yourself wander, do other stuff and your creativity will flourish.

![LP concert in Vilnius, Lithuania](/images/lp-concert-in-vilnius-lithuania-2019.jpg)

LP concert in Vilnius, Lithuania.

**The next time someone offers you something for free, think twice about what you’re giving away.** When you pay for Netflix, Spotify, Dropbox and any other service you know exactly what you get. When you don’t pay for stuff such as blogs, articles, webinars, and courses, you start a journey with no clear milestones and no clear destination. If you are not paying for it, you’re the product being sold.

![Venice, Italy](/images/venice-italy-2019.jpg)

Venice, Italy.

![Venice, Italy](/images/venice-italy-tomaslau-2019.jpg)

Venice, Italy.

![Ronda, Spain](/images/ronda-spain-tomaslau-2019.jpg)

Ronda, Spain.

**Tidy up.** Keep your environment and mind tidy. Tidying up every day and evaluating if you need another pair of shoes, another gadget, or another commitment can help you get rid of the things that clutter your life.

**You’re a human after all and you’re struggling to fight your battles.** But the war is not over if you return the next morning with determination and self-love to become the best person you can ever be. You’re destined to succeed if you just don’t give up.

![Cocktails in Madrid, Spain](/images/cocktails-in-madrid-spain-tomaslau-2019.jpg)

Cocktails in Madrid, Spain.

**You’re grand already.** You’re not at the popularity or perfection contest. You have the **[permission to live](/blog/permission)**.

## Favorite Books of 2019

- **[Factfulness](https://amzn.to/2ZGkja0)** by Hans Rosling, Anna Rosling Rönnlund & Ola Rosling
- **[Choose FI](https://amzn.to/2ZGV6fD)** by Chris Mamula, Brad Barrett and Jonathan Mendonsa
- **[Atomic Habits](https://amzn.to/2rMtGbY)** by James Clear
- **[Homo Deus](https://amzn.to/2F6RutV)** by Yuval Noah Harari
- **[Zero to One](https://amzn.to/35d4NDG)** by Blake Masters and Peter Thiel
- **[How to Be a Capitalist Without Any Capital](https://amzn.to/359yyFt)** by Nathan Latka
- **[It Doesn’t Have to Be Crazy at Work](https://amzn.to/2MLkoUG)** by Jason Fried and David Heinemeier Hansson
- **[Exactly What to Say](https://amzn.to/37vrYuR)** by Phil M. Jones
- **[Before The Exit](https://amzn.to/2ZBCoGu)** by Dan Andrews
- **[Finite and Infinite Games](https://amzn.to/2QzpzIx)** by James P. Carse
- **[Tuesdays With Morrie](https://amzn.to/37q3hzL)** by Mitch Albom
- **[The 5 Love Languages](https://amzn.to/2ZGVACt)** by Gary Chapman

I hope these lessons and things I learned in 2019 will make you think. You get a fresh new start, not only every year but every day. It's up to you to become the owner of your life.

If you are interested in my previous annual reviews, check my life lessons of **[2013](/blog/life-lessons-2013)**, **[2014](/blog/life-lessons-2014)**, **[2015,](/blog/life-lessons-2015)** **[2016,](/blog/life-lessons-2016)** **[2017](/blog/life-lessons-2017)**, and **[2018](/blog/life-lessons-2018)**.
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            <title><![CDATA[Internet Business Ideas for Aspiring Entrepreneurs (2024)]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Wed, 06 Nov 2019 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[This year is full of opportunities and everyone willing to hustle can reap the rewards and experience that comes with it.]]></description>
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This year is full of opportunities and everyone willing to hustle can reap the rewards and experience that comes with it.

Lots of millennials admire and value entrepreneurs yet only a few dare to start a venture. According to a study by [Americas SBDC](https://www.prnewswire.com/news-releases/half-of-millennials-plan-to-start-a-business-in-the-next-3-years-300465835.html), 62% of Americans want to work for themselves and almost half of the millennials intend to do the same within the next three years.

[EY/EIG survey](https://www.npr.org/2016/09/26/495487260/millennials-want-to-be-entrepreneurs-but-a-tough-economy-stands-in-their-way) states that 72% of millennials admire entrepreneurship and startups for jobs and innovation. Both studies pinpoint the reason why people hesitate to start working for themselves.

The most significant barriers to self-employment are the economic environment, debt and lack of funds. It makes sense. Making money and supporting yourself is not that easy.

I suggest to start small, pick up skills, knowledge and then scale. It'll be months of hard work but there are more online opportunities than ever.

Eventually, you'll be able to turn your skills into [a productized service](https://productizeandscale.com/why-productized-service/) – packaging and selling your niche skill as a service and move from being a [freelancer to starting a digital agency](https://neckelius.com/freelance-to-digital-agency/). This way you don't need to [create an app](https://devsolutely.com/blog/how-to-create-an-app) or build software to become an entrepreneur. It's your skills and willingness to learn that counts.

It's not the end result but the journey to discover yourself what matters. The time couldn't be better to put it on your new year resolution list – run a profitable business in 2024.

Here are my top picks for best internet business ideas to try in 2024.

## Writing

Writing is everywhere.

I believe it's the best way to build your career. While writing is not the most lucrative field when you look at the [average salaries](https://bestwriting.com/blog/writing-statistics/), such as authors that receive an average advance of $49,360 or news reporters and journalists earning $49,300/year.

However, writing has infinite leverage. Once written, your content can be distributed and accessed by millions without you having to do anything.

Follow this step-by-step guide to learn [how to become a writer](https://bestwriting.com/blog/how-to-become-a-writer).

How do you make money?

There are many options, from creating a niche site to freelancing or finding a full-time position. Since 2020, I've been developing a [job board for writers](https://bestwriting.com/jobs/), an all-in-one platform connecting writers with businesses. Check it out to find [freelance](https://bestwriting.com/projects/), [remote](https://bestwriting.com/location/remote/) and [full-time writing jobs](https://bestwriting.com/job-type/full-time/).

## Custom Merchandise Store

Having a background in graphic design is recommended if you aspire to start a custom merchandise store. However, it is not mandatory as you can always find a professional designer and switch to a joint venture business model. You can then focus on promoting the business and improving customer service while your partner takes care of the designs.

Statista forecasts that the value of the global customized t-shirt printing market will reach around $3.1 billion in 2025, which is $2 billion more than in 2016. And these are numbers just for t-shirts. You can also consider selling [all-over-print socks](https://printify.com/custom-socks/), hoodies, face masks, pillows, mugs, and other merchandise.

The popularity of custom merchandise is understandable. Brands use it as a tool for marketing or team-building, while individuals want to make a fashion statement by wearing something unique. Not to mention that custom merch can be a great gift.

Starting a print-on-demand merchandise business does not require upfront investments. You can choose the dropshipping method and slowly learn to grow the business.

Moreover, modern print providers offer their customers even more. One can utilize mockup generators with templates and detailed step-by-step guides to help manage different business aspects.

## Accounting

A freelance accountant is an excellent opportunity for people with an accounting background. If you're any good at bookkeeping, accounting and preparing taxes, you can start helping out other businesses with their finances.

Being an accountant may not sound like the most exciting idea, but it's a competence which every business needs. It doesn't mean that old school calculator, paper and pen will be your loyal companions. Quite the opposite, you'll be managing finances in style, with sophisticated software and tools designed to streamline the accounting process. Try powerful invoicing services like [ZipBooks](https://zipbooks.com/) and see it for yourself.

Services to offer and monetize your financial prowess can include writing financial reports, bookkeeping, creating balance sheets, providing income statements and many more. Start looking for gigs via [LinkedIn](https://www.linkedin.com/jobs/accounting-jobs/), Upwork, Fiverr and network.

## Web Design and Development

Being a web designer and developer remains one of the top 2024 business ideas simply because these skills are in great demand. As you might have noticed there is no shortage of poor looking websites. Every business that wants to be noticed needs a good looking website, which also serves as a center of its marketing operations. Mastering web development will grant plenty creative freedom to every pragmatic and imaginative person in the niche that promises a long and interesting future.

You can kickstart your career by creating themes on various content management platforms such as WordPress or Drupal. Another option is to acquire an extended license pre-developed UI kit like [WrapKit](https://wrappixel.com/) to speed up your development process. Besides, the internet is full of learning resources that let you get up to speed on building websites just in a few months. Just check out courses at [Codecademy](https://www.codecademy.com/), [Udemy](https://www.udemy.com/), [Lynda](https://www.lynda.com/) and [Treehouse](https://teamtreehouse.com/).

## Conversion Rate Optimization

We live at the times where marketers are getting over their heads to capture more traffic due to popular myth and gut feeling tells everyone that more traffic always leads to higher revenue. While this is generally true, there is a way to earn more income without investing in additional campaigns and that's where conversion rate optimization (CRO) specialists step in. Even the most captivating websites need CRO to make money. That's why CRO specialists are widely acknowledged and appreciated.

Even if you're not an expert yet, it's just the right time to begin. Every master was once a beginner. The rapidly changing web is full of helpful learning tools. Start by visiting the holy grail of research-driven conversation optimization, the [ConversionXL blog](https://conversionxl.com/conversion-optimization/). Once you're familiar with the basics, there are a handful of tools that can instantly lift your conversion optimization game to a next level. See [Omniconvert](https://www.omniconvert.com/), a Swiss knife for any CRO specialist and finetune your web forms with [123FormBuilder](https://www.123formbuilder.com/) for sure-fire results.

## Lead Generation

If your business does not generate leads, it will stagnate due to a lack of customers. Every lost lead is potentially a lost customer to the competition.

Generating and closing leads is not that easy. Many companies use bad outreach tactics during their lead generation campaign because they lack a lead qualification process, neglect creating buyer personas, or fail to identify the proper channels.

Reaching out to as many people or companies in hopes of them taking the bait is old-fashioned. Despite some positive responses, it's more important to target the right people.

A company should have at least one full-time employee working exclusively on lead generation. You're looking for someone who can find leads, pitch sales via cold calls or emails, and close deals.

As you learn and improve your lead generation skills, use tools such as [Typeform](https://typeform.com/) or [SharpSpring](https://sharpspring.com/).

Track your results and make the necessary adjustments, especially when it comes to outreach email copy.

Stay on top of industry trends by taking courses online or learning from industry experts.

## Social Media Management and Marketing

Despite the fact that social media management and marketing aren't new things anymore, they are still an ever-changing frontier. The industry with more than [3 billion and growing](https://www.brandwatch.com/blog/96-amazing-social-media-statistics-and-facts-for-2016/) number of active users it isn't going anywhere and companies, personal brands and groups all need social media savvy people to take over and manage their accounts and campaigns.

Besides, social media marketing isn't just scheduling a few posts and making content plans anymore. Smart audience targeting, trust building, influencer marketing, social engagement and eventually, social selling is what today's social media marketing is all about. That doesn't mean you can't outsource or automate some of your tasks, as there are social media tools for every occasion.

For instance, [TRIBE](https://www.tribegroup.co/) is a place where brands can discover and connect with micro influencers. For a larger scale operation, seek for influencer marketing engines like [TapInfluence](https://www.tapinfluence.com/) or [Influential](https://influential.co/). If done right, influencer marketing works like a charm and although this is a slightly different idea, you can try to become an influencer yourself. For that, check out [Combin](https://www.combin.com/) for targeted and organic Instagram growth.

With the right resources in your hands, social media is easy to crack and an even inexperienced person can deliver substantial value to the small and medium business.

## Content Marketing

While traditional marketing means are becoming less effective with every passing minute, brands and companies still need someone to carry their water for them. Content marketing is a proven way to acquire new customers, establish trust and authority and facilitate sales without traditional hard selling tactics. If you are good at creating compelling, useful and entertaining content, you can enjoy massive demand and fat checks for your services.

As of today, [content marketing](https://marketful.com/blog/content-marketing-for-beginners/) comes in many forms: articles, videos, podcasts, streaming, pictures, ebooks and other media texts. There are many options. With augmented and virtual realities knocking on your doors, it's just a matter of time when it'll get there, too.

## Video and Audio Editing

[HubSpot reports](http://www.stateofinbound.com/?__hstc=20629287.85562a6072f228d58c80a47e830b7d94.1505231239827.1509484953685.1509627759522.7&__hssc=20629287.3.1509627759522&__hsfp=3042036422) that YouTube and Facebook videos are marketers priority. Thus, we're likely to see another year where video content surges. As a result, there is a growing need for audiovisual content editors.

The times when you needed an expensive video camera and high-end editing software to make an eye-pleasing video are over. Today, you can make one with your iPhone, tripod and a video editing app like [Magistro](https://www.magisto.com/) and [Filmora](https://filmora.wondershare.com/).

[Movavi Video Editor](https://www.movavi.com/) helps both professional and novice users create compelling content on Windows and macOS. Its intuitive interface and great features let you achieve great results in minutes.

Of course, you'll still need to upgrade your software if you want to take your work to the next level.

A combination of Adobe Audition, Premiere and After Effects will enable you to offer professional vlog, music video, voice-over and advertising editor services. If you need that extra push, check out learning courses at [Lynda](https://www.lynda.com/) or other learning platforms to polish your skills.

## Over to You

This year is full of opportunities and everyone willing to hustle can reap the rewards and experience that comes with it.

Start slowly by tapping into your existing network to find people who might need your services. There's definitely someone who could use your help right now.
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            <title><![CDATA[Thought Provoking Questions About Life and Work]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Sat, 22 Jun 2019 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[How do you get to the next level in life? It’s a question that makes you think. Sadly, not many people bother to ask thought provoking questions.]]></description>
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There’s always another level, and good questions can help you get there.

How do you get to the next level in life? It’s a question that makes you think. Sadly, not many people bother to ask thought provoking questions.

The only way to get better at anything is to ask better questions. [No one knows](/blog/doubt) what they’re doing. Everyone from your parents, teachers, scientists to politicians and ultra-successful are just trying to figure it out.

Before “Game of Thrones” and Jon Snow, who knew nothing, there was Socrates, who’s known for knowing nothing, _“I am the wisest man alive, for I know one thing, and that is that I know nothing.”_

Only by detaching yourself from the ego and embracing the unknown you can learn. Nobel Prize winner and world-renowned physicist [Richard Feynman](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Richard_Feynman) summarizes it perfectly:

_I think that when we know that we actually do live in uncertainty, then we ought to admit it; it is of great value to realize that we do not know the answers to different questions. This attitude of mind – this attitude of uncertainty – is vital to the scientist, and it is this attitude of mind which the student must first acquire._

Over the years, curiosity led me to unexpected places, interesting people, life-changing books and some powerful thought provoking questions.

Here’s my collection of questions that make you think about life and how to get to the next level.

There’s always another level.

## Thought Provoking Questions

Gary Keller, the author of The One Thing, claims that great questions are clearly the quickest path to great answers.

Voltaire once wrote, “Judge a man by his questions rather than his answers.” Sir Francis Bacon added, “A prudent question is one-half of wisdom.”

Indira Gandhi concluded that “the power to question is the basis of all human progress.”

### What Is the Source of Your Unhappiness?

This powerful question comes from one of the most influential self-help books, Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill.

_What connection, if any, do you see between the people with whom you associate most closely, and any unhappiness you may experience?_

Sometimes you have to make the hard decision and cut people off. Trust me, it will be better for both parties.

### What’s the ONE thing I can do, such that by doing it everything else will become easier or unnecessary?

It's counterintuitive but maybe that's why this question by Gary Keller is so powerful.

### Why Worry About Anything Else Than Now?

[Practicing meditation](https://tomaslau.com/blog/vipassana) is one of the most rewarding experiences in my life. The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle completely shattered my perspective on life and offered practical frameworks to cope with the reality as it is.

_Ask yourself what “problem” you have right now, not next year, tomorrow, or five minutes from now. What is wrong with this moment? You can always cope with the Now, but you can never cope with the future — nor do you have to._

Cultivating a habit of constantly asking yourself how do you feel right now can radically transform how you cope with the problems, that mostly exist in your mind and never materialize.

### Who Do You Compare Yourself To?

The following question comes from Ego Is the Enemy by Ryan Holiday which offers an array of stories illustrating how throughout the history ego ruined lives, families, nations, and empires.

_The question we must ask for ourselves is: Are we going to be miserable just because other people are?_

Comparison is your number one enemy and the main reason humans are so unhappy and lost.

### What’s the Proper Way to Pray?

One of my readers, Thomas Haladner, an Analytical Psychologist shared the following question that makes me think about my attitude.

_What is the proper way to pray i.e. does one pray for a better outcome or a better attitude and how does one find and stay on one’s true path?_

There’s so much in life you can’t control but you still need to figure out how to navigate through life without a map. I bet on praying for a better attitude and resilience to bounce back from the inevitable hardships.

### Is This a Good Idea?

How do you know if your idea is a good idea? Put it to a test, before you even lift a finger. This powerful thought experiment comes from [Justin Jackson](https://justinjackson.ca/goodidea).

First, ask yourself:

1. Who is it for?
2. What is it for?

Put another way:

1. What group of people am I making this for?
2. How will they use it to make their lives better? What superpower does it give them? (And how is it better than what they’re already using?)

These questions will give you clues as to whether your idea is worth pursuing.

### What Would the World Be Like Without Me?

This simple exercise comes from [Chris Bailey](https://alifeofproductivity.com/an-end-of-year-reflection/). Keep it in mind as you consider what to accomplish next year, and where you want to spend your time, attention, and energy:

Imagine two worlds.

The first world has you in it.

The second world doesn’t.

What is the difference between these two worlds?

### Is This for Me?

The other day, one of my readers, Bruce Layman shared a provoking question that makes the decision-making process easier. Simply ask yourself _“Is this (book, movie, TV show, podcast, band, etc.) for me?”_

If not, it’s okay. Let other people enjoy it and continue consuming the things that surprise and delight you.

Here’s how Bruce explains it:

_It keeps you from being a karma suck about things that people like. I didn’t watch a single episode of Game of Thrones (gasp, I know!) and when people would ask me, “Why don’t you watch the show, it’s the BEST SHOW EVAAAARRRRR!” I could respond that it simply wasn’t for me. I didn’t have to say anything negative about it, not even that I didn’t like it, only that it isn’t for me._

I like how using this approach allows you to say “no” in such a powerful and neutral way.

### Do You Idolize Your Heroes?

It’s easy to think of your heroes as extraordinary people. But quite often you only see a small piece of the big picture. The following question comes from one of my favorite books, Mindset by Carol Dweck.

_Think about your hero. Do you think of this person as someone with extraordinary abilities who achieved with little effort?_

Now go find out the truth. Find out the tremendous effort that went into their accomplishment—and admire them more.

### How Do You Learn?

“To know thyself is the beginning of wisdom,” wrote Socrates. Knowing yourself is within your circle of influence. The following questions come from a little yet profound management book, Managing Oneself by Peter F. Drucker.

_Am I a reader or a listener? and How do I learn? are the first questions to ask._

But they are by no means the only ones. To manage yourself effectively, you also have to ask, Do I work well with people, or am I a loner? And if you do work well with people, you then must ask, In what relationship?

### What Do You Do in the Morning?

Many people struggle to get up in the morning. My theory is that most people lack the purpose in life. It’s hard to get excited about waking up early when all you can think of is how to survive the day and get back to bed.

The following thought provoking question comes from a changing book, The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod.

_Why did you bother getting out of bed this morning? Think about that for a second…_

The old saying, _“you snooze, you lose”_ may have a much deeper meaning than any of us realized. Your entire life changes the day that you decide you will no longer accept mediocrity for yourself.

### Are We All Not Just Two Minutes From the Abyss Anyway?

The following questions come from a short book, Two Minutes from the Abyss by Vijay Eswaran.

_Do we realize how close we all are from the abyss at any time? Do we even acknowledge it? Do we live our lives in a manner respectful of that understanding?_

Every day, I try to remind myself that I’ll die. Tomorrow isn’t promised to anyone.

While it may sound negative, it’s an ancient practice gaining popularity among modern Stoicism followers. _Memento mori_ is the [medieval theory](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Memento_mori) and practice of reflection on mortality, especially as a means of considering the vanity of earthly life and the transient nature of all earthly goods and pursuits.

## Better Questions, Better Life

I hope you found an interesting question that made you think. Make it a habit to ask better questions.

While asking better questions isn’t easy, pondering on thought provoking questions can help you live a more intentional and fulfilling life.
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            <title><![CDATA[Everything Is Relative: A Powerful Perspective on Life]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Mon, 27 May 2019 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[A century ago, Albert Einstein taught us: everything is relative. The way you see the world depends on your point of view and context.]]></description>
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Everything changes when you change your perspective.

A century ago, Albert Einstein taught us: everything is relative. The way you see the world depends on your point of view and context. What is hot for you might be mild for me, what is a success for me might be a failure to you. There’s no black and white, there’s only the perspective you choose to look at things. Everything can change in a snap when you provide context.

That’s why it’s so important to stay true to your values and treat everyone nicely. You never know the full story to make a fair judgment so you shouldn’t judge at all.

The following fables have had a profound effect on my life and helped me develop a powerful perspective on life. It’s a humbling reminder of our mortality and impermanence.

Read it slowly and let it sink in.

## Maybe

An old farmer who had worked his crops for many years.

There is a Taoist story of an old farmer who had worked his crops for many years.

One day his horse ran away. Upon hearing the news, his neighbors came to visit.

“Such bad luck,” they said sympathetically.

“Maybe,” the farmer replied.

The next morning the horse returned, bringing with it three other wild horses.

“How wonderful,” the neighbors exclaimed.

“Maybe,” replied the old man.

The following day, his son tried to ride one of the untamed horses, was thrown, and broke his leg. The neighbors again came to offer their sympathy on his misfortune.

“Maybe,” answered the farmer.

The day after, military officials came to the village to draft young men into the army. Seeing that the son’s leg was broken, they passed him by. The neighbors congratulated the farmer on how well things had turned out.

“Maybe,” said the farmer.

## The Mexican Fisherman and the Investment Banker

Everything is relative.

An American investment banker was at the pier of a small coastal Mexican village when a small boat with just one fisherman docked. Inside the small boat were several large yellowfin tuna. The American complimented the Mexican on the quality of his fish and asked how long it took to catch them.

The Mexican replied, “only a little while.”

The American then asked why didn’t he stay out longer and catch more fish?

The Mexican said he had enough to support his family’s immediate needs. The American then asked, “but what do you do with the rest of your time?”

The Mexican fisherman said, “I sleep late, fish a little, play with my children, take siestas with my wife, Maria, and stroll into the village each evening where I sip wine and play guitar with my amigos. I have a full and busy life.”

The American scoffed. “I have an MBA from Harvard, and can help you,” he said. “You should spend more time fishing, and with the proceeds, buy a bigger boat. With the proceeds from the bigger boat, you could buy several boats, and eventually, you would have a fleet of fishing boats. Instead of selling your catch to a middle-man, you could sell directly to the processor, eventually opening up your own cannery. You could control the product, processing, and distribution,” he said. “Of course, you would need to leave this small coastal fishing village and move to Mexico City, then Los Angeles, and eventually to New York City, where you will run your expanding enterprise.”

The Mexican fisherman asked, “But, how long will this all take?” To which the American replied, “Oh, 15 to 20 years or so.”

“But what then?” asked the Mexican.

The American laughed and said, “That’s the best part. When the time was right, you would announce an IPO, and sell your company stock to the public and become very rich. You would make millions!”

“Millions – then what?”

The American said, “Then you could retire. Move to a small coastal fishing village where you could sleep late, fish a little, play with your kids, take siestas with your wife, and stroll to the village in the evenings where you could sip wine and play guitar with your amigos.”

## Everything in the World Is Relative

Is everything relative? It depends on how you look at things and you must always seek a new perspective on life.

You can have anything you can imagine if you are willing to pay the price. But you’ll never be satisfied with life if you just mindlessly try to control everything. Life is like a river, you can’t control it fully, it flows where it wants, it was flowing before you and will flow long after you. Choosing the right perspective on life matters more than you think and only you can choose one that makes your life meaningful, happy and complete.

Two fables above illustrate the importance of perspective clearly. For the Taoist farmer, he had the choice to look at his personal situations in a positive or negative light. Everyone around him was making snap judgments and labeling these situations as “lucky” or “unlucky.” The farmer, however, chose to wait to judge the situation until he had more information and time to form a solid opinion. The same thing happens every day all around the world. There are no bad and good things. There are just _things_. We tend to label everything, attach meaning and emotion to things and events and complicate our lives.

My math teacher used to say, _“no matter how good or bad times are, it will pass.”_ Don’t attach yourself to a certain environment, people or emotions. Life is a journey and you are just a passenger.

I reread the Mexican fisherman story from time to time to remind myself that life is really simple unless you make it complex. The MBA man was trying to create his “dream life” through professional and financial achievements, while the fisherman knew that he was already living the dream: working a few hours and spending time with the people he loved the most.

You might already be where you want to be and have everything you need. Stop chasing the next shiny thing and ask yourself what you truly want after it’s all said and done? You may save yourself decades of hard work and spend that time enjoying life with the loved ones.
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            <title><![CDATA[How to Develop Self-Discipline and Transform Your Life]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Tue, 19 Mar 2019 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[Self-discipline and consistency pay little dividends but they compound quickly making a big impact in your life.]]></description>
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### Ironically, self-discipline is the ultimate freedom.

Waking up early, making up your bed, brushing your teeth, and eating healthy breakfast can transform your whole day.

By adding in reading, journaling, and meditation, you can supercharge your growth and allow yourself to become a more loving person.

You may also find that you become a harder-working employee, a more trustworthy friend, a passionate lover, and an overall interesting person.

Self-discipline and consistency pay little dividends but they compound quickly making a big impact in your life.

_If we don’t discipline ourselves, the world will do it for us. – William Feather_

I started elementary school on September 1st in 1999.

I already feel old remembering it.

At that time I was living in a small village of no more than 20 people. The village was 3 km away from the school.

It was so exciting to finally get out of my small world and meet kids, learn stuff and have something to do.

But soon I realized, school is not an easy quest.

There's so much to learn and I have so little time. I had to figure it out because like everyone else I wanted to be a good student.

To get to school on time I had to get up at 6 am, prepare, eat breakfast and catch a bus to school. In the beginning, it was not too hard because I was thrilled to learn something new and September mornings were quite nice with lots of sunshine.

But then the winter came with cold dark mornings and winds. I was not happy. It became harder to get up and due to cold weather outside, I didn’t feel like leaving home.

But I had to. Everyone had to.

“It’s not something I choose, it’s my daily duty and I must complete it whether I like it or not.” I thought.

## **Self-Discipline for Students**

In 1999, I started my discipline training that lasts to this day and I must be grateful for what I have now for these cold rainy or snowy mornings in a rural village in Northern Lithuania. Consistently getting up early, making my bed, making breakfast and later taking care of my two younger brothers had a huge impact on my discipline and responsibility muscles.

Fast forward 10 years, I learned a lot of stuff and started to look for more ways to grow and develop myself. Even though I kind of knew what I wanted to do with my life, become a designer, I was still doing my homework, nailing tests and giving back to the school community. I was rebelling a lot against the formal education structure and demanded (unsuccessfully) to give me final exams sooner as I didn’t want to wait but that waiting taught me a lot when I reflect on it now.

You see, I was a good student, getting good grades, talking decently, and treating everyone equally, even though I was against the system I showed up every day and put in work by studying, doing homework and volunteering in my class. This approach of full ownership and responsibility throughout the school years helped me develop enormous self-discipline allowing me to become whatever I wished after I was left on my own.

One September morning, 14 years later, I find myself walking to work in London, a giant metropolis, one of the most famous modern cities in the world. I think about discipline and it occurs to me that it is the ultimate freedom. By making a system and following it unquestionably you allow yourself to get necessary things done so you can spend the remaining time doing whatever you like because you did your duty. That moment was liberating. I was glad this thought occurred to me as I was just discovering lifestyle design and felt like I was onto something.

## Self-Discipline Definition

Here’s how J. D. Meier and Michael Kropp, co-authors of Getting Results the Agile Way, define self-discipline:

_Then there’s self-discipline: the ability to correct your behavior. Self-discipline is simply correcting or regulating your behavior for the sake of improvement._

Developing self-discipline takes time and it consists of decisions made every day. Whether you choose to take stairs or elevator, you develop discipline, whether you choose to eat more veggies instead of fast food, you develop discipline. Choosing water instead of soda, that is discipline. Doing your homework is discipline. Even if you do it and get a bad grade you showed up to develop your discipline. I never cared about grades, I knew it’s worthless. You can get lucky, you can cheat, you can copy from your classmate. But you can’t cheat discipline, what is built is there and it works for you. At the beginning it may seem like a total waste of time, why would you suffer doing things you don’t like?

You do things you don’t like to be able to do things you love and gain ultimate personal freedom. Self-control is a rare yet powerful skill. It saves you from making stupid decisions, it makes you more patient, more observant and eventually serves you in your life’s quest.

How to develop discipline? Make it into a game. Self-discipline training is about consciously choosing the harder way. If there is a hard and easy way to do something, choose the hard way and expose yourself to stress and suffering. Get used to it until it becomes normal to you. It will be easier to cope with extremely stressful life events like losing a job, going broke, dealing with someone’s death, combating disease and all the other misfortunes. You can always take a harder path. Instead of taking the bus to work, walk. Instead of eating out at work’s lunch break, cook yourself a healthy lunch and pack it. Instead of going out every Friday, pick up a book, instead of watching Netflix every evening, take up an online course, instead of sleeping in on the weekend, get up early and go for a run or a hike. It all sounds amazing when you read it but once you decide to do it and try it, you will face a lot of resistance and that’s because it’s challenging. It’s uncomfortable. It requires your physical and mental energy.

_I have self-doubt. I have insecurity. I have fear of failure. I have nights when I show up at the arena and I’m like, “My back hurts, my feet hurt, my knees hurt. I don’t have it. I just want to chill.” We all have self-doubt. You don’t deny it, but you also don’t capitulate to it. You embrace it. – Kobe Bryant_

People are lazy. You and I are lazy. Most of the inventions have been made because we are lazy and want to make things easier so we can chill. By choosing laziness all the time you slowly degrade and become a dying body without ambition and discipline. Even if you develop a burning desire or hit the other end which is desperation you might not succeed making the change because you don’t have the discipline powered vehicle to allow you to tackle challenges, show up when you don’t feel like and put in work on a consistent basis.

Don’t worry if you think you squandered years taking the least resistance path. We all do in one way or another. Some of us have great discipline at money while we suck at relationships. Some of us are great lovers but completely ignore health and take the least resistance path indulging in sugar while binge-watching TV series. That’s life. People are different and some have stronger self-discipline than others but I don’t believe in talent and luck. I believe in hard work.

## The Power of Self-Discipline

Now I will share how I upgraded my discipline and literally transformed my lifestyle by designing my miracle morning.

Meet Hal Elrod, a motivational speaker, entrepreneur, and author of The Miracle Morning.

In his bestseller, Elrod talks about how it is possible to transform your life before 8 am by creating a simple yet empowering morning routine to activate your physical and mental resources to start the day like a champion and enjoy the benefits throughout the day.

Without even knowing about his powerful book I was working on my morning routine trying to find that perfect combination.

In 2014, I was struggling writing my first book, Mobile Design Book, I was running Despreneur, freelancing and growing a startup.

The book was not the main focus and quite soon, I lost interest in writing it. Lack of time and interest was killing the venture.

But I was lucky.

I had a co-author. We gave each other permissions to kick our butts if we weren’t progressing.

Sooner than I expected I wasn’t progressing. She told me she’ll travel to Europe for the summer and I should visit her in Prague, Czech Republic.

I agreed.

I had to catch up on writing because I wanted to show that I was following our writing schedule and putting in work. I decided to wake up one hour earlier and only work on the book, after that I could make coffee, have breakfast, go to the gym and get to work. The plan sounded good because most of the time after a long day of work and interruptions I wouldn’t feel like writing. I would have too many excuses and would just leave it untouched. The decision was made.

The next morning, I woke up at 7 am and started typing. It wasn’t easy. I was thinking to myself, “this is nonsense, who is going to read this? What about thorough research?” I kept typing despite my internal chatter and doubts. In an hour I was able to squeeze in nearly 1,000 words and felt extremely good.

I realized, “This book is possible!”

I wrote a lot of stuff that had to be revised, double checked, maybe rewritten but at least I had some substance to work with. I was inspired to get up at 7 am and work on the book for one hour until I finish my part of it. The next morning was a different story. I couldn’t write a sentence, I felt like a complete loser and couldn’t understand what was going on. “Is it because I don’t know anything? Maybe I didn’t sleep well? What if I am sick?” All of the negative thoughts were buzzing in my head. One hour passed and I had two long sentences written. “Now that didn’t turn out that well.” What about my progress? It’s slower than expected but it’s moving forward. I was determined to wake up one hour earlier and only write and nothing else. A couple of weeks later I realized that my part of the book was almost complete and I made huge progress by simply spending a focused hour on it every morning. It felt like having a superpower. I was curious if I could wake up even earlier like 6 am, the time when I was going to school and hated waking up in the dark.

It was a different motivation now. Early in the morning, I could read and spend time on things that will make me happier, smarter, healthier. I needed private time in silence with no agenda, no disruptions, no notifications, and no responsibilities. I decided to wake up at 6 am to read and write. It was working wonders. I felt so much better throughout the day, I felt accomplished and motivated. Not every morning was good and easy but simply showing up daily, I made noticeable progress at reading and writing. Waking up early became much easier and more natural. My body clock adjusted to waking up right before 6 am and it felt good.

## Self-Discipline Examples

One day I came across an [article by Filipe Castro Matos](https://medium.com/life-hacks-for-business/12-lessons-of-waking-up-at-4-30-a-m-for-21-days-90d1053c3634).

He challenged himself to wake up at 4:30 am for 21 consecutive days. It was fun to read his story, his struggles, motivations, and accomplishments.

He was based in Lisbon and worked on a startup, by starting his day at 4:30 am he would have plenty of time to exercise, read and work and leave the office at 2 pm with lots of time to unwind and have a nice early dinner and enjoy the sunshine.

It sounded amazing.

I was lured and decided to shoot for 5 am.

For the first week I was waking up at 5:30 am to make the transition smoother and then switched to 5 am.

It wasn’t that hard to be honest, but only if I went to bed at 9 pm.

But things happen, you go out or get lost on the internet and you go to bed at 10 pm or 11 pm and then your rhythm is ruined and instead of getting 8 hours of sleep you’ll be getting, only 6 or 7 hours which most likely affect your morning in a big way.

I always thought I was the night owl and mornings looked like a good place to rest and sleep in but I never felt good after sleeping in. I would miss half of the day, my head would be heavy or I would even have a headache, I would feel sleepy and tired.

Where on the other hand, having a disciplined sleeping regime allowed me to get consistent night sleep of 8 hours, morning agenda and clear time for bed before 9 pm.

Even If I decided to work past 9 pm the next day would be ruined and the overall progress would suffer.

You might be thinking that I am crazy saying that I like waking up at 5 am.

I really do.

I get the same hours of sleep as you do, I just go to bed earlier and wake up earlier.

In fact, many [successful leaders get up early](/blog/habits), CEOs, athletes, writers, artists, and politicians get up early.

Examples include Tim Cook, Michelle Obama, Kobe Bryant, Jack Dorsey, and Richard Branson.

_Being an early riser isn’t about trumpeting how hard you work. It’s about doing everything within your power to help your business achieve success; and if that means you have to get up at an hour not known to most, then you might as well enjoy the sunrise. – Richard Branson_

In the morning you have the most precious focus and mental clarity. You're not exposed to stress and interruptions of life, work, and relationships.

You have time for yourself and things that matter to you.

If you want to advance in some area of your life, wake up one hour earlier and work on it.

If you want more from life, wake up 2 or 3 hours earlier and work on what matters to you the most:

- Self-education
- Exercise
- Meditation
- Journaling
- Prayer

Make it count.

Establishing discipline is **not** an easy quest.

There's an entire industry on willpower and discipline building including motivational material.

However, if you internalize the concept of taking full ownership and responsibility of your life, you will be making these necessary choices with ease. Instead of resisting you'll embrace the uncertainty, you'll expand your suffering and growth zone, you will tolerate the process because you know it will make you into a warrior and get you closer to your goals.

No one likes people who whine and complain all the time.

Once you redirect your energy from all these mentioned activities you will have enormous power you can use to tackle daily challenges that will turn into iron discipline and then you will be able to achieve more than you ever dreamed of.

As superhuman David Goggins would say, _“I don’t stop when I am tired. I stop when I am done.”_

That’s what I wish you to understand and take home after reading this.

## How to Develop Self Discipline

Here are some more daily habits you can adopt to help you develop discipline and design a fulfilling morning routine.

### Make Your Bed First Thing in the Morning

According to [psychological research](https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/brain-candy/201208/make-your-bed-change-your-life), people who make their bed in the morning are happier and more successful than those who don’t. If that’s not enough, here’s more:

- 71 percent of bed makers consider themselves happy.
- While 62 percent of non-bed-makers are unhappy.
- Bed makers are also more likely to like their jobs, own a home, exercise regularly and feel well rested.
- Whereas non-bed-makers hate their jobs, rent apartments, avoid the gym and wake up tired.

Crazy, right? Something so simple. Yet, when you make your bed first thing in the morning, you knock-off your first accomplishment of the day. This puts you in a mindset of “winning.” Do it! It only takes 30 seconds.

### Read Essentialism by Greg Mckeown

The Way of the Essentialist isn’t about getting more done in less time. It’s not about getting less done. It’s about getting only the right things done. It’s about challenging the core assumption of “we can have it all” and “I have to do everything” and replacing it with the pursuit of “the right thing, in the right way, at the right time.” It’s about regaining control of our own choices about where to spend our time and energies instead of giving others implicit permission to choose for us.

In Essentialism, Greg McKeown draws on experience and insight from working with the leaders of the most innovative companies in the world to show how to achieve the disciplined pursuit of less.

### Write Your To-Do List, the Night Before

Plan your day ahead. Starting the day with a clear plan in mind reduces stress and helps you to focus on the right things.

### Say “Later” to Preserve Willpower

I know you want that cake now, you want to check your Instagram, you’re curious about your weekend plans. Simply tell yourself “later” and allow to do these things later if you still want to.

### Know How to Say “No”

According to Brian de Haaff, co-founder and CEO of Aha! Labs Inc. “Telling people ‘no’ does not need to be an act of rejection. Learning to say no the right way can prove you’re an attentive teammate.” By saying “no” to distractions and mediocre things you allow yourself to say “yes” to things that matter.

### Tidying Up, Minimizing

Keep your environment and mind tidy. Tidying up every day and evaluating if you need another pair of shoes, another gadget, or another commitment can help you get rid of the things that clutter your life.

### Remember That Effective Time Management Makes You More Rather Than Less Flexible

Rather than asking “What’s the most important thing I can today?”, [time multipliers ask](https://ideas.ted.com/multiply-your-time-by-asking-4-questions-about-the-stuff-on-your-to-do-list/) “What’s the most important thing I can do today that would make tomorrow better?”

Time tracking and management allows you to do the things that you really want to do rather than the things you really have to do.

Knowing where your time goes will help you to act on it and save more time in the future. RescueTime is a great app to help you track your time.

### Schedule 1-2 Hours Just for Yourself

For me it’s mornings. For you might be evenings. Having a scheduled block of uninterrupted “me” time will allow you to fully focus on your tasks.

### Set a “No Meetings” Day

It enables you and your team to have a free mind and focus on your work thanks to some uninterrupted work time.

### Write in Your Journal for Five Minutes per Day

It’s another mindfulness and gratitude practice that will help you develop discipline, clear thinking and feel happier.

### Set a Weekly Goal

Weekly goals keep you motivated and focused during your week. To make things easier, break down most important big tasks into actionable chunks and every evening prepare your to-do list for the next.

### Start Your Day With an Intention

Nomad and polymath, Patricia Parkinson, describes **incense with intention** as one of the most influential habits in her life:

_Most mornings, I wake to watch the sunrise while ritualizing the lighting of incense. I use these as anchors to provide foundational consistency in what is otherwise an inconsistent and varied day. During this time, I meditate and reflect on my three current intentions for being. At the moment, these take the form of discipline, decisiveness, and discernment. I also use this alone time to quiet my mind and visualize my ideal day, before I move into my habitual social media perusal, comms, and general busy-ness._

Every morning Benjamin Franklin, the Founding Father of the United States, asked himself, “What good shall I do today?”

## What Good Will You Do with Your Day?

Why is self-discipline important? Because it allows you to live on your terms.

Now go out there and start working on self-discipline that will turn into the ultimate freedom.
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            <title><![CDATA[28 Productive Things to Do When Bored]]></title>
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            <description><![CDATA[According to Cal Newport, the author of Deep Work, your mental capacity is limited to 3-4 hours of cognitively intense work in a day.]]></description>
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_Still work in progress. Updating this post for 2023 as many of the things in this list have changed._

To use your time wisely identify productive things to do when bored that will get you a tiny closer to your goals.

It’s impossible to always be productive. According to Cal Newport, the author of Deep Work, your **mental capacity is limited to 3-4 hours of cognitively intense work in a day.**

Procrastination is inevitable, so you better prepare yourself to procrastinate productively.

Here’s my list of productive things to do when bored at work or life.

## Prodcrastination

Due to my insatiable curiosity, which I see as a feature not a bug, I repeatedly fail to produce results on a consistent basis. For that reason, I like to setup semi-productive things I can do while avoiding real work.

I call it the _“prodcrastination”_ list, as you guessed it, the unlikely child of **productivity** and **procrastination**. While procrastination is seen as bad in our society, it’s an inevitable part of our daily lives.

_“Never put off till tomorrow what may be done day after tomorrow just as well.” – Mark Twain_

The most productive and [successful people putter](https://www.cnbc.com/2018/09/14/billionaire-jeff-bezos-shares-the-daily-routine-he-uses-to-succeed.html) and procrastinate. Some of them quite a lot, but that doesn’t mean they procrastinate the same way you do. They might consciously choose where to direct that attention and energy from the project or a task they avoid engaging with.

Zen Habits founder, Leo Babauta, confessed on his blog, [how he gets people to think he’s productive](https://zenhabits.net/typical/), how he sets up his work day so he gets stuff done while slacking off and getting lost on the internet.

_“On my best days, I’ll get writing and a lot of admin tasks done, but that doesn’t always happen.” – Leo Babauta_

Thomas Edison and Albert Einstein, regarded as very creative and productive people, were procrastinators but they were doing other things while avoiding the real work that led to many discoveries and inventions that impacted your life.

One thing that is becoming more clear to me is that you must understand what are your strengths and double-down on them instead of trying to always push yourself through resistance. I have a feeling, long-term you can't win against someone doing something effortlessly just because they like it.

Maybe Steve Jobs knew something saying _"If you haven't found it yet, keep looking. Don't settle. As with all matters of the heart, you'll know when you find it. And, like any great relationship, it just gets better and better as the years roll on."_

## Get the Foundations Right

To procrastinate semi-productively, lay strong foundations for your career and life. You need to identify indirectly related tasks, activities, topics, [questions](/blog/questions), and subjects.

I'm still trying to define myself but I mostly identify as a founder with particular interest in marketing and design. At this point in my career, I'm juggling with growth marketing and growing Best Writing.

My work these days is business development, accounting, copywriting, product design, management, sales, marketing, design, automation, SEO, outreach.

These are the topics I am interested in and can wander in my free time when I’m not obligated to produce anything meaningful. In these moments, I’m more relaxed and am able to make unexpected connections in my brain.

I’m referring to the ideas you have when you are in a relaxed state, showering, walking and commuting.

## Batching

Batching is a method of combining similar tasks and completing them in one go instead of switching between different activities that require mental recalibration.

Some tasks I batch and I do on a daily or weekly basis include: responding to customers, planning content, promoting content, gathering invoices, optimizing content.

## Semi-Productivity

My work is independent and highly creative. Reading books, relevant articles, stalking competition and bloggers I admire help me expose myself to ideas, concepts, and systems that help me produce my work faster, more quality and efficiency.

Other than that, having time to think and wander is the only way to stay fresh and focused on the big picture instead of obsessing over the tiny details and missing the forest for the trees.

_“All that is gold does not glitter, not all those who wander are lost.” – J.R.R. Tolkien_

In 2008, [The New York Times published a chat transcript](https://www.nytimes.com/2008/07/27/us/politics/27CHAT.html) between David Cameron and Barack Obama talking about taking a vacation and having that guilt-free time to think.

_Mr. Cameron: You should be on the beach. You need a break. Well, you need to be able to keep your head together._

_Mr. Obama: You’ve got to refresh yourself._

_Mr. Cameron: Do you have a break at all?_

_Mr. Obama: I have not. I am going to take a week in August. But I agree with you that somebody, somebody who had worked in the White House who — not Clinton himself, but somebody who had been close to the process — said that should we be successful, that actually the most important thing you need to do is to have big chunks of time during the day when all you’re doing is thinking. And the biggest mistake that a lot of these folks make is just feeling as if you have to be …_

_Mr. Cameron: These guys just chalk your diary up._

_Mr. Obama: Right. … In 15 minute increments and …_

_Mr. Cameron: We call it the dentist waiting room. You have to scrap that because you’ve got to have time._

_Mr. Obama: And, well, and you start making mistakes or you lose the big picture. Or you lose a sense of, I think you lose a feel …_

_Mr. Cameron: Your feeling. And that is exactly what politics is all about. The judgment you bring to make decisions._

_Mr. Obama: That’s exactly right. And the truth is that we’ve got a bunch of smart people, I think, who know 10 times more than we do about the specifics of the topics. And so if what you’re trying to do is micromanage and solve everything then you end up being a dilettante, but you have to have enough knowledge to make good judgments about the choices that are presented to you._

## Productive Things to Do When Bored

1. (2023 update: These days I just chat with my lovely wife and ChatGPT.) Practice Spanish. I use [Anki App](https://www.ankiapp.com/), [Quizlet](https://quizlet.com/) or [Duolingo.](https://www.duolingo.com/)

2. (2023 update: [Consider This](https://www.thezag.com/newsletter/) by Chris Blachut, [Marketing Examples](https://marketingexamples.com/) by Harry Dry, [The Creative Marketer](https://thecreativemarketer.net/subscribe/) by Shlomo Genchin, [Growth.Design](https://growth.design/), [Nat Eliason's Newsletter](https://blog.nateliason.com/), [Growth Newsletter](https://www.demandcurve.com/newsletter-archive), [1](https://jwby.substack.com/) by Jonathan Yagel.) Catch up on my favorite newsletters. Some of them: [Trends](https://trends.co/), [Makerpad](https://www.makerpad.co/newsletter), [Monday Medley](https://www.nateliason.com/medley), [Wandering Aimfully](https://wanderingaimfully.com/newsletter/), and [Recomendo](https://www.recomendo.com/).

3. (2023 update: I adopted Tsundoku a couple of years ago and stopped actively monitoring books I read, I prefer focusing on doing. Tsundoku is the Japanese word for the stack(s) of books you've purchased but haven't read.) Organize my reading list. I use Goodreads (mostly use for ratings and reviews) and [Amazon Wishlist](https://www.amazon.com/shop/tomaslaurinavicius) (mostly use to scroll it from time to time to see if there are any big discounts available).

4. (2023 update: ). Revise my commitments. Find ways to minimize tedious work and low impact tasks. I use [Todoist](https://todoist.com/).

5. Write and send a thank you email to someone who inspired me. Email a close friend or family member I haven’t spoken to in a while.

6. Read my favorite blogs. Some of them are Derek Sivers, [Taylor Pearson](https://taylorpearson.me/), [Wait But Why](https://waitbutwhy.com/), [More To That](https://moretothat.com/), [James Clear](https://jamesclear.com/), [Nat Eliason](https://www.nateliason.com/), [Ryan Kulp](https://www.ryanckulp.com/), [Zen Habits](https://zenhabits.net/), [Backlinko](https://backlinko.com/) by [Brian Dean](https://backlinko.com/), and [Ryan Holiday](https://ryanholiday.net/).

7. Review the services and tools. I use and eliminate the old and unused services. If the same thing can be done with one app, I don’t need to have three. Recently I deleted Evernote, Dropbox, Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.

8. Study a new skill. Here are [digital skills](/blog/digital-skills) I suggest you learn. Here are my favorite go-to places: [Skillshare](https://www.skillshare.com/en/), [LinkedIn Learning](https://www.linkedin.com/learning/) (former Lynda), [Google Courses](https://developers.google.com/training/), [Coursera](https://www.coursera.org/), and [HubSpot Academy](https://academy.hubspot.com/). I also made a list of the [best content marketing courses](https://lauro.media/blog/content-marketing-online-courses).

9. Send a postcard to someone I haven’t talked in a long time (getting their address might be the hardest part). I use [My Postcard app](https://www.mypostcard.com/en/), use “BPBCCB” code for a free €3 credit.

10. Listen to my favorite lifestyle podcasts. There are many but the ones I keep coming back to are Lewis Howes, Tony Robbins, James Altucher, Tom Bilyeu and Tim Ferriss.

11. Go down the rabbit hole on [Quora](https://www.quora.com/profile/Tomas-Laurinavicius).

12. Organize. Everything from files, documents, photos, screenshots, sporadic notes, book notes, favorite quotes. I adopted the [P.A.R.A. Method](https://fortelabs.co/blog/para/) by Tiago Forte.

13. Geek out, edit and organize photos. I use [Adobe Lightroom](https://www.adobe.com/products/photoshop-lightroom.html) for editing and Apple Photos for storing photos. Here’s a [nice guide Apple photos](https://thesweetsetup.com/how-i-use-apple-photos/). I like [Peter McKinnon’s tutorials](https://www.youtube.com/user/petermckinnon24/videos).

14. Curate quotes. Some of them get published in my weekly newsletter, Life Designed. Some turn into posts like mental toughness quotes, heartwarming quotes and more.

15. Stalk other bloggers and publications producing good content and check what performs well, in terms of targeted keyword volume, difficulty, competition, traffic, comments, shares. I use [BuzzSumo](https://buzzsumo.com/), [Semrush](https://www.semrush.com/) or [Ahrefs](https://ahrefs.com/).

16. Organize my Spotify playlists. These are designed to help me get into specific moods: focus, uplifting and tedious work. I listen to different music when I do different tasks. Writing, planning, thinking, editing requires mental focus and a sharp mind, for that reason I use my Deep Work playlist, mostly deep house and classical music. Some other playlists I use are Get Some! which is an uplifting workout playlist to get me into the mood of pumping iron or running and stretching myself a little harder every time.

17. Catch up on reading articles. I switched to [Instapaper](https://www.instapaper.com/) from [Pocket](https://getpocket.com/) primarily for the easier organization structure. With Instapaper, I get to see folders on the sidebar contrary to Pocket where I would need to use tags and will always forget to tag them or come up with ridiculous tags I never search for later. Both tools are great for offline reading and seamless sync between devices. What I loved the most about Pocket, was its content discovery tool. It worked like magic and I discovered a lot of relevant content.

18. Learn more and organize my notes in [Coda](https://coda.io/) [](https://coda.io/?r=ctTyvkAcR6KqWQAQTC_ZgA)and [Airtable](https://www.airtable.com/) to track, measure, refer and access information for my personal use or work purposes.

19. Log my finances, analyze spending patterns and identify where I can cut costs, whether personal or business related. I use [Wave Apps](https://www.waveapps.com/) and [YNAB](https://www.ynab.com/) for personal budgeting and tracking (it’s wonderful). You can get 34 days for free and if you sign up with my invite, you get a month of YNAB for free.

20. [Write 10 ideas](https://jamesaltucher.com/blog/the-ultimate-guide-for-becoming-an-idea-machine/). A practice, popularized by James Altucher, the author of Choose Yourself!

21. Watch TED talks or educational and mind-expanding videos on YouTube. Here are some of my favorite channels: [Kurzgesagt](https://www.youtube.com/user/Kurzgesagt), [The School of Life](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC7IcJI8PUf5Z3zKxnZvTBog), [Matt D’Avella](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCJ24N4O0bP7LGLBDvye7oCA), [Tom Bilyeu](https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCnYMOamNKLGVlJgRUbamveA), [Lewis Howes](https://www.youtube.com/user/lewishowes), and [Joe Rogan](https://www.youtube.com/user/PowerfulJRE).

22. Extract and organize book notes. I use these notes for future reference and sometimes publish on my blog, so you can read my notes and decide if the book is interesting for you.

23. Update my [/now](https://tomaslau.com/) page.

24. Audit my blog’s content and fix indexing, performance, content, accessibility issues found via [Google Webmasters](https://www.google.com/webmasters/) tool.

25. Translate English words I highlighted while reading Kindle books.

26. Make lists of people I want to connect with and learn more by interviewing them for my habits and routines series.

27. Review my past commitments and decisions with new data and perspectives. It’s important to keep adapting instead of trying to plan everything in advance and sticking to the plan. Sometimes a new perspective, data or insight can make many things unnecessary or irrelevant. [The ONE Thing](https://www.the1thing.com/), for example, impacted me a lot and I decided to quit Facebook, Instagram and Twitter eliminating thousands of mini-decisions in the future, including crafting my image, developing strategies, creating and curating content, responding to comments, hacking algorithms and so on.

28. Develop ideas that sometimes become articles like this.
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            <title><![CDATA[Life Lessons I Learned in 2018]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Tue, 01 Jan 2019 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[What a year. Today, I’d like to recap and share my highlights, failures, successes and biggest life lessons of 2018.]]></description>
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![Santiago, Chile](/images/santiago-chile-2018.jpg)
Santiago, Chile.

What a year. Today, I’d like to recap and share my highlights, failures, successes and biggest life lessons of 2018. It’s been the best year so far, but that doesn’t mean everything went my way.

## Highlights

It’s hard to choose the best moments of the year as there were so many.

Nevertheless, here are the highlights of 2018:

- Fell in love.
- Explored Nicaragua.
- Co-hosted Life in White Noise podcast.
- Explored Colombia.
- Explored Peru.
- Learned conversational Spanish.
- Joined Nomad Cruise.
- Explored Bali.
- Had fun with a jet ski.
- Quit Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.
- Spent quality time with friends.
- Had the best birthday party with Colombian food and a Mariachi band!

## Failures

This year I failed a lot. But hey, life goes on.

In 2018, I failed to:

- Publish more.
- Meditate.
- Write daily.
- Read more.
- Say “no” to opportunities and digital distractions.
- Be in the moment.
- Take breaks from work.
- Be less serious about life.
- Accept the adversity.
- Manage time.
- Manage money.
- Maintain a balanced lifestyle.
- Save money.

## Successes

The year 2018 brought success on many levels.

This year I:

- Fell in love with Isabella, a Colombian girl that changed everything I planned for 2018.
- Improved productivity.
- Exercised regularly.
- Practiced intermittent fasting.
- Traveled across four continents, visiting 17 countries: USA, Nicaragua, Costa Rica, Colombia, Peru, Chile, Brazil, Spain, Malta, Greece, Lithuania, Denmark, South Korea, Malaysia, Singapore, Indonesia, and Thailand.
- Redesigned my blog.
- Explored Mexico (Playa del Carmen, and Tulum).
- Visited Orlando, Florida.
- Visited Fort Lauderdale, Florida (attended live show by **[Claptone](https://soundcloud.com/claptone)**).
- Explored Nicaragua (San Juan del Sure and Granada) with the **[WiFi Tribe](https://wifitribe.co/)**.
- Co-hosted **Life in White Noise**, a podcast with Dustin Delatore and talked about independent work and life.
- Explored Costa Rica (Playa Bejuco and San Jose).
- Kept in touch with fellow nomads catching up every month and talking about nomadic life.
- Explored Colombia (Medellin, Guatapé, and Salento) with the WiFi tribe.
- Explored Peru (Cusco, Macchu Pichu, and Lima).
- Explored Chile (Santiago, Valparaíso, and Viña del Mar).
- Learned conversational Spanish. *Qué bien!*
- Visited Buenos Aires, Argentina and had the best steak in my life.
- Visited Rio de Janeiro (Copacabana, Ipanema, and Christ the Redeemer).
- Joined **[Nomad Cruise](/blog/nomad-cruise)** for the second time.
- Returned to Lithuania for the summer and found it very relaxing and beautiful.
- Traded Lithuanian summer for the Chilean winter and returned to Santiago for my girlfriend.
- Explored Seoul, South Korea.
- Completed the **[Content Marketing Certification Course](https://academy.hubspot.com/courses/content-marketing)** by HubSpot Academy.
- Worked with Envato, InVision, Webflow, Monetha, Bloobloom, and WiFi Tribe.
- Explored Bali (Ubud, Uluwatu, Nusa Penida, Lembongan, and Ceningan).
- Had fun with a jet ski.
- Quit Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.
- Explored Thailand (Bangkok, Phuket, and Phi Phi Islands).
- Bathed with elephants.
- Returned to Colombia (Tuluá and Buenaventura) and spent Christmas with my girlfriend's family.
- Devoured more arepas and empanadas than I can count of.
- Read 16 books.
- Grew my blog to 335,360 annual visitors.
- Reached over 3,000 subscribers on my **[lifestyle design newsletter](/newsletter)**.
- Spent quality time with friends.
- Had the best birthday party with Colombian food and a Mariachi band!

## Life Lessons of 2018

In 2018, many good and bad things happened. Here's what I learned in 2018.

**It’s easier to commit to 100% than 99%.** Setting up rules and developing a personal protocol breeds integrity and eliminates the chance of stupid little mistakes that may not look big at the moment but may change your life’s course when reflecting years later.

**Some lessons need to be relearned.** The struggles and challenges that seem to reappear in your life have one objective – to teach you the lesson, even if it’s the same one. It will keep repeating until the lesson is learned.

**You get what you ask for.** There’s no such thing as a ladder in life, it only exists in our collective mind (think society norms). If you want to apply for that high paying job who’s stopping you? (Answer: you).

![Tulum, Mexico](/images/tulum-mexico-tomaslau-2018.jpg)
Tulum, Mexico.

**Attracting versus chasing.** Chasing rarely works (unless you’re a lion in Africa). If you want health, wealth, love and fulfillment in your life, think about what you can do to attract these things in your life. It’s not about a trendy diet, new shoes, buying fancy things, nailing pickup lines or being interviewed by national television. Focus on taking care of yourself. Learn new skills, become a valuable and loving person, and you will attract what you deeply desire. The more you’re willing to walk away from something the bigger the chance you’ll get it in your life.

**Everyone is selfish and wants to feel important.** When you work with people, there’s only one thing you need to master. Make them look good because of you.

**Prioritize questions over answers.** What questions you ask are more important than what answers you’re getting. Stay curious, decisive, adaptable and ask **[thought provoking questions](/blog/questions)**.

![WiFi Tribe in San Juan del Sur, Nicaragua.](/images/wifi-tribe-in-san-juan-del-sur-nicaragua-2018.jpg)

WiFi Tribe in San Juan del Sur, Nicaragua.

**You’re not in control.** Economy, politics, weather, people and many other things are outside of your control. Accept the world as it is or suffer the internal resistance.

**It’s all luck.** The wildly rich and famous, the most successful people and businesses you admire are the way they are because of random chance. People try and rationalize why it worked out one or the other way, but most of the time it’s pure luck. Embrace your life and appreciate being alive. If you’re reading this, you’re lucky.

**You must define success.** The definition of success differs from one person to another. It’s crucial to remind yourself why you do what you do and why it matters to you. Do you really want to spend your life being the *“Instagram Influencer?”* I’m sure you can do better than that.

![Popoyo, Nicaragua](/images/popoyo-nicaragua-tomaslau-2018.jpg)

Popoyo, Nicaragua.

**Put the phone down when someone enters the room.** It’s just a little gesture (that may go unnoticed), but it shows that people are more important than technology.

**Just because it worked yesterday, it doesn’t guarantee it will work today.** Humans are horrible predictors. However, we love predictions, whether by other people or our own (think New Year resolutions). Stay away from predicting and think of shit-hits-the-fan scenarios to prepare yourself for the highly unlikely.

**You may feel lost sometimes, do something.** No one knows what they are doing. If you find yourself in the middle of the ocean with endless choices, don’t overthink. Choose a direction and keep moving forward. Action leads to clarity and clarity feeds motivation.

![Guatapé, Colombia](/images/guatape-colombia-tomaslau-2018.jpg)

Guatapé, Colombia.

**Improve your productivity by defining the next step.** It’s easy to overcommit and feel lost and overwhelmed. Move forward with your personal and professional goals by determining step. Your only job is to figure it out. Not the whole, just the next smallest step you can take.

**If it’s work, it can wait.** Most of the problems solve themselves. Put people first.

**Don’t take yourself too seriously.** You’re dying. Sooner or later. Have fun.

![Machu Picchu, Peru](/images/machu-picchu-peru-tomaslau-2018.jpg)

Machu Picchu, Peru.

**Quit social media.** People will become numbers. You’ll become an algorithm controlled puppet and may seriously harm your health.

**Practice prevention instead of solving crises.** Avoiding stupidity is easier than seeking brilliance. Charlie Munger confirms, “It is remarkable how much long-term advantage people like us have gotten by trying to be consistently not stupid, instead of trying to be very intelligent.”

**You see what you focus on.** If I told you to look for blue around you, you would see it more than before. The same is with life, if you search for the bad, you see the nasty and the ugly, if you look for the good, you see more of it. Try it.

![Buenos Aires, Argentina](/images/buenos-aires-argentina-tomaslau-2018.jpg)
Buenos Aires, Argentina.

**Surrender and accept.** Suffering from ego is a wrong way to live a good life. The easiest way to improve your life is to give up expectations.

**10-10-10.** What are the consequences of my decision in 10 minutes? In 10 months? And in 10 years?

**Appreciate what you have today.** Think of your health, relationships, experiences, memories, and achievements. Is it something you dreamed of long ago?

![Ipanema beach. Rio de Janeiro, Brazil](/images/ipanema-beach-rio-de-janeiro-brazil-tomaslau-2018.jpg)

Ipanema beach. Rio de Janeiro, Brazil.

**When you burn out, get back to basics.** When the world seems to fall apart, don’t try to fix it. Get back to fundamentals. Get enough sleep, exercise, drink more water, eat clean, read and talk to people that matter to you.

**Listen to what’s not being said.** In business, health, money and other areas of life, you’ll hear bold and sexy statements promising you results. It’s common-sense, repetitive and rarely works. Listen to what’s not being said and ask uncomfortable questions.

**Prevent your life from being shitty instead of seeking the best experience.** What if you focused on not making your life suck instead of making it better? What if, on a daily basis, you made sure you don’t get sick, you don’t eat crap, you don’t get dehydrated, don’t get lonely, don’t get lost in mindless consumption?

![Nomad Cruise. Olympia, Greece](/images/nomad-cruise-olympia-greece-tomaslau-2018.jpg)
Nomad Cruise. Olympia, Greece.

**You’ll never feel like you have enough until you define what’s important to you.** You have enough time, resources, knowledge. What you lack is a value system. Crystalize your values, prioritize your goals and ignore the rest.

**Life doesn’t change overnight.** Consciously design systems that will move you forward to the life you want to live. Think of small daily actions you can take that will eventually compound and lead to significant results.

**Quit news.** The world is ending, and you’ll die. Who cares? You know it already. Focus on what matters.

![Nusa Penida, Indonesia](/images/nusa-penida-indonesia-tomaslau-2018.jpg)

Nusa Penida, Indonesia.

**Why some people click while others don’t?** Why I connect deeply with some people while I don’t with others? While traveling the world, I met people with a different world view, values, and motivations. I realized one thing. I only connect with people who love life. I don’t care about your background, achievements, status and other bullshit. I feel when you love life and want to make the most of it. Most of the time people who love life are generous, patient and kind. Think of what is one thing that makes you click with the people in your life?

**No one wants to hear your complaints.** First, it’s a victim mentality. Second, it’s annoying. Third, you can do better. Finally, eat your complaints for breakfast (coffee is optional) and take responsibility for your life.

![Garuda Wisnu Kencana statue in Bali, Indonesia](/images/garuda-wisnu-kencana-statue-in-bali-indonesia-tomaslau-2018.jpg)

Garuda Wisnu Kencana statue in Bali, Indonesia.

**Having a plan is not the answer.** Having Ione, however, helps in moving forward, you may find a path you didn’t plan for, but without having a plan in the first place, you wouldn’t discover the way that’s right for you.

**Your future depends on your ability to learn.** Don’t focus on learning a specific thing, most likely it will be irrelevant soon. Instead, focus on learning to learn things fast, and you’ll own the future.

## Favorite Books of 2018

- **[When Breath Becomes Air](https://amzn.to/2CMGZfb)** by Paul Kalanithi
- **[The Millionaire Fastlane](https://amzn.to/2BVCKfC)** by M.J. DeMarco
- **[Tribe of Mentors](https://amzn.to/2VlobuC)** by Timothy Ferriss
- **[The Defining Decade](https://amzn.to/2LMuJOJ)** by Meg Jay
- **[Willpower Doesn't Work](https://amzn.to/2LOpxK7)** by Benjamin Hardy
- **[One Small Step Can Change Your Life](https://amzn.to/2RtwWDH)** by Robert Maurer
- **[Pitch Anything](https://www.amazon.com/Pitch-Anything-Oren-Klaff/dp/0071332480)** by Oren Klaff
- **[Getting Things Done](https://amzn.to/2LO4lUu)** by David Allen
- **[The Art of the Good Life](https://amzn.to/2VqbXky)** by Rolf Dobelli

I hope these lessons and things I learned in 2018 will make you stop and think for a moment. Get out there and design your life.

If you are interested in my previous yearly reviews, check my life lessons of **[2013](/blog/life-lessons-2013)**, **[2014](/blog/life-lessons-2014)**, **[2015,](/blog/life-lessons-2015)** **[2016](/blog/life-lessons-2016)** and **[2017](/blog/life-lessons-2017)**.
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            <title><![CDATA[An Insider Look at Nomad Cruise, the Ultimate Nomad Experience]]></title>
            <link>https://tomaslau.com/blog/nomad-cruise</link>
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            <pubDate>Wed, 02 May 2018 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[I loved the experience so much, I traveled in Central and Latin Americas for six months until the next Nomad Cruise in the Mediterranean sea.]]></description>
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![Nomad Cruise](/images/nomad-cruise-2018.jpg)

Here's what it's like to live in a bubble.

Nomadic lifestyle can be exciting at the very beginning. Sadly, humans are incredible at adapting and taking things for granted very fast. Once a dream, living on the beach, eating exotic food and sipping mojitos while getting work done eventually becomes a routine.

That's why people seek tribes. They tend to gather in groups of like-minded people. It's how our ancestors lived thousands of years ago and it's how we live today. Our fundamental need is to belong. To be accepted. To love and be loved.

Today, I want to share my experience on the [Nomad Cruise](https://www.nomadcruise.com/), the ultimate nomad experience.

## Nomad Cruise

The first time I heard about the Nomad Cruise was over a year ago. At that time, I was exploring Asia and never made it to Europe or Americas in time to catch the boat. But last summer I returned to Lithuania without a plan and wanted to explore Central and Latin Americas for half a year or so.

After 3 years of travels, my state of mind has changed. I was tired of traveling alone, I was bored of backpackers, I wanted to grow, I desired deeper connections, I aspired to invest in myself.

When researching new destinations I remembered the Nomad Cruise and was curious to find out if I could incorporate in my travels I checked the Nomad Cruise website and found the itinerary from Las Palmas, Spain to Colon, Panama. I was excited and sent my application right away. I got accepted and happily booked my spot.

I loved the experience so much, I traveled in Central and Latin Americas for six months until the next Nomad Cruise which for the first time introduced a route in the Mediterranean sea.

Here's what I learned hopping on two Nomad Cruise trips.

## Learning Experiences

As the founder Johannes Voelkner puts it, “_Nomad Cruise is a conference event for professionals who are location independent.”_

It's for people who are seeking growth and are obsessed with becoming the best they can be.

![Johannes Voelkner](/images/johannes-voelkner-nomad-cruise.jpg)

Johannes Voelkner, the founder of Nomad cruise on stage. Photo by Rene Schiffer.

Nomad Cruise team has done an amazing job gathering inspiring speakers and workshop facilitators. The program is diverse and designed to not only inspire but provide practical knowledge. The goal is simple, to show how to improve a location independent lifestyle. You are free to choose from a variety of topics you want to learn. Topics range from psychology, passive income, investing, cryptocurrencies to health, productivity and more.

The biggest takeaway for me is learning to communicate. Everyone on the cruise has their own story, strengths and weaknesses, failures and successes, fears and dreams. It is easy to ignore people and stay in your comfort zone but why not stay at home then?

On my first Nomad Cruise, I went crazy as I was so excited to meet so many people. I didn't know how to behave and a mix of excitement and alcohol made me a loud and sometimes obnoxious party monkey. As a result, I offended and hurt some people. I let my ego take over and ruin the experience for people who didn't find my behavior entertaining.

I'm thankful for people who stepped forward and told me that what I was doing wasn't exactly what I would like to be known for. Since then, I decided to work on improving my self-awareness to better understand when I cross the line and alienate people.

Without such experience and supportive community, I wouldn't be able to look at myself and decide who I want to be and how I want to treat people.

After my first Nomad Cruise, I joined the WiFi Tribe and traveled across central and South America for six months where I connected deeply with very special people.

## Breathtaking Destinations

![Overlooking Panama City](/images/overlooking-panama-city-2017.jpg)
Overlooking Panama City.

One of the most attractive features of the Nomad Cruise is visiting exciting [digital nomad destinations](https://portsurfer.com/blog/digital-nomad-destinations). That's the main reason people become nomads. Being able to travel to exciting places and seek new adventures turns into addiction. Cruises take you places you wouldn't normally go to.

Think remote islands and beautiful coastal towns that are usually under the radar. On my two Nomad Cruise trips, I visited Spain, St. Kitts, Aruba, Curacao, Panama, Malta and Greece.

![Nafplion, Greece](/images/nafplion-greece-nomad-cruise-2018.jpg)

Nafplion, Greece.

![Aruba](/images/aruba-nomad-cruise-2017.jpg)
Aruba.

Other than just visiting places you get to do fun stuff like the hike up the mountains, rent scooters or ATVs and drive around, get to try local food and drinks and chill out on the beach or cafes before heading back to the cruise ship.

## Lifelong Friendships

Nomad Cruise means different things to different people.

Some see it as a crazy party, some see it as a business networking event, some see it as a holiday. For me, it's an opportunity to connect with like-minded people and make new friends.

I'm grateful for the privilege and opportunity to join two cruises back-to-back. I met incredible people who accepted the way I am, challenged my beliefs and inspired me to become better.

![Nomad Cruise participants](/images/nomad-cruise-participants.jpg)
Nomad Cruise participants. Photo by Tijmen Hobbel.

It's impossible to meet and get to know everyone and it's not the point. Life is about making choices. Making sacrifices. You want it or not, you have to cut people off so you can engage and get to know someone. I was lucky to meet a bunch of funny, intelligent and kind people that I call my true friends.

These friendships turned into masterminds, inspiring chats, business, travel plans and a podcast.

Seeing new places is fun but is nothing compared to connecting to people you meet in these places.

## All-Inclusive Madness

Both of my Nomad Cruise experiences were all-inclusive, meaning unlimited food, drinks and fun. Moreover, you get access to all the talks, selected workshops, meet-ups, a network of like-minded people and freedom to design your own experience.

![Nomad Cruise comes with all-inclusive food and drinks](/images/nomad-cruise-all-inclusive.jpg)
Nomad Cruise comes with all-inclusive food and drinks. Photo by Rene Schiffer.

You don't have to do everything, there is no strict routine so you can decide yourself what you want the experience to be.

You can wake up early and do yoga, you can hit the gym and relax at the sauna, you can read your favorite book with a morning cup of coffee and get inspired at the morning talk session. You can choose to eat healthy, connect with people that resonate with you and take it easy chatting with people by the pool.

Or you can go crazy and indulge in all the food the boat has to offer, you can go and party with the animation team of the cruise, you can go and get to try all the wine at the dinner table and then dance off your demons at the night disco until the sun comes up, then sleep until lunch and miss most of the activities just to recover for the sunbathing session with a cocktail to help you ease the hangover.

I've done it all. I enjoyed my time in silence. I loved one on one conversations with people, I enjoyed breaking a sweat in the gym, I felt good eating healthy and I had a lot of fun going crazy at the disco and having too many shots.

It's all up to you. Self-awareness and knowing your limits is crucial on the Nomad Cruise and that's something the organizers emphasize at the welcoming speech.

## Finding Your Tribe

![Athens, Greece](/images/athens-greece-nomad-cruise-2018.jpg)

Influencer style photo shot in Athens, Greece.

Life is not an event. It's a never-ending process. The same thing is with the Nomad Cruise. As the organizers like to say, it's just a beginning. A beginning of new friendships, adventures, businesses and relationships.

As I mentioned at the beginning, all of us are seeking for our tribe. Someone who likes and dislikes the same thing as you do. Seeking a group of people who can make you feel safe, accepted, challenged, inspired and loved.

The nomadic lifestyle is novel and fun but at some point, you start seeking something deeper. Deeper meaning, relationships, focus, time off, relaxation, restoration, creation. You seek comfort and commitment, you seek to build and be a part of a community with shared values. Global citizenship is the next step. You start thinking globally, better understand how your actions and decisions affect local economies, mindsets and behavior of people. You understand the power you have and start applying it to selfless causes.

## Conclusion

Hopping on the Nomad Cruise is definitely one of the best decisions I've ever made. I'm grateful for the ultimate nomad experience that allowed me to better understand myself, find true friends and visit beautiful destinations.

If you're tired of hostel hopping consider taking one of the Nomad Cruise trips that can turn into a journey of a lifetime.
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            <title><![CDATA[Four Powerful Beliefs to Help You Overcome Self-Doubt]]></title>
            <link>https://tomaslau.com/blog/doubt</link>
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            <pubDate>Thu, 22 Feb 2018 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[I believe life can be designed and it’s your responsibility to make it a journey of a lifetime. Self-doubt is a prison you must escape.]]></description>
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![Self-Doubt](/images/self-doubt.jpg)

I believe life can be designed and it’s your responsibility to make it a journey of a lifetime.

Self-doubt is a prison you must escape.

_“Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will,”_ wrote Suzy Kassem. I can't agree more.

Here are some questions I get most often.

- What should I write about?
- How can I travel the world?
- What should I study?
- What can I teach?
- How do I know people will care about my work?
- Why would anyone buy from me?
- What should I do with my life?

## Overcome Self-Doubt

Here are four beliefs to help you navigate through down times and moments of self-doubt.

1. No one knows what they are doing.
2. No one cares as much as you think they do.
3. You don’t have to have all the answers.
4. Do what you can, with what you have, where you are.

## 1. No One Knows What They Are Doing

No matter how many degrees you have, how many books you read, how successful you become, you won’t know what you are doing. You’ll have doubts, you’ll feel lost, you’ll question everything and will _never_ know everything.

Everything you do is your best guess on how it will turn out. From successful CEOs to celebrities to average families, everyone is just betting on life with their best guesses. It’s easy to follow one or the other philosophy, religion, a way of life but there is no one answer. Anyone and everyone is free to choose how they want to live their life.

We, humans, tend to seek advice and guidance from people more accomplished than us, more recognized, more successful, more credible. We do this to avoid taking the full ownership of our own life expecting that other people know better how to live. Everyone is just trying to figure it out. So do you and I. It is very little that you know about life and a whole universe of things you don’t know that you don’t know. The more you study your field, the more you understand its vastness. One of the smartest people in history, Albert Einstein, said: _“The more I learn, the more I realize how much I don't know.”_

You understand that you understand nothing when you get to see how big everything is. It’s simply impossible to know what you’re doing in every aspect of your life. How to raise kids, how to learn, eat, sleep, exercise, build a business, invest, cook, have great relationships and the list goes on.

I trust Jim Carrey and this is what he said, _“I think everybody should get rich and famous and do everything they ever dreamed of so they can see that it's not the answer.”_

## 2. No One Cares as Much as You Think They Do

Recently I wrote about seeking approval and validation. It’s a never-ending loop of human nature. We are animals seeking pleasure and avoiding pain. We want to survive and leave a legacy. Sadly, our brain and thinking couldn’t keep up with the agricultural, industrial and information revolutions that allow us to live in comfort without having to worry about survival and life threats as our ancestors did. However, you can’t just tell your brain to stop worrying and start living. Every rejection, every intention to put yourself and your work out there is a potential threat to be rejected.

We are self-centered beings and see things from our own perspective. When you fail at a job no one really cares as much as you think they do. Everyone has their own problems and worries. They care about themselves. Some people may care about your work, life, failure, success but not for as long as you imagine.

People move on faster than you think. Think about the latest failure that you cared about that wasn’t yours. You moved on and forgot it. You didn’t care much.

The best way to see yourself that no one cares as much as you think they do is to create and share your work. Compose a song, shoot a video, write an article and publish it. See what happens. I promise that people won’t care as much as you think. The world will still be turning. It was turning before you and will be still turning long after you.

It’s sad but it’s liberating at the same time. Once you realize that you are not obliged to create the best work every time and once you realize that you care about what others think of you more than they do, you will finally be able to do your best work because you’ll do it for yourself.

## 3. You Don’t Have to Have All the Answers

No one has all the answers. Smartest scientists in the world admitted that they don’t know everything. People considered geniuses admitted many times before that they don’t have all the answers. They might know a lot in their field but they don’t know everything.

It’s alright to not know everything. If I had to explain the technology behind WiFi and microwave to someone who never heard of it, I couldn’t, but that doesn’t stop me from using these inventions every day.

What I know for sure is that your life is limited and it’s ending. Tomorrow is not promised and your life can end at any moment. You won’t get a new life. Make this one count.

In the words of theoretical physicist and Nobel Prize winner Richard Feynman:

_Fall in love with some activity, and do it! Nobody ever figures out what life is all about, and it doesn't matter. Explore the world. Nearly everything is really interesting if you go into it deeply enough. Work as hard and as much as you want to on the things you like to do the best. Don't think about what you want to be, but what you want to do. Keep up some kind of a minimum with other things so that society doesn't stop you from doing anything at all._

Embrace the uncertainty and accept that it’s alright to not know everything. Admitting that you don’t have all the answers allows you to make mistakes. It allows you to trust yourself.

It allows you to be a human.

## 4. Do What You Can, with What You Have, Where You Are

At any moment in your life, you can choose to be reactive or proactive. You can choose to own the moment or be owned. You can choose to be the main character or you can choose to be a spectator and see your life pass by.

You have a choice to do your best with what you have, where you are right now.

Don’t obsess about the future, think about making great choices in the next five minutes.

What you have right now and where you are right now is a sum of your decisions. Your health is a sum of your diet and exercise choices. Every choice you made in the past leads to where you are now. If you’re broke and unhappy it’s because you made poor choices that got you here.

Here’s something I believe to be the secret to life. You can reset your life and own it starting right now. Make better choices, let yourself feel uncomfortable, make hard decisions in the next five minutes and see where it gets you. See your life changing. Keep focusing on the next five minutes and making best decisions you can and observe how it leads you to a different path.

I believe that at any moment in life you are where you have to be. The best teachers I had in my life were empty pockets, empty belly and broken-heart. When you completely hit the bottom there’s nowhere to go but up. You face the truth. You have a choice. To stay where you are and make same mistakes and easy choices that lead to same outcomes or you can choose to make hard choices that lead to the life you want.

I believe life can be designed and it’s your responsibility to make it a journey of a lifetime.

You have to trust yourself. Steve Jobs once said, _“You can't connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future.”_

I hope these beliefs I use to design my life will help you make better decisions and inspire you to make harder choices so you can have an easier life.

You owe it to yourself and to the world.
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            <title><![CDATA[Life Lessons I Learned in 2017]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Mon, 01 Jan 2018 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[What a year. Today, I’d like to recap and share my highlights, failures, successes and biggest life lessons of 2017.]]></description>
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![Ubud, Bali, Indonesia](/images/tomaslau-bocas-del-toro-panama-2017.jpg)
Bocas del Toro, Panama.

What a year. Today, I’d like to recap and share my highlights, failures, successes and biggest life lessons of 2017. It's been the best year so far but that doesn't mean everything was going my way.

If you are interested in my previous yearly reviews, check my life lessons of **[2013](/blog/life-lessons-2013)**, **[2014](/blog/life-lessons-2014)**, **[2015](/blog/life-lessons-2015)** and **[2016](/blog/life-lessons-2016)**.

## Highlights

It's hard to choose the best moments of the year as there were so many. I'm truly blessed to have so much fun.

- Chilled on the Gili Air, an island in Indonesia.
- Finished writing my book.
- Explored Sydney, Australia.
- Traveled around Sri Lanka.
- Crossed the Atlantic Ocean on the [Nomad Cruise](/blog/nomad-cruise).
- Joined the WiFi Tribe in Panama and Jamaica.
- Conquered the ATV trail in Bocas del Toro, Panama.
- Enjoyed cliff jumping in Negril, Jamaica.
- Climbed Mount Batur, a volcano in Indonesia.
- Hiked the Blue Mountains in Jamaica.

## Failures

This year I had a lot of failures. Life goes on. This year I failed to:

- Stay in touch with family and close friends.
- Keep long distance relationship with my girlfriend.
- Focus on the right things.
- Meditate consistently.
- Invest early in crypto assets.
- Complete writing book earlier.
- Publish consistently on my blog.
- Grow my blog readership and email list.
- Launch my video channel.
- Launch my podcast.
- Focus on conversations.
- Invest time in value producing work and assets.
- Think like an entrepreneur.
- Contain my ego.
- Accept people as they are.
- Limit my access to email, social media and news sites.
- Forgive myself for breaking up with my girlfriend.
- Fight feeling like the impostor.
- Feel like I deserve everything I have.
- Effectively manage people.
- Meet deadlines.
- Set clear priorities.
- Keep interest in important task and goals.
- Write daily.

## Successes

This year was extremely successful on many levels.

- Stayed in shape.
- Traveled a lot across four continents, visiting 15 countries: Indonesia, Australia, Singapore, Malaysia, Thailand, Sri Lanka, Vietnam, Hong Kong, Latvia, Denmark, Spain, Panama, Costa Rica, Jamaica, and Mexico.
- Met incredible people.
- Improved self-awareness.
- Learned a lot listening to podcasts.
- Followed rock solid morning routine.
- Experimented with the ketogenic diet, intermittent fasting and did 48-hour water fast.
- Published monthly lifestyle reports.
- Started contributing to *Entrepreneur*, *Observer*, *HuffPost*, *The Next Web*, *Adobe*, *adidas,* and *Influencive.*
- Did lots of interviews and podcasts and will be featured in a documentary “[Keeping & Saving or How to Live](https://www.imdb.com/title/tt7976370/).”
- Read 52 books.
- Published 73 stories on *Forbes*.
- Finished writing my book.
- Consistently sent out *Life Designed* newsletter.
- Recorded podcasts for my upcoming podcast.
- Have been interviewed and featured in many publications. My favorite: **[Typeform](https://www.typeform.com/blog/ask-awesomely/tomas-laurinavicius-interview/)**, **[Crowdfire](https://medium.com/crowdfire-product/veni-vidi-vici-a-tale-of-the-modern-day-conqueror-dd8c3c14bfcb)** and **[adidas](https://www.gameplan-a.com/2017/08/simple-daily-routine-keep-mental-physical-health-top-shape/)**.
- Stayed with my family in Lithuania.
- Started investing in crypto assets.
- Bought a camera, improved my photography skills and leveled up my Instagram game.
- Launched and grew my Facebook page to nearly 30,000 fans.
- Attended in-person and virtual masterminds.
- Invested in P2P loans and real estate.
- Meditated even if infrequently.
- Disconnected from work and internet for 2 weeks.
- Launched my Patreon and got first supporters.
- Removed 4 wisdom teeth.
- Understood what I want in life right now: deep work, discipline, community, commitment, stability.
- Got an idea of what leisure time I like: ATVs, cliff diving, climbing, hiking.
- Understood that I don’t want to chase numbers and want to do things my way.
- Learned a tiny bit Spanish.

## Life Lessons of 2017

**Wealth is created slowly.** Save one-tenth, live below your means, minimize expenses, invest and make your money multiply.

**Only invest in the fields you know something about.** An alternative way is to have an expert you can trust, otherwise, your investment will turn into a very expensive lesson.

**You don't know what you don't know.** Acknowledge that you are blind and there is so much more to learn. Allow yourself to be a no one and observe, listen, you might open up your eyes finally and see what you don't know.

**You need to take action and do it fast.** There are so many things you want to analyze and try and hypothesize but nothing matters until you take action. Executed 80% solution is better than perfect 100% solution that never leaves your head.

**Your path will change and that is okay.** What fired you up last year might be completely boring this year. Don't stick to it just to be consistent. You have the right to leave the path you're on and go toward a new direction. The clock is ticking and time is against you.

**You're not entitled to anything.** It's hard to realize and face the truth that what was given to you can be taken away at any time. In most cases, it will make you very angry and will cause a lot of pain. Stop asking *why me*, start asking *what's next*?

**Nothing is permanent.** The only constant is change. Move fast, take as much as you can and don't get angry when things change. Your job is to adapt and respond in a way that doesn't alienate your core value and philosophy in life.

**You're in the maze.** Some people figure out it sooner, some later. Your job is to figure out. There are lots of dead-ends and you have to take a lot of steps back. You may get a sense of fake progress to just only face another wall and need to go back to square one. Not all progress is visible. For you, it may take longer than other people but you'll solve it. Keep moving.

**It's not your job to take action for other people.** I know you want good for your family, friends and loved ones but only they can take action to improve their lives. Your job is to plant the seed of the change, support their thinking, fears and beliefs and be there when they're ready. Don't take it personally, don't force it.

**The most important work sometimes takes less than you think.** Starting up a business takes less than a week. Creating yearly content plan takes an hour. Defining a clear goal takes less than a minute. Choosing to change your lifestyle takes split second. Just because it doesn't take long it doesn't mean it's not valuable.

**Everything you do has an intention.** Your job is to set these intentions. Most of the things you do are not in your conscious control. You act on your fears, insecurities, doubts and other subconscious messages that you are not aware of. You'll try to justify these decisions but that's just fooling yourself. Set as many intentions as possible and see how that changes things.

**You already are who you want to be.** You're an actor, writer, singer, entrepreneur, athlete, artist, photographer, traveler, coach, friend, and lover. You just need to do your job and carve it out. What you want is already inside of you. Let it out. Daily.

**Allow yourself to be a beginner.** Give yourself a permission to suck. You owe it to yourself. Create your worst work ever. Show it to people and see how it's being thrown out of the window. Hear people say it's the worst thing they've ever seen. Once you do that, there's nowhere to go but up.

**Don't take it personally.** Whatever that is, an opinion, comment, feedback, insult. If people talk bad about you they're spreading their negativity. If you've been fired off your job, it's not because you're bad, it's because you are not needed anymore if you broke up with your partner, it's not because you're bad, it's just not the right fit.

**You're not the victim unless you choose to be.** There are horrible, inhumane conditions and circumstances. But only you define how you operate in these circumstances. Don't be a victim, don't let others determine how your story ends. In the words of Theodore Roosevelt, *"Do what you can, with what you have, where you are."*

**Living minimally doesn't mean having less.** It means having less of more. Buying fewer clothes you kinda like allows you to buy more of the clothes you love, spending less on low-quality products allows you to buy more of high-quality products. Having fewer things lets you appreciate more the things you have. If you're not happy with what you have now, you'll never be happy.

**Simplify your life.** It's always easy to add something. Another color to your website, a new shirt to your wardrobe, another app to your smartphone, another notebook, gadget, feature, newsletter, book. It all creates mental fog and complexity in life. Simplify your life. Your decisions, environment, work, relationships. It's about taking things away that creates beauty. In the words of Antoine de Saint-Exupery, *"Perfection is achieved, not when there is nothing more to add, but when there is nothing left to take away."*

**You don't have to run long and lift heavy to be healthy.** Your life becomes slower and more sedentary due to the comfort technology has created. Your job is to take care of your body and health. It doesn't have to be an intense CrossFit class or exhausting 2-hour run. It has to be something you enjoy doing, it has to be effortless yet enjoyable. Walk to your office, take walking meetings, make fun of taking stairs, get your coffee in a new cafe, take a different route home.

**Don't default to happiness.** Happiness is not constant, it's an emotion. You can't control emotions, you can only notice and acknowledge them. What you can do is default to your purpose. Choose something worth suffering for because inevitably you'll have to suffer in life. Defaulting to purpose makes suffering more bearable and as a byproduct, you'll get your happiness.

**What you surround yourself with matters.** Surround yourself with better people, food, information, energy, diversity, and ideals. You're only as strong as the environment around you. If you surround yourself with champions, movers and shakers, healthy, hardworking, honest and knowledgeable people, you'll become one too. It's easy to eat healthy when the healthy restaurant and organic market is next door.

**Notice the little things.** Notice how people thank you, notice waiter's new haircut, notice how happy someone feels, notice how bad someone feels, notice how your friend progressed on her weight loss journey, notice how your barista honors her craft, notice how your mom prepares dinner, notice how a stranger opens up a door for another stranger, notice how driver stops in the middle of the street to let young mother cross the street with her children, notice all these little acts of kindness. It's everywhere and it's beautiful. It needs more attention.

**Take full ownership.** There are things that are not in your control. Weather, natural disasters, economy, other people but you can always prepare for the best and for the worst. Bad things will happen, you can't control that, what you can control is your attitude. Take full responsibility, suck it up and do the right thing.

**You have to believe in something.** Nothing is promised, nothing is true. You have to choose your side and believe in something. God, humanity, sports, art, politics, nature, education. Life gets hard, ugly and unfair. If you don't believe in something you'll be lost.

**Fear is part of you and that is a good thing.** Your brain has evolved from lizard brain but that doesn't mean it retired. In fact, it's more active than ever. Every day it helps you survive, it stops you from doing stupid shit and ensures you live another day. It serves you. But to a certain extent. We, humans, have completely redesigned the world and the threats that our lizard brain sees doesn't exist anymore. Notice when your lizard brain speaks and don't let it stop you from expressing your opinion, pitching an idea, telling people what you think of them and most important creating art.

**Do the work.** The only way you can let your talent out is doing the work. It will not be glamorous, it will not bring you the results right away, it will not make you any better or worse but eventually, it will get you where you want to be with your work. It takes time, you'll sweat but that's how you'll earn respect from others and most important from yourself.

**You get what you focus on.** If you victimize yourself and always blame others it continues. If you constantly complain, you only find more ways to complain. If you focus on eating healthy, you eat more veggies, drink more water, start moving and cut sugar. If you focus on writing, you read, you sketch, you write. If you focus on being a better friend, you make more calls, you listen, you put others first. You can't focus on everything but focusing on nothing will get you nothing you want.

**You need to listen to what is whispered to you.** You just got a new job but you hear someone's whispering is not right for you. You just committed to a new project but a week into it someone whispers you it's not worth it. You just moved to a new city and a month later someone whispers you it's not what you need right now. You started working on a business idea and a year later someone whispers you it's not for you. Listen to these whispers, whether it comes from within, environment, mentors, people you trust and anywhere else there might be something worth listening to and taking action.

**People come and go.** Make sure you let the special ones know what they mean to you. Let them know they matter.

**There will be times when life sucks.** Let it be. It has a lesson. Most of life is made of boring moments. No need to artificially be happy about it. If it sucks it sucks.

**You don’t want to be alone.** It’s not that you are scared to be left alone, it’s just that when it’s all said and done, you want to be with someone. Someone to share the moment with. If you care and love each other it will feel even better.

**You’ll inevitably make mistakes.** Again and again. It’s better you learn to make better mistakes.

**Once again, you can’t please everyone.** You know it already but here is a reminder to mind your business. People yell at different things because they don’t have more important things to do. Stay in your lane. Give a damn about the things you care about. Giving a damn and pleasing people who don’t understand you is not a good thing to give a damn about.

**The world is an amazing and horrible place.** It depends on how you look at it.

**Write down your life principles.** Develop your personal protocol and follow it in order to lead a life without regrets. Once you have your list of non-negotiables your life becomes more aligned and meaningful.

**Breathe.** Meditation is not just sitting in a lotus position and making weird sounds. It’s a mindful breathing and exercise for your brain. Your body doesn’t care about your fears, motivations and TV shows. It needs oxygen. Give more of it and your body will help you get what you want.

**If you don’t challenge yourself you’re already dead.** Death is coming for you, sooner or later. Don’t die before you’re dead. Take chances. Challenge yourself, take calculated risks.

**Change it up.** Living on a tropical island might look like an ideal life in paradise but it gets boring sooner than you can imagine. Then you need a buzzing city life, more hustle, more ambition. Same with everything else. Change food, routine, people you hang out with. You don’t have to keep it that way, just change it up from time to time to experience it fully, to appreciate things you take for granted.

**Get dirty.** Go out and run in the rain, jump in the puddles, crawl in mud, jump on ATV and ride through the jungle. Only then you feel alive, you feel how fun it is to play, only then you realize how fun it is to shower and lay in a clean bed while drinking tea and reading your favorite book.

**Be yourself but don’t push other people by entering their personal space.** What you stand for and what you believe in is all about you. Never give up on these things.

**Sometimes you need to get really cold to understand the meaning of warmth.** Same goes for love, money and purpose.

**Having great relationships doesn’t mean chatting every day or every week.** It means caring and loving unconditionally and being there when the time comes.

**Fear never goes away.** Whether it’s fear of darkness, height or being alone, you just get used to living with it. You get used to acknowledging it and doing the right thing anyway.

**Do it for the love.** For the love of art, for the love of mastery, for the love of self-discipline. Views, likes, statistics can be altered. Do it for the love, not for the likes. If you don't care about getting the credit, you do it for the love of the craft, when you stop caring about the credit you will feel incredible fulfillment just creating, expressing yourself and letting ideas out into the wild.

**Welcome everyone with an open heart.** It’s hard at the beginning but with time you’ll get used to accepting people just the way they are. Let go of expectations and let people surprise you. Even people who hurt you can surprise you.

**Every day you get to start over.** Paulo Coelho once said, "_One day or day one. You decide."_

Happy New Year!
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            <title><![CDATA[Life Lessons I Learned in 2016]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Sun, 01 Jan 2017 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[I dreamed, created, learned, traveled, read, wrote, meditated, exercised, gained, lost, understood, enjoyed, lived, laughed and loved.]]></description>
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![Ubud, Bali, Indonesia](/images/ubud-bali-indonesia.jpg)
Ubud, Bali, Indonesia.

Today, I’d like to share life lessons of 2016. I dreamed, created, learned, traveled, read, wrote, meditated, exercised, gained, lost, understood, enjoyed, lived, laughed and loved.

If you are interested in my previous yearly reviews, check life lessons of **[2013](/blog/life-lessons-2013)** and **[2014](/blog/life-lessons-2014)** and **[2015](/blog/life-lessons-2015)**.

**People will always complain.** People believe in contradictions. Even toxic relationships give us something we enjoy. You can't change that. Quit news. Everything is designed to make you feel like the world is ending.

**Pursue your dreams.** There is always time for the things that matter to you. Even if it doesn't make sense to anyone else or even you. Make time to do things that make you happy. Make no excuses and find a way. To make you more confident, I’ll tell you that no one knows what they are doing. It just looks that they know. I don't.

**Talent is not enough.** Work hard, be nice and learn new things. Opportunities will come when you deserve it. It may look like challenges and hard work, but that's opportunities others can't see.

**There is something you know that other people don't.** Share it. Your work is not you. Don't get hurt, defensive or angry.

**Learn to say no.** By saying no to good things, you are saving yourself for great things. You have a limited number of things you can do in the lifetime. Don't waste your talent and energy on mediocre things and people.

**Find a great partner.** In business, gym, and life. You'll be more inspired and motivated to go big. In August, I partnered up with **[Justas Markus](https://twitter.com/JustasMarkus)** and started a creative content marketing agency. We landed two clients in the first month.

**It's a lot about not doing than doing.** Not reading news, not watching TV, not eating cake, not staying up late in the party. It contributes more than doing, like only *sometimes* eating salad or *sometimes* going to the gym.

**There is always another level.** Your mindset is the most important factor for your success. Adopt growth mindset. Knowledge is only a potential power. Knowledge combined with action is what will make you excel. Do less but better. Become essentialist. Don't stay satisfied.

**Choose yourself.** Choose your health, relationships, career and lifestyle. Invest in your future. Long gone are the days where there were guarantees in education, jobs and government.

**Never take advice from someone you wouldn’t trade places with.** The more successful you get, the more people want to coach you how to do one or the other thing. When you take or ask for advice, make sure the person is qualified in the field you want to improve.

**Develop your personal brand.** Whether you work on it or not, you have a brand. You must be consistent with it. Blogging, podcasting, social media and anything else takes the time to get noticed.

**Habits are what most of your days are made of.** Change habits to change your lifestyle. Your morning determines your day. Spend time to design your **[miracle morning](https://miraclemorning.com/)**.

**Your desire creates suffering.** You're never satisfied with what you have. Resistance creates pain. Resisting to what is now, makes you suffer. You'll never be fulfilled until you surrender to the **[present moment](/blog/if-not-now-when)**.

**Life can end at any second.** In October, I hit a car riding a scooter in Chiang Mai, Thailand. Luckily, I didn't get hurt badly. It reminded me that you never know when your time comes. Cherish every moment. Tomorrow you might not be around.

**I signed with a literary agent.** My stories about habits and lifestyle design went viral and were republished by **[The Next Web](http://thenextweb.com/author/tomas-laurinavicius/)**, **[TIME](https://time.com/author/tomas-laurinavicius/)**, **[Observer](http://observer.com/author/tomas-laurinavicius/)**, **[The Huffington Post](http://www.huffingtonpost.com/author/ltomas-lt-223)**, **Prsuit** and **[Matador Network](https://matadornetwork.com/author/tomaslaurinavicius/)**. All of that led a contract with an agent and book in the progress.

**Take care of your body.** Every day avoid death. You will have to spend the rest of your life in this body. Eat more vegetables and fruits. Make regular exercising your priority. Don’t overeat junk food.

**We are animals.** Our brain is focused on survival. That's why you get sweaty hands and dry throat before the presentation. Your brain thinks it's a threat to your survival. Everyone suffers pain. Become more compassionate and build meaningful relationships. We all want to survive.

**You need a grand plan for life.** If you don't know what you want from life how can you expect to get anything you desire? If you don't build your dream life, someone will build it for you, and there's a big chance you won't be that happy with it. If you want to do something, go and do something about it. Don't wait.

**Transparency is scary therefore liberating.** In 2016, I started publishing monthly lifestyle reports including sleep, productivity, fitness, income and more.

**Choose what is right for you.** In July, I decided to sell Despreneur and move on. I had to be strong to step down after three years of founding it. However, it is the right decision, and I'm excited about my mission to empower 1 million people to change lifestyle for good.

**Build and launch.** In 2016, I built and launched The Despreneur Podcast, Despreneur Academy and Despreneur Deals. Most of the time I didn't know what I was doing, but it was a fun and immersive way to learn business, marketing, sales, automation and more.

**No one owes you anything.** You are responsible for your life. How happy and healthy you are, how much you earn, how much freedom you have, how much you respect and are respected. **[You owe everything to yourself](/blog/no-one-owes-you-anything)**.

**No, you can't have 5 minutes of my time.** I can't fill your survey for your fake project that will never benefit anyone.

**Books are the ultimate mentors in life.** It's foolish not to read. To improve your life read more, here's my **[reading list](/blog/reading-list)**.

**Wherever you go, there you are.** The physical place doesn't exist. The most important things in life are not visible.

**Training people add extra hours to your day.** In 2016, I hired my first virtual assistant. I've learned that it's a smart way to clone your skills and add extra hours to make your day more productive.

**What day is it?** It doesn't matter. It's today, always. Laugh, live and love.

**Avoid regrets in life.** Working on the “stop doing” or in other words **[“f\*ck it” list](/blog/fck-it-list)** is as powerful as working on the bucket list.

**Try new things.** Have fun building and breaking. Read books that don’t look good for teachers or parents. Watch movies and everything possible to form your opinion.

**Listen more.** Actively monitor and analyze what you are hearing. Question everything and try to make connections. Relate. Any fool can judge and critique, but only smart one will try to empathize and make connections.

**You have no limits.** If anyone tells you can’t do something, they’re showing their limits. Most of the time these people will be the closest to you, your family, friends, lovers. Love them but don’t listen to their limitations on you.

**Make self-development a priority.** Read more about the things that excite you, question everything. Learn how to become a better speaker, writer, storyteller, son, friend, leader.

**Start writing.** Clear communication is a key to personal and professional success. Practice writing every day. Write about the things that excite you. Tell stories. We evolved with stories. Writing well is about simplicity. Simplify. If you can say it with fewer words, do it.

**Don’t try to be important.** Your ego will demand attention, ignore it. Serve anyone without expecting anything in return. Amazing things will happen once you shift your mindset and start enjoying helping others. You will see how paying it forward comes back in the most beautiful and unexpected ways.

**Meditate.**  A quiet mind is a myth. You can observe your mind, but its job is to think. It may sound like a woo-woo, but it will solve most of your problems. Calmness, peace of mind, confidence and stability. These are some of the benefits you will gain from meditation.

**Fear nothing.** If it doesn’t threaten your life, fear nothing. Want to start a blog? Do it. Want to speak at an event? Do it. All these acts outside your comfort zone will scare you to death but will enrich your life 10x.

**Life has no rules.** Everything is made up. If you decided to drop out of school, make sure to develop a plan what are you going after and do it immediately. It’s not worth your time suffering and letting your creative talent fade.

**Be bold.** Stand for yourself. If you believe in something, go all in and don’t soften when people start pouring their sh\*t on you. Trust your intuition. You know the best what is good for you.

**Don’t be fooled by the surface.** You already know what you want from life. It may look attractive to work in one or the other industry, but most of the time you will be fooled by the surface. Don’t question yourself just because someone is successful selling running shoes. You only see success in the mass media. Nobody talks about behind the scenes.

**When you love, love with all your heart.** Love is scary because it makes you vulnerable. But it’s the ultimate life experience. If you love, love with all your heart. You will get hurt but don’t abandon love. It comes and goes. Love yourself, people and life anyway.

**Always do good.** You want to be the bad girl or boy. You want to break the rules. You want to be recognized. It is your ego looking for the external approval. Always do good. It will make you feel good internally. It's always the right time to do the right thing.

**Don’t drink too much.** It’s nice to have drinks with your friends and do stupid things. But it’s not worth wasting your best days laying in bed with a hangover. Drink responsibly.

**Give up sugar.** You don’t need sugar. Tea and coffee taste amazing without sugar. Enjoying a cake and ice cream only on the weekend has a different meaning. Your thinking will become sharper. Your body will perform better.

**Apply the 20/80 rule.** You learned that people who work hard get what they want. Unfortunately, it’s not true. You can work little, be smart about it and get what you want. Learn what works and do more of it. Ignore the rest.

**Master money consciousness.** Invest your time in learning about money. How money is made, how money acts, how to manage and grow money. Learn the difference between assets and liabilities. Start building up your assets. Money is just an idea. Having numbers in your bank account mean nothing. People agreed numbers mean something, but they don't. Money is not the answer but focusing on making money will make your life easier.

**Listen to your heart.** You might be stubborn with your decisions, beliefs or ideas. It will make no good for you, listen to your heart. It has all the answers. It has all the solutions. Be courageous to let your mind connect with your heart.

**Let other people in.** Your life is about making meaningful connections. Strangers can become your best friends, soulmates, business partners, mentors and even lovers. Keep the door open and make the entrance welcoming.

**Think long-term.** Thinking a year in advance is not a long term thinking. Think 10-20 years in advance. Great things take time. Be patient.

**Don’t try to win alone.** It’s fine to ask for help, not to know everything, to be lost and vulnerable. People relate to real people with their strengths and weaknesses.

**Don’t judge.** First, don’t judge yourself. You’re enough. Second, judging others is not fair. You don’t know the context. You will never know all the context. Judging creates negative emotions inside of you and that is worse than cancer.

**Unlearn.** Learning is essential to your personal and professional growth, but unlearning things like resentment, self-pity, anger and over reacting will help you more that learning something new.

**Open your mind.** The world is a big place. Every person you meet knows something you don't. Don't judge, respect everyone and try to see things in different perspective.

**Do what you love, people will recognize.** In 2016, I enjoyed what I like, expressed my thoughts, lived the way I wished. Just being myself and focusing on my craft was enough to get noticed. I was honored and nominated for Lithuanian Names Famous Globally by Global Lithuanian Leaders.

**What are your life lessons of 2016?** I’m curious to hear your ups and downs and learn from you. If you enjoyed this article, please share it with someone who might find it interesting.

If you are interested in my previous annual reviews, check my life lessons of **[2013](/blog/life-lessons-2013)**, **[2014,](/blog/life-lessons-2014)** **[2015,](/blog/life-lessons-2015)** **[2017](/blog/life-lessons-2017)**, **[2018](/blog/life-lessons-2018)**, and **[2019](/blog/life-lessons-2019)**.
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Excel in your career by combining an entrepreneurial mindset with digital skills.

You might already have a set of strong digital skills but polishing them and adding a few more can take you to the next level.

Not everyone is destined to become the next Steve Jobs, Mark Zuckerberg or Elon Musk, but applying an entrepreneurial mindset to your work can work wonders even if you work in a large company or are a freelancer with a steady client base.

I always wanted to become an entrepreneur.

Not just because of the opportunity to become financially independent, but also because of the lifestyle and the possibility to have a positive impact on the world.

Entrepreneurs have ideas and go after them while changing the world.

Coming up with an idea for a business isn't the hardest part, execution is.

Now, reviewing this post after half a decade, I come to the conclusion that simplicity is the answer. There's always more to do, more to learn but generally only two things matter.

**Making and selling.**

You create a product or you sell the product. The rest is fake work and noise.

## 10 Digital Skills You Need to Master to Become a Solopreneur

Today I want to share ten digital skills you need to master to become an unstoppable entrepreneur.

### Communication

Communication is the number one skill you must learn if you want to become an entrepreneur.

You'll have to explain your idea over and over again.

Whether it's to pitch to an investor, a potential co-founder or your customer, being able to communicate on a personal and professional level will save you a lot of time and stress.

**Develop the ability to inspire and motivate others.** Work on your vision and make it so clear and inspiring that you don't have to repeat it over and over again. There will be times when you or your team doesn't feel like moving forward, so make sure you are ready for the crisis.

Practice public speaking and study communication to understand how you can transfer information more efficiently. The most inspiring organizations have visions bigger than any individual and possess the desire to improve your world.

**Learn and understand cultural differences.** After high school, I moved to study in Denmark. My classmates were from 6 different countries.

I had to adapt and learn to collaborate with people from different cultures. Studying cultures and international communication taught me patience, respect, and active listening skills. Knowing where your team comes from makes team building and training more natural and more efficient.

**Show leadership and confidence.** The more you grow as an entrepreneur, the more trust and leadership skills you will need to keep up. You'll have to learn to say no, negotiate, hire and fire people. It's not fun.

As a leader, you have to make tough decisions every day. You may need to cut costs. You may need to fire someone toxic from the team or someone who's underperforming.

You'll be blamed for failure. It's your job to toughen up and lead by example.

Here are a few tools to help you communicate information more efficiently and improve productivity at work.

**[Asana](https://asana.com/)**. Project management and communication within your company or department.

**[Intercom](https://www.intercom.com/)**. Automate and optimize prospect interaction and customer support.

**[Trello](https://trello.com/)**. Personal project management or smaller team-based project management.

**[Notion](https://www.notion.so/)**. Personal project management, notes and wikis.

**[Slack](https://slack.com/)**. A messaging app for teams. Get focused on work and reduce email communication.

**[Google Workspace](https://workspace.google.com/)**. A great all-in-one solution for business with email, file storage, spreadsheets, slides.

### Finances

Mastering money and improving financial intelligence is essential to a healthy entrepreneurial life. Most businesses fall off the rails because they run out of money.

Whether you're a solopreneur, freelancer or run a large enterprise, one of the critical metrics you must focus on is cash flow.

**Learn to manage money.** Successful entrepreneurs know the importance of managing money. You must find out how to raise funds by selling your services, product or an early prototype.

You can head out and find investors or venture capitalists, but you will have to learn to ask for money comfortably. You'll have to become critical, analytical, and be prepared to cut costs. It's not going to be easy, but it's worth it.

**Investing basics.** Read about investing. One of the best personal finance books out there, Rich Dad, Poor Dad by Robert T. Kiyosaki, will teach you how to acquire assets, avoid liabilities and start building your net worth.

Always invest in yourself, buy books, courses, and attend conferences, seminars, and workshops. Whether it's your business or personal money, invest only in the field that you know the best.

Always minimize unnecessary risk. If you invest in something, make sure you can influence the outcome so you can take action when things go wrong.

**Accounting.** Learning basic accounting and bookkeeping is not so hard, but it will help you develop economic thinking and help you understand the pulse of your business. Learning to read, analyze and manipulate spreadsheets can give you a lot of valuable data to make hard decisions easier.

Forecasting and predicting will become more comfortable as you will have data to rely on.

**[Xero](https://www.xero.com/)**. Professional accounting software with a friendly interface.

**[Stripe](https://stripe.com/)**. One of the best online payment processing solutions.

**[Gumroad](https://gumroad.com/)**. Sell digital files like PDFs, graphics, videos and more.

**[You Need A Budget](https://www.youneedabudget.com/)** – Simple yet powerful personal budget and finance software.

**[PayPal](https://www.paypal.com/)**. Popular online payment solution for sending and receiving money as well as selling online.

**[Revolut](https://www.revolut.com/)**. An online bank that doesn't charge you anything. Get a free prepaid debit card for everyday use.

### Branding

Every business has a face. Think of Apple, Facebook, Tesla and Virgin, and Steve Jobs, Mark Zuckerberg, Elon Musk and Richard Branson spring to mind.

These companies are not only world-famous and influential, but they also had a strong brand influenced by the founders. Everyone has a brand, and everyone is a brand.

The way you talk, the way you respond to emails, the way you introduce yourself, the way you write is your brand.

**How to build a personal brand.** Invest in learning how to create a strong personal brand. You'll have to practice awareness to dig deep into your subconscious to understand who you are, who you want to be and who you pretend to be because of peer pressure, insecurities and aspirations.

It all starts with the vision, the grand plan for life. Then it comes to what you can die for, your way of getting to that vision, your values. Is it stepping over everyone to get to your goal or is it by lifting others to their goals and then getting to yours?

Finally, you'll need an action plan and mantras for your daily life, for the next year and ten years.

**Create a blog.** Writing is one of the oldest forms of communication and influence. Learn to write well. Clear writing touches people.

Always provide value, serve your tribe and be yourself. It will take time to find your voice, but once you do, it will be worth it.

**Curate great content.** Your time as an entrepreneur is minimal. Creating content might take too long so you can start curating it.

Create a newsletter, become an active curator on Twitter, Instagram, LinkedIn, Facebook or any other network. Once you've established your brand, you will know the right platform to focus on.

**[Buzzsumo](http://buzzsumo.com/)**. Identify and curate top-performing content.

**[MailerLite](https://www.mailerlite.com/)**. Email marketing software with a super easy to use interface and affordable pricing.

**[Hemingway](http://www.hemingwayapp.com/)**. Use this app to make your writing bold and clear.

**[Grammarly](https://www.grammarly.com/)**. Check your spelling, grammar and get suggestions for better writing.

**[Feedly](http://www.feedly.com/)**. News feeds from a variety of online sources you can customize and share.

**[Google Alerts](https://www.google.com/alerts)**. Monitor the web for interesting new content. Get notifications when someone mentions you. Also, check these [Google Alerts alternatives](https://marketful.com/blog/google-alerts-alternatives/).

**[Medium](https://medium.com/@tomaslau)**. Beautifully designed online publishing platform.

**[Brand24](https://brand24.com/)**. Social media monitoring and analytics tool.

### Marketing

Marketing is one of the most critical aspects of business growth. You can build the best product in the world, but if nobody knows about it, it's worthless.

Gain an in-depth understanding of the various digital marketing disciplines such as search engine optimization (SEO), social media marketing, pay-per-click (PPC), conversion optimization, [content marketing](https://marketful.com/blog/content-marketing-for-beginners/) and email marketing.

**Learn how to identify your target audience.** If you try to appeal to everyone, you serve no one. Learn to ask smart questions and perform initial audience surveys.

**Learn storytelling.** Storytelling is a powerful tool you can use to engage your audience and get press.

**Learn to drive traffic.** Study the basics of content marketing, social media and SEO. Don't try to game the system as you can't outsmart big business. Read blogs, enroll in [digital marketing certification](https://www.simplilearn.com/pgp-digital-marketing-certification-program) training and join [marketing communities](https://marketful.com/blog/best-marketing-communities/).

**[MailTracker](https://hunter.io/mailtracker)** – With this tool you can find out who opens your emails.

**[Adwords](https://www.google.com/adwords/)** – Promote your business on Google through advertising.

**[Quuu Promote](http://quuupromote.co/)** – Promote your content to a targeted audience.

**[Hootsuite](https://hootsuite.com/)** – Widely used social relationship platform that empowers you to execute social media strategies.

**[Kickstarter](https://www.kickstarter.com/)** – Kickstarter is the world's largest funding platform for creative projects.

**[Hello Bar](https://www.hellobar.com/)** – Convert more visitors into email subscribers.

**[Mixmax](https://mixmax.com/)** – The productivity suite for sales. Track, automate and enhance your emails.

**[Sumo](https://sumo.com/)**. Online software for growing your website's traffic and subscribers.

### Networking

Your network is your net worth. From the beginning of humankind, evolution has favored people capable of forming strong social ties.

**Build your tribe.** Form a group of well-chosen entrepreneur friends. You're the average of the five people you spend the most time with.

Surround yourself with visionaries, executors and champions. It may look scary to cut off toxic people, but you're growing, or you're shrinking. You choose.

**Connect with people on social networks.** Practice proactivity. Become an active listener and ask questions.

Read an article?

Send an email with your opinion, say thanks and start a conversation. Not all interactions will be fruitful, but over time you will be making connections that matter.

**Develop a habit of reaching out.** If you don't ask, the answer is always no. Practice the art of reaching out to influencers and fellow entrepreneurs. Offer your help for the opportunity to learn from them.

**[Nomad List](https://nomadlist.com/@tomaslau)** – Find the best cities to live and work remotely and meet fellow nomads.

**[Clarity](https://clarity.fm/)** – Connect with your favorite entrepreneurs for mentoring and coaching.

**[AngelList](https://angel.co/)** – Social network for startups, angel investors and skilled professionals.

**[CoFoundersLab](https://www.cofounderslab.com/)** – Online matchmaking service that connects entrepreneurs with compatible co-founders looking to join a startup.

**[Meetup](http://www.meetup.com/)** – Social network for offline group meetings around the world.

### Automation

Doing the same thing over and over again doesn't make you productive. Doing the thing that can be done by software is a waste of time that will cause huge regret. If you can't execute something using software, learn to delegate it.

**Maximize your workflow efficiency.** Review your digital habits. I can bet there are ways you can use your time online more efficiently.

Research alternatives for the tools you're using at the moment. Learn new software and workflow if necessary.

**Learn to delegate.** Being an entrepreneur means balancing multiple priorities. Investing time in providing clear guidelines and training may look daunting at the beginning.

But doing simple math will show you that your investment will pay back dividends sooner than you expect to give you more time to focus on the important stuff. If you want to become an effective leader, you need to learn how to delegate.

**Automate tasks that can be automated.** There is software for nearly everything you can imagine. Making coffee, turning off lights, unlocking a car, accounting, payroll, sales, email, marketing, content promotion and so much more. Embrace the digital workforce and make technology work for you.

**[Buffer](https://buffer.com/)** – For scheduling your social media updates.

**[Fiverr](https://www.fiverr.com/)** – Get anything done from just $5.

**[Upwork](https://www.upwork.com/)** – An online workplace where businesses and freelancers meet.

**[CoSchedule](http://coschedule.com/headline-analyzer)** – Smart blog post headline analyzer.

**[Typeform](https://www.typeform.com/examples/surveys/)** – Free beautiful online survey & form builder.

**[LeadQuizzes](https://www.leadquizzes.com/)** – Online survey & quiz maker tool.

**[IFTTT](https://ifttt.com/recipes)** – Use digital recipes to create _if this, then that_ automations.

**[Zapier](https://zapier.com/)** – Easily automate tasks between web apps.

### Design

Design is what differentiates good products from great products. Many companies these days overlook design and rush into the market to face an epic failure. Design is not only how it looks but how it functions.

**[Prototyping](https://www.mockplus.com/learn/prototype)**. Learn to quickly prototype your ideas and bring them in front of potential users to get feedback. Prototyping digital skills will make excellent presentations and product validations.

**Have a plan to beat procrastination.** Once you burn out and can't think creatively, spend your time watching TED talks and reading great books.

**Learn Photoshop.** There are dozens of free design tools that can transform your business from average to world-class. Photoshop is among the most popular.

**[Canva](https://www.canva.com/)** – Online design editor for creating graphics for social media, blog posts and more.

**[Sketch](https://www.sketchapp.com/)** – Professional digital design software for Mac.

**[Pixel Buddha](http://pixelbuddha.net/)** – Free and premium resources for the professional community.

**[Freebiesbug](http://freebiesbug.com/)** – Latest free resources for designers.

**[Behance](https://www.behance.net/)** – An online platform to showcase and discover creative work.

**[Pttrns](http://pttrns.com/)** – Gallery of mobile user interface patterns.

**[Marvel](https://marvelapp.com/)** – Turn sketches, mockups and designs into web and mobile prototypes.

**[InVision](https://www.invisionapp.com/)** – Transform your web and mobile designs into clickable, interactive prototypes and mockups.

**[Dribbble](https://dribbble.com/)** – Network of elite designers sharing their work.

**[Unsplash](https://unsplash.com/)** – High-quality free (do whatever you want) photos for your projects.

**[Stock Up](http://www.sitebuilderreport.com/stock-up)** – Best free stock photo websites in one place.

**[Design for Hackers](http://designforhackers.com/)** – 12 weeks of design learning, right in your inbox.

### Analytics

Learn to analyze everything. No matter how great of a gut feeling you have, make data-based decisions. Just because you prefer something, doesn't mean it's the right thing.

**Learn to read big data, patterns and behaviors.** Take a course on big data, learn about economics, behavioral psychology, and statistics.

**Identify trends and predict the future**. Always follow your industry news and science behind it so you can bet and win by predicting the next big thing.

**Learn the 80/20 rule.** The Pareto principle states that for many events, roughly 80% of the effects come from 20% of the causes. Use data to figure out what works and what doesn't. Do more of what works.

**[Kissmetrics](https://kissmetrics.com/) –** Increasing conversion rate and track analytics.

**[Optimizely](https://www.optimizely.com/) –** Run A/B tests to optimize your website for more conversions.

**[Google Analytics](http://www.google.com/analytics/) –** Arguably the best analytics tool online.

**[RescueTime](https://www.rescuetime.com/) –** Track your time and everything you do on your computer.

**[Toggl](https://toggl.com/) –** Tracking time and optimize productivity across your team.

**[Google Keyword Planner](https://ads.google.com/home/tools/keyword-planner/)–** Powerful keyword research tool.

**[Google Trends](https://www.google.com/trends/) –** Real-time trends of public search results.

### Tech

Everyone is completely hyped up about learning to code. It's one of the most potent digital skills.

The world doesn’t need 7 billion programmers, but coding literacy or simple understanding can benefit everyone as it develops logical thinking and complex problem-solving.

**How to create a website.** You don't have to understand how to code your website from scratch but using website builder like Squarespace or CMS like WordPress will save you tons of time as you build your business empire.

**Learn to code and work with the code.** Coding is the new reading. You must learn basics to understand how it's done so you can better communicate with developers.

[Start with front-end web development](https://blog.stephsmith.io/finding-programming-inspiration-by-learning-to-code/) skills including HTML, CSS, and JavaScript.

**Build an online store.** Even if you're new to tech you can easily build an online store without ever touching the code. Start by evaluating the best ecommerce platforms for your niche.

**[Github](https://github.com/) –** Repository for your source code and collaboration with your developers.

**[Framer](https://framer.com/)**. Superfast website builder with amazing themes and powerful integrations.

**[Carrd](https://carrd.co/)**. Website builder for landing pages. Ideal for the validation process.

**[Shopify](https://www.shopify.com/).** Build functional eCommerce stores.

**[Codecademy](http://www.codecademy.com/)**. An interactive platform for learning to code for free.

**[TinyJPG](https://tinyjpg.com/)** – Compress images to speed up your website.

**[ImageOptim](https://imageoptim.com/) –** Optimize images take up less space and load faster.

### Self-Education

Learning online is undoubtedly one of the crucial digital skills that can help you to reach the next level.

As Ev Williams says, _"there's always another level."_

You can learn in so many ways: books, documentaries, one on one mentoring, conferences, trial and error and so on.

**Start reading faster and dedicate more time for reading.** In the past year, I began to promote reading. It is one of the most powerful ways to access hundreds of years of experience, research, and wisdom from the world's greatest minds.

**Develop a desire for self-education.** Read biographies of the people who inspire you. Research how they learn and dedicate time for self-education.

**Understand your weaknesses.** Develop self-awareness and understand your strengths and weaknesses. Don't forget to learn general basics but keep your focus on mastering your core digital skills.

**[Scribd](https://www.scribd.com/)**. Books, audiobooks, and more for just $9.99 per month.

**[Coursera](https://www.coursera.org/)**. Online courses to expand your knowledge and train your team.

**[Simplilearn](http://www.simplilearn.com/)**. Improve your career by taking online training and certifications.

**[Udemy](https://www.udemy.com/)**. One of the biggest online course marketplace to learn anything at your pace.

**[Skillshare](https://www.skillshare.com/)**. Global learning community to create, connect, and collaborate.

**[Treehouse](https://teamtreehouse.com/)**. Entertaining technical and creative courses for smart entrepreneurs.

**[Product Hunt](https://www.producthunt.com/@tomaslau)**. Daily hottest products curated by tech enthusiasts.

**[Blinkist](https://www.blinkist.com/)**. Read the critical lessons from 1,000+ nonfiction books in 15 minutes or less.

## Conclusion

We are all born entrepreneurs.

Some of us have more of the entrepreneurial DNA than others, but it's there.

Mostly, it's a set of skills, values, and the right mindset. And all of these things can be learned, acquired, and shifted.

Entrepreneurship is for everyone, but not everyone will sacrifice to do what it takes.
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            <description><![CDATA[What should I study? What if college isn't for me? What are the best alternatives to college?]]></description>
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### Traveling is unquestionably one of the most enriching experiences in life.

What should I study? What if college isn't for me? What are the best alternatives to college?

I remember how excited I was when I graduated five years ago. I felt that life was just beginning as I was about to move to Denmark to study Design & Communication.

I quit the business academy after one and a half year.

Since then, every year, I get questions from friends and people who follow me. Would you recommend studying design? Would you recommend studying at the same academy as you did? What should I do with my life?

I don’t know, nobody knows.

## Why Getting Advice to Go to College After School Might Be the Worst in Your Life?

First of all, people don’t want you to skip the college and succeed. They went to college. It was miserable and they tell you to do the same, so they don’t feel guilty for themselves for wasting their time. Most of the time this advice will come from your parents, family members and closest friends. They need to justify their decisions, so they feel good about themselves. You can’t blame them; they don’t know any other way of life.

## What to Do Instead of College?

The key is trying different things and seeing what excites you. There are many other options besides college.

Only after getting into the business academy I found out it’s not for me. I decided not to study anymore. As a part of the academy program, I had to get myself an internship. I got in the digital agency in London and I was happy but only to find out that 9-5 job is not for me.

During my studies in Denmark, I had a part-time job. I was washing dishes on the weekends. It taught me so much about life, priorities and my real interests. I hated it so much that I pushed my freelance design business and landed a bigger contract. I decided to quit my job at the restaurant after two months and focus on my freelance business.

Do many things. It will teach you great things in life and will help you find your inner voice and life calling.

_An educated man is not, necessarily, one who has an abundance of general or specialized knowledge. An educated man is one who has so developed the faculties of his mind that he may acquire anything he wants, or its equivalent, without violating the rights of others. – Napoleon Hill_

Today, I’d like to share some of the most life-changing college alternatives.

I wanted to make a list of 50 things to do instead of going to college but decided to stick to a few that I experienced myself.

## Travel

Traveling is unquestionably one of the most enriching experiences in life. Every human has a wanderlust inside. For some, it burns more than for others, but it’s there. Everyone wants to explore, see and feel something new.

Traveling has been my life university for the last couple of years. I went to new places, tasted local food and adapted to different cultures. It helped me to become a more open and tolerant person.

I met and connected with hundreds of men and women. They were different than me. Their race, language, background, religion, and values were different, but we shared something. They had dreams, insecurities and desires of freedom, happiness and love.

Meeting people different than me entirely changed my attitude and perspective toward life. I started questioning my being as well as values and principles I follow.

A simple _"hello"_ on a bus to Paris led to a beautiful friendship and creative collaboration. A simple question _“Is it your first time in Bali?"_ on a flight to Bali led to an interesting discussion about all of the [cool things to do there](https://www.thebrokebackpacker.com/best-things-to-do-in-bali/). I got to learn about surfing, active lifestyle and a daily routine of living on an island.

Traveling abroad you will face challenges every day. Whether it's an expiring visa, late bus or a canceled flight. Your expectations will make you feel helpless, but that is alright. It is a simple test life is giving you. Once you are ready to sacrifice your ego, you will pass that test and will start a profound personal change. You will become more tolerant, happier, giving, loving and expecting nothing. When you expect nothing, you become grateful for every small thing that happens in your life.

Traveling will open your eyes. You'll have to watch out for shady people or sneaky monkeys who want to rip you off. It'll open your eyes spiritually too. You will understand that things that matter back home don't matter when you’re away. These realizations will set you free.

Your tolerance for uncertainty will increase. You won't worry about finding a place to sleep. After missing a flight, you'll realize that is not a big deal. It might lead to an unexpected journey or friendship. Everything happens for a reason. Whether you look at things that happen to you are bad or not they are just your life path experiences. It will make sense at the end of the journey, so enjoy the ride.

When traveling, you'll learn always to stay true to yourself and your values. You'll help people in need, become kinder and won't judge. After all, you have no idea what other people are going through.

The other day, I was waiting for my lunch at a restaurant in Thailand. I observed an old man getting fish and chips.

I thought, “_Sir, you should eat healthier if you want to live longer, have energy and enjoy the rest of your days.”_

Once he left, the owner of the restaurant came up and told me that the old man was 92 years old. He served in the Australian Army and fought in the World War II. That changed everything. I thought this man has seen and experienced so much in his life and just wants to enjoy his fish and chips. Who am I to judge him?

## Volunteer

I remember when I was in high school. Once a year, I would attend a mandatory day of cleaning up around the school. At first, it felt unfair. Volunteering is all about deciding yourself but in this case; it was forced volunteering.

Now I understand they were onto something. I would connect with my classmates on a different level. We would share a mission that would help us unite and work together. After the clean up I would see visible results that benefit everyone. Who doesn’t like to live in a neat environment? This experience helped me bond with my friends, teachers and see how I can fit in and contribute.

That’s why I recommend volunteering. It opens your eyes and shapes you to become more thoughtful. It raises awareness of how problems are created. You start thinking about prevention instead of looking for quick fixes.

I’ve participated in many volunteering projects lasting from a couple of hours to months. Some of the best experiences include traveling to Latvia, Poland and Portugal. Working with passionate youth discussing identity, education and engagement problems. I volunteered as a mentor, host and organizer. I volunteered at AIESEC, the largest youth-run organization in the world. I volunteered as a mentor at the Startup Weekend Bali 2015. I volunteered to give a presentation at many events and more.

Take up volunteering. It is an excellent way to combine traveling, doing good and learning new skills. Join [UNESCO](http://whc.unesco.org/en/whvolunteers/), [WWF](http://wwf.panda.org/how_you_can_help/volunteer/), [Red Cross](https://www.ifrc.org/get-involved/volunteer-us), [UNICEF](https://www.unicef.org/careers/volunteers-unicef) or other non-profit organization. Non-profit organizations lack talented and determined people. You will reap enormous benefits such as connections, spiritual enlightenment and improved skills.

Another option for volunteering is your local community. Do you want to learn web design? Offer to create a website for a local organization. It will give you an opportunity to work with people and develop your skill set. Choose a field that can be later used as a case study when looking for a job.

Browse [WWOOF](http://www.wwoof.net/) (World Wide Opportunities on Organic Farms). It links volunteers with organic farms and growers to find employment and stay for free. Get food and shelter in exchange for your work.

Check out [Jobbatical](https://jobbatical.com/), which is connecting top talent to employers for short-term gigs.

## Do an Internship

Find an internship. You might think I am crazy. How do you find an internship without a degree? Many companies don't require a degree. Even if they need one, you can put on a show and prove that you’re worth it.

It's especially true in the creative industries. Think of writing, designing, programming, video editing, photography, and marketing. These industries thrive on creative work. Approach a company in a creative way and present yourself as a valuable asset and investment. They will take you.

One day you wake up and decide you want to design at Airbnb. You find Airbnb job listings and see that nothing is open. You give up for that day.

Next day you think you should still email them and send them a general _“Dear Sir/Madam”_ email. No responses, of course. Then you think you should connect with someone already working there. You stalk a designer on Twitter and Instagram and engage by liking and commenting.

Then you decide to ask a question. After you got onto designer's radar, you send a private message. You ask questions about the job, what designers do, what is expected from them and so on. From that inside conversation, you know what they need and what you need to become to be a valuable asset.

You hone your skills by taking online courses, reading relevant books and blogs. You feel ready to pitch them again. It might or might not work.

Then you might think of doing something creative that would benefit the company. I find this particular [story of Nina Mufleh](http://www.businessinsider.com/nina-mufleh-airbnb-resume-2015-4) a perfect example of creative proactivity. She designed her resume that resembles a host profile on Airbnb. It showcases what she knows about the travel industry. What she could contribute to Airbnb and what she thinks the company should pursue next.

She did her homework, invested hours of work and proved that she cares and most important can deliver. Then she pitched the CEO of Airbnb and got a job interview the same week.

This story might sound like a lot of work, but life works like that. People who put in work get what they want. If you think getting a degree like other 200 applicants will land you a job, I wish you best of luck. You need to show responsibility, creative initiative and capability to deliver.

I landed my paid internship in five minutes. I sent an email showing my work examples and previous projects. After five minutes I was invited to come to the office. Not the fact that I was studying in a relevant field, but my side projects helped me to get a paid internship. I asked the director why they chose me. He answered because of my proactivity and previous work experience. Most of that work was personal projects built outside classes.

## Read Books

I wrote about the importance of reading books and how it can affect your mindset and attitude in life. I can’t emphasize more how important it is to read. Passive consumption like watching or listening wastes a lot of information.

Reading helps you to dive deep, take notes and rethink what you are reading as the pace is up to you. Sometimes, I read the same sentence or a paragraph five or more times. I want to understand its meaning and connect the context with what I'm reading.

Reading activates your brain and brings up memories. You access all the relevant knowledge to help you comprehend the information you’re reading.

Reading can be entertaining and educational. That’s the beauty of it. Humans learn from stories; that's why books are so compelling. You naturally try to imagine everything you read.

It comes from the beginning of the humankind. Think about the carvings on the rocks and ancient sculptures. Visual learners convert words to pictures and seek for possible connections in the brain. It connects your knowledge, experience and memories. While reading for fun might look like a waste of time, books are still sending you messages. The key to learning is reading what you are passionate about.

I would compare reading with the deep work. You know the feeling when you get into the zone doing what you like and time flies? You can get into the flow state by reading what aligns with your values, vision and aspirations. That way you learn the most and the fastest, as you are committed and present. It helps you remove barriers to receiving. No more boredom and mind restlessness caused by anxiety and worries.

As I mentioned in my article earlier, books are the ultimate mentors in life. The best minds in the world might not be alive anymore. Luckily, you have the access to their knowledge and experience. Today, you can open any book in a matter of seconds from anywhere in the world.

Invest in reading. Read books that interest you. Figure out what you want in life and learn from books that teach you exactly that. You will see the enormous power of self-education and the influence books can have in your life.

Here are some [life-changing books](https://bestwriting.com/best-books/life-changing) I read. I highly recommend picking up one of them and learning more about habits, money consciousness, self-awareness, and success.

## Start a Business

Starting a business today is easier than ever. Anyone can do it, a [12-year-old kid creating apps](http://venturebeat.com/2013/08/14/this-12-year-old-kid-learned-to-code-on-codecademy-built-5-apps-and-is-speaking-at-sxsw/) or a [family with three children traveling the world](http://fourhourworkweek.com/2013/02/01/case-study-what-does-a-real-4-hour-workweek-look-like-with-a-family/). Becoming an entrepreneur is probably the best decision you can make. It will expose you the real world and will teach you how things work.

You will have to learn to wear many hats. You will need to become a fast learner. You will hear more rejections than ever before. You will learn to listen, connect, serve, negotiate, sell, build, hire, fire, lose and win. You will learn to enjoy the process rather than the journey.

An entrepreneur can’t survive without putting in the needed work. You need to hone required skills. This is where homework matters. You will see real results and correlations between hard work and desired outcomes. Unlike school, you can't cheat. You may get short-term gains, but then everything will break. You will lose trust, customers, money, and dignity.

You might think you have an original idea; you will execute and nobody will care. Entrepreneurship will slap you in the face with immutable life principles. It will train to listen with empathy.

Starting a business is easy. Building a sustainable business that serves people and makes you proud is not easy. You may say that business school or MBA degree will prepare you for that. It might, might not. I met business school graduates who have the same problems as those who never went to business school. You see, it’s about doing not about knowing what to do.

All in all, I recommend you start a business and give it a try. It's empowering when you need little to no investment to start a business. Check out [The $100 Startup](https://www.amazon.com/100-Startup-Reinvent-Living-Create/dp/0307951529?ie=UTF8&*Version*=1&*entries*=0) book that talks about businesses that were started with $100 or less.

_The problem with the world is that the intelligent people are full of doubts, while the stupid ones are full of confidence. ― Charles Bukowski_

Another motivating thing is that you have nothing to lose, it’s all about gains. You have no family, no debts, no mortgage, no restrictions. Don’t waste that precious energy. Especially if you feel that you can make a difference. The world needs you.

## Enroll in Online Courses

Earlier this year, I was working in a cafe in Bali, where I met a mindfulness coach. We had hours of interesting conversations. At some point, she asked me the following question.

Tomas, my son, wants to learn design and doesn’t know which school to choose. What would you recommend?

First of all, I said, think if the school is the best option. You will end up with general knowledge. No real-life experience and a massive debt that will weigh you down for years.

As an alternative look into online courses, intensive training programs and self-education. The design is not a field that requires years of education to start working and being good at it. Like in any other field your job is to provide value for businesses or individuals.

Enroll in online courses. Some are free; some may cost you $20 or $5,000. But that is nothing compared to five or six figures in debt that you will accumulate in college. These learning experiences will have immediate feedback and results. You will understand what you are passionate about, what not and how it's like to work with real clients. If you don’t like something, you can always withdraw and start over.

Think about it. Is it better to invest three months in learning something online? Finish a course or two, spend a couple of thousand dollars and realize it’s not for you.

Or is it better go to college for years? Spend hundreds of thousands, get an irrelevant degree that doesn’t guarantee you anything. Then get a job, realize you hate it but have to work for the rest of your life to pay off the debt and _“make use”_ of the education. The choice is yours.

If you are interested in taking an online course, check out some of the resources below.

- [Fizzle](https://fizzle.co/) is an honest online business training and the community of entrepreneurs who won’t let you quit.
- [The $100 MBA](http://100mba.net/) is one of the best online business training and community. A practical business training and community for $100.
- [Udemy](https://www.udemy.com/) is an online education marketplace with limitless variety. It has over 7 million students enrolled in more than 30,000 courses.
- [BitDegree](https://www.bitdegree.org/) offers online courses with a gamified experience.
- [Treehouse](https://teamtreehouse.com/) brings affordable technology education to people everywhere.
- [Tuts+](http://tutsplus.com/) provides how-to tutorials & free online courses. Covered fields range from code to photography, design, business and more.
- [General Assembly](https://generalassemb.ly/) is an educational company on a mission to empower people to pursue work they love.

Why can online courses teach you more? Well, for a simple reason. They are results oriented and most of the time are concise and practical. Instead of listening to 10 hours of theory you get the exact steps how to do something. Applying the knowledge makes the best learning experience.

Another upside is that online courses are accessible anywhere. Save it on your smartphone or tablet and watch it while you commute, wait in line or have time to kill.

To be more efficient, I’d suggest to schedule time for self-education. Plan some time every day so you have it prioritized and won’t slack off. Just put aside an hour a day to watch a course and apply the knowledge you learn. An hour a day for a month will teach you more than years of college.

## Benefits of Choosing Alternatives to College

The benefits of choosing alternatives to college in most cases are enormous. You might be thinking that it’s a significant risk. You may end up with no degree, no job and will have to come back to college after wasting years trying to discover yourself.In my opinion, the best thing in college is networking and having fun, other than that you can get by yourself.

In my opinion, the best thing in college is networking and having fun, other than that you can get by yourself.

### No debt

Debt forces people to work boring jobs. Even get a side job, completely ignore health to save money and pay off the debt. Having a massive debt takes away the joy of living. Forget about the spontaneity of selling your stuff and going away for a year.

I talked to so many people who would like to travel more, start their own business and do more of the things they like. But because of the debt, they are paralyzed. They act out of fear. All decisions are being made by fear and lack of self-confidence.

Think about it. The world evolves so fast that no formal education can prepare you for the real-life workforce. More than that, people tend to have more than one job in their lifetime. In fact, job-hopping Millennials (born between 1980–2000) are on track to [surpass four job changes](http://money.cnn.com/2016/04/12/news/economy/millennials-change-jobs-frequently/) by the time they hit age 32.

What does that mean?

It means that only being open minded, proactive and self-educated will get you a job of your dreams. Ernst & Young says it will not longer consider degrees or A-level results when assessing employees. Other big companies will soon realize that diploma can be irrelevant. What will be relevant is how much value you can bring to the table.

Formal education looks ridiculous compared to the modern solutions, but people still trust it.

Say YouTube is an alternative to college. Would you pay $35,000 to watch it? All it would give you is old information, no refunds and no guarantees. And it would grade on how you perceive and interpret it. I don’t think you would use it.

Digital education is perceived as less valuable than physical, but is your knowledge physical?

Cheaper or free is seen as less of value. You think that paying $140,000 for an MBA is going to give you better knowledge than real life experience and lessons from experts who have done it?

I’ll leave my rants here with a statement I believe in. I love education. It is the only way to grow, transform and influence. But I don’t like when it’s generalized, inaccessible and privileged.Everyone learns differently. That’s why college may not be the best option for you.

Everyone learns differently. That’s why college may not be the best option for you.

### **Real Life** Experience

Often talking to potential clients or an employer, you will be asked about the experience. If the company is conservative and narrow-minded, they might prioritize your education, degree plus your academic achievements. It’s fine if you’re interested in the academic field, this is how it works. However, applying to other industries, your real life experiences matter more.

Say you just came back from a six-month trip to Southeast Asia where you have been traveling and teaching kids English. Your attitude towards uncertainty, tolerance and gratitude will be sky high. Your experience in communication will be more valuable than if you were sitting in a classroom. You will be more qualified to come up with a communication plan for a new startup expanding in Southeast Asia.

By 2020, more than 40 percent of the American workforce, or 60 million people, [will be freelancers, contractors and temp workers](http://http-download.intuit.com/http.intuit/CMO/intuit/futureofsmallbusiness/intuit_2020_report.pdf). It will happen in less than four years. Everyone will be agents and experts of specific things instead of experts of holding a degree and not knowing what they are good at. Today you can land your job in Argentina and the next half of the year spend in Singapore.

### Practical Skills

Real life gives you practical skills. You will learn effective time management. You will have to figure out how to optimize your time for a healthy work-life balance. Tracking time, analyzing and optimizing will help you get more done and have time for work, growth and fun.

I’ve learned to use tracking tools to analyze where I spend my time. I use [RescueTime](https://www.rescuetime.com/) and [Toggl](https://toggl.com/), to better track my time. It’s ideal for improving self-awareness as it gives reports of your productivity. Exact numbers of time spent doing one thing or the other help me better plan my future.

When I see that number one thing I spend my time on is Facebook, it’s not a good sign and makes me make adjustments to my activity online. I installed [StayFocusd](https://chrome.google.com/webstore/detail/stayfocusd/laankejkbhbdhmipfmgcngdelahlfoji?hl=en), a Chrome extension that blocks distracting websites. I still use Facebook for business. I promote my work, connect with leaders and stay in touch with friends. But I also waste a lot of time just consuming content.

You will learn prioritization as you'll have to figure out what you have to focus on the long and short term. You will notice that drinking too much on a Friday night might not be the best idea as you won’t be able to work on your business on Saturday.

You'll learn to communicate clearly. Vague communication leads to misunderstandings, ruined relationships and a waste of time.

You'll understand the power of meeting like-minded people. You'll be amazed by the impact it can have on your thinking, network including professional success.

### Money Consciousness

Once you are on your own, you'll learn more about money. You'll think of prioritizing, planning ahead and making wise investments.

The best investment in your 20s is, of course, education. Invest in books, courses, conferences, programs and other things that will make you grow.

It took me five years to realize that I need a budget. I need an emergency money and a clear plan ahead. I need to have a precise picture of what my money is doing for me and ensure it is working for me.

### Proactivity

You can have the best skillset in the world, but no one will care if you won’t take the initiative. Being proactive is what you learn when you are on your own if you want to get results. Formal education institutions kill proactivity. You are judged by the same criteria. You think, why should I take initiative when someone else can do it?

I will study a week before the exam and will pass it somehow. All it matters is to get good grades and diploma.

After the school, you will notice that real education starts after your formal education. The most important skills are not the ones you learned.

_When we have begun to take charge of our lives, to own ourselves, there is no longer any need to ask permission of someone. – George O’Neil_

You're responsible for your life, career and happiness. There are no grades, no judges, no final destination. You get to make up your rules, your curriculum plus your exams. Push yourself toward goals that fire you up. Go after the purpose that matters to you. Real life is about being proactive and allowing yourself to get things you want.

### Gratitude

Let’s go back in time. Back in 2012, I was waiting for my bus in a cold and rainy Denmark. I was thinking a lot about the fact that successful people express gratitude daily. In every form, like spoken word, journaling, keeping a log or sharing it with other people. I thought to myself, how can gratitude lead to success and happiness? I couldn’t find an answer and started practicing it. For a day.

Then I forgot about it and started over again in 2014 when I embarked on the trip of my dreams. A journey around the world with my best friend Justas. I resurrected the daily habit of expressing gratitude. I became more aware of the everyday things I took for granted. I met fewer fortune people in developing countries and saw happiness in their eyes. They were happy to live. They had nothing. But they smiled and shared their food, their shelter and their happiness with an open heart.

I was shocked. I kept questioning myself. Why do I have so many worries in my life? Why do I make problems out of nothing and don’t tell people how much I love them?

Slow internet, lower hygiene standards, different cultural and religious views and diversity. Visiting Ukraine, Bali, Philippines, Vietnam, Thailand helped me to become more grateful. It opened my eyes and heart to become more thankful and loving person.

### Connections

I believe that your network is your net worth. The more people you know, the more opportunities and influence you have. And it’s not just mindlessly connecting on LinkedIn or Facebook. I’m talking about deeper connections. Connections where both parties serve each other with mutual support and respect.

Since I left school I met thousands of people, some of them taught me a lesson or two and disappeared. Some of them stuck around and became my best friends. Some of them turned into lovers.

With the power of the Internet, I met dozens of people virtually. These connections led to work opportunities, collaborations and friendships. I was lucky to meet Matt Mullenweg, the founder of WordPress, currently powering over 26% of the internet. An engineer at Facebook, investors, politicians and celebrities. I was fortunate to be interviewed by Forbes, Fast Company, appear on many podcasts and blogs and even TV shows.

My virtual connections influenced me so much I owe my current digital nomad lifestyle to them. It led to work with Forbes, The Huffington Post, The Next Web, TIME, New York Observer. I am invited to talk at schools, events, coworking spaces, and conferences.

Everything is possible because of my connections. I can’t express how grateful I am to everyone who helped me in one way or the other.

### Self-Confidence

When I moved to study in Denmark right after the school, I was a bit scared. First, I never lived in a city. For 19 years I was living in small countryside villages varying from 30 to 300 people. So the idea of moving to another country was scary.

When I left, I realized it’s fun to be outside of your comfort zone. I started experimenting with different things. I joined football games and found a group of people playing basketball. Joined AIESEC and practiced cold calling and sales. Enrolled in Danish classes, attended events for young entrepreneurs, took a part in Startup Weekend. I applied for jobs and visited job agencies. I got a job as a dishwasher. I went to the student parties, pubs and night clubs. I talked to girls. I failed a lot and had fun.

These experiences taught me more than classes at the academy. It made my skin thicker and increased my tolerance for criticism. I became more self-aware after a dozen of people pointing out to me that I’m a "selfish a\*\*hole". I started listening to my body and quit sugar, balanced my diet and lost 10 kg. I started running and completed two half marathons. I kept writing and publishing online. I got better at every aspect of my life.

Volunteering, traveling and starting a business increased my self-confidence. I can start a conversation with a stranger and feel good about it. I am confident introducing myself to extraordinary people. I believe in myself and visualize positive outcomes.

The boost in self-confidence allowed me to be more bold, reliable and laid back. I can connect with people I never thought I would be able to connect. I can charge more in my business. I can tell people how I feel. I can prioritize my time and let people know they are not included in my plans.

### Patience

Patience is the most underestimated virtue. I’m always getting emails from people who want to become bloggers overnight.

They start a blog and after a month cry that nobody reads it. You have to earn it. Your ideas might not be that good, your skills might be too weak, you might be looking for your voice. It takes time. If you start a blog and hate the process, it won’t last.

You must enjoy it so much that you are willing to invest your time and blog even when nobody reads for at least year. If you’re onto something, you will start seeing results and responses. More people will read and connect with you.

You'll figure out a way to fund your passion. Guest blogging, product placements, reviews or hell knows what offer you might get. But if you start whining right away you better question your attitude and remember that [no one owes you anything](/blog/no-one-owes-you-anything). Nobody has to read your blog. People are selfish. If your work gives them something, then they will stick around.

Listen to Albert Einstein. Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.

Patience is a useful virtue but to some extent. Be aware of yourself and your environment. If something doesn’t work for a long time and you don’t feel it’s right, take action right away. Identify what’s wrong, come up and examine solutions and begin the change process. You are the master of your fate, the captain of your soul.

Whatever you choose in life, be patient.

## Conclusion

If you made it all the way to this point, I am proud of you. You’re committed to self-education and spent the last 20 minutes reading my thoughts. I can bet you’re going to succeed sooner or later.

My goal with this article is to show you that there are life-changing alternatives to college. You don't necessary have to go to college to succeed and live your dream life.

We’re living in exciting times where anyone can learn anything. With the power of Internet, you have access to unimaginable amounts of information. You can turn your life and career into an extraordinary journey.

But the decision is yours.
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            <title><![CDATA[Just So You Know, No One Owes You Anything]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Wed, 20 Apr 2016 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[It's liberating to know you're on your own. Turn your belief into a burning desire.]]></description>
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![Just So You Know, No One Owes You Anything](/images/tomas-laurinavicius-bali-canggu-2016.jpg)
Sipping my cappuccino and minding my own business in Bali, Indonesia.

Turn your belief into a burning desire.

There you go, whiners.

Read it slowly and let it sink in.

**No one owes you anything.**

OK, not whiners, everyone.

I just finished reading a classic personal finance book Rich Dad, Poor Dad by Robert T. Kiyosaki.

The fundamental message is that people who think life owes them something are being bashed by life. By the job, government, society norms and their beliefs. If you aren't happy, rich, healthy or fulfilled, the problem is you.

It may sound as I am arrogant and offensive but that is true.

People who never achieve anything blame others and don’t see themselves.

If you got defensive reading the previous sentence, step back and observe yourself, maybe all the time you have been blaming others for _your_ life.

## Who Are You Blaming?

I was raised in a family, just like in the mentioned book, would blame the government, the rich, job, or anything else. We were struggling financially, not living the way we would like to and not having paid what we thought was fair.

When I went to school, they tried to teach me that if I get good grades, listen to authorities I will get a good job, good salary and will be happy. As if there was someone waiting for me to reward me for my good grades and effort being the best student (I was the best student).

## Freedom Plan

Luckily, I was not accepting that idea, it didn’t feel right for me. I wanted autonomy and freedom to do whatever I wanted on my own terms. It isn't easy to just simply do what you want, you have basic needs like food, clothes, shelter and so on. But simply not accepting the fact that there is someone responsible for me, like my parents, job or government allowed me to switch my mindset and start developing my freedom plan.

I had a vision to work for myself. Do what I like and get paid for it. I had no idea what it would be.

After playing computer games for almost two years I felt I was wasting my time and just expecting things to happen. I was 16 when I started researching how to make money online. One of the ways was graphic design. I instantly felt hooked and started learning Photoshop, following tutorials and copying great designers. After some time, I was curious to see if I can earn anything using my skills. After a couple of days scrolling job offers, I found a simple listing asking for an animated banner. I had no idea how to do it but I thought I will figure it out if I get the job. I applied. After showing some examples of my work I got the job and completed it.

That moment I realized that I can do anything I want and I will focus on my skillset to create value for people and get paid for it.

That was a confirmation for myself that I don't need to listen to my teachers or parents seriously because I found a way to escape the rat race. Instead of expecting something, I was creating something.

## You're Not Amazing

Many people like myself are raised with an idea that they are amazing, one of a kind and world owes them something. The thing is, the sooner you realize that you are insignificant and no one owes you anything you feel empowered of building your own destiny. You stop complaining, you stop wishing and hoping, you become more grateful for things that go right, you learn from things that go wrong and you toughen up because you understand that after your success or defeat, no one owes you anything.

Just because they are your parents it doesn’t mean they have to buy you food, pay for your college or provide free shelter when you f\*\*k up. Yes, it’s the norm, they are loving parents but they don’t owe it to you. Society made you think they do but they don’t.

Another thing, no matter what job you have, you always want to earn more, have more days off, get benefits etc. Again, your job doesn’t owe you that. Your boss doesn’t owe you anything even if you think you are underpaid.

## Take Responsibility

You are responsible for your life. How happy or healthy you are, how much you earn, how much freedom you have, how much you respect and are respected. You owe everything to yourself. If you have a shitty job, it’s you that made the decision to get it. If you have miserable relationships, it’s not other people, it’s you who let yourself justify and let people with low standards, negative attitude, and narrow mindset control your life. It’s all in you.

_You are responsible for your life. If you're sitting around waiting on somebody to save you, to fix you, to even help you, you are wasting your time. Only you have the power to move your life forward. – Oprah Winfrey_

I don’t know exactly when I switched into the creating mode, but it helped me to stop looking at other people and expecting them to hand me out a golden opportunity. I knew there is no one in the world that is going to do everything for me, I had to get my hands dirty and fight for it. Fight with myself and my preprogrammed beliefs. Instead of waiting I started learning, writing, creating, experimenting, failing, starting over again and seeing some sort of positive outcomes. Since I created that first animated banner for $5 I earned over $30,000 in the last three years just from that skill.

## Commit to Change

People ask me, _"how do you get everything done?"_

I choose to get things done. I try to complain less (don't take me wrong, I still complain). The next time you catch yourself complaining, try to remind yourself that no one owes you anything. I embrace the fact that I am _"the master of my fate, the captain of my soul"_ and work towards my goals.

If it means learning a new skill, I do it. If it means sending 200 emails, I do it. If it means waking up at 5 am, I do it. I fail a lot along the way. But I keep moving forward.

If I can do it, so can you. You simply need to commit to change and accept the fact that you are the only one who owes you anything.

You have to truly start believing in yourself and what you want to achieve. I might not believe in you, most often your friends and even your parents won't believe in you. You have to convince yourself and believe it with all you got in order to see numerous ways to achieve it. Whether it's to have a magazine cover body, build a business, travel, write a book or find someone you love. Believe in it. Every day, every second.

## Let the Burning Desire Become Bigger Than Your Fears

Turn your belief into a burning desire. Burning desire is the cure for fear of failure. When it’s burning inside, you become blind of failure. You just keep moving forward.

My desire is to live an extraordinary life, impact millions of lives and gain financial freedom. I desire to work only on what excites me, train my body and mind, and leave a legacy. This desire for a healthy, fulfilling and challenging lifestyle is pushing me forward. That is why I start one project, it doesn’t go well, I kill it and start another one. Step by step my projects get better, my body with daily training gets stronger, my mind with daily learning gets sharper, my income increases, my network and brand expands and ultimately my happiness boosts and lets me live with a purpose.

_You just can't beat the person who never gives up. — Babe Ruth_

Forget all the ways it won't work. Burning desire doesn't care about it. The thing about the burning desire is that if it doesn't work out the first time it should burn even stronger. For me, it’s 8th year that I am pursuing same goals and it still burns, it still pushes me forward. My belief turned into burning desire that turned into confidence that no matter what, I will get where I want to be.

What are you fighting for?
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            <title><![CDATA[12 Powerful Habits I Have Stolen from Ultra Successful People]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Mon, 07 Mar 2016 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[For years, I have been experimenting with my work and lifestyle to find that perfect fit for a happy, productive, purpose and passion-driven routine.]]></description>
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![Bali](/images/tomas-laurinavicius-bali-2016.jpg)

Here are some habits I developed over the years that helped me live better.

I am very curious about habits of successful people and its effects on success. For years, I have been experimenting with my work and lifestyle to find that perfect fit for a happy, productive, purpose and passion-driven routine.

The experimentation has led me to discover and acquire habits of successful people that I’d like to share in this article. Most of these habits are not actually mine but I have 'stolen' them from ultra-successful people.

I hope that this article will inspire you to start engineering your perfect day which, in turn, will evolve into a perfect life.

## Waking up Early

Waking up early has given me the most significant results since I decided to make a shift from being a night owl to an early bird. I used to have my peak hours from 1 am to 4 am and would get amazing work done with sharp focus. Years passed by and I realized that getting enough sleep on a regular basis is the key to ultimate performance and productivity, not to mention the increased quality of life.

For the last two years, I’ve been experimenting with my morning routine which starts by waking up early. I’ve started at 7 am and managed to stretch it to 5 am. My ultimate goal is to wake up at 4:30 am as I really enjoy starting early with my morning rituals and getting lots of work done. I won’t lie that at the beginning it was a nightmare to wake up early. It’s dark, it’s cold, and my eyes can’t open because all I wanted to do was to go back to sleep.

I would often tell myself, "_I’ll just close my eyes for one more minute."_

However, as I become more mindful about my health and lifestyle, the more I saw the benefits of getting up early. Moreover, mornings are when you have the most precious focus, creative energy and capacity to learn, think and create.

I’ve seen numerous articles, infographics, and interviews with the most successful people on the planet and a majority of them emphasized the importance of getting up early because they believe it is a crucial part of their success and life balance. One article that has greatly inspired me is [12 Lessons of Waking Up at 4:30 a.m. for 21 Days](https://medium.com/life-hacks-for-business/12-lessons-of-waking-up-at-4-30-a-m-for-21-days-90d1053c3634) by Filipe Castro Matos.

If you have a vision but don’t have the time to achieve it due to family, full-time job, or other commitments, wake up an hour earlier and work on it every day until you make it come true. You don’t find time, you make it. Instead of watching another TV series, go to bed 1 hour earlier and wake up 1 hour earlier.

_It’s that easy, you don’t find time, you make it._

My main motivation of waking up early is to have my “me” time. How many times did you want to read, write, reflect on your life, meditate, stretch, visualize, create, or take care of yourself but hadn’t had the time? In the past, it was a secondary goal for me. I’d say, "It’s ok, I can do it sometime later when I have time." The thing is if you don’t make yourself a priority, you will never have time to really improve yourself, take care of yourself.

You always have a choice to use it on yourself and your work you love or spend it on a daily mindless routine like commuting, consuming news, dealing with daily errands, and working in a job you hate.

## Making Lists

I don’t have time for it.

This is one of the most common excuses I hear people say to me when I ask them why they don’t exercise, why they don’t write, or why they don’t build a business. But the fact is, you have time, I have time, and Barack Obama has time. We all have time. And just to remind you, we all have 24 hours a day no matter where you live, how much money you make, or how successful you are. You have the same amount of time as everyone else.

So how come some people excel and some don’t?

The secret: **They prioritize**.

You must make peace with the fact that you can’t have it all. You either master one thing, or you become mediocre at many things. You can’t have both.

_You must make peace with the fact that you can’t have it all._

When it comes to prioritizing, one of the most effective methods is making lists, especially hand-written lists because they make your brain believe that these are the only things you need to focus on. Once you start working on something, you will be bombarded with distracting thoughts and excuses. Don't panic. Instead, write these ideas and distractions down to your “later” list. This little trick makes your brain think about it as a completed task making you stop thinking about it and focusing on your work.

Mindfulness and awareness help you a lot with noticing these distracting thoughts and I will talk about it later in this article.

Another method to help you prioritize is essentialism - you focus on the essential things and say a big NO to distractions and all the endless opportunities. Warren Buffet provides a great example how essentialism works by using a priorities list method.

Begin with writing down 25 things you want to do in your life. After that prioritize them writing a number from 1 to 25. Rewrite the list by priorities starting 1 to 25, now draw a line after the 5th priority. First five priorities are the ones you need and can focus to really achieve them, and now, the most important part, below the line, 20 other priorities are your “avoid at all costs list”. This is the list of you wanting to become a musician, wanting to write a book, wanting to [start a blog](https://www.ryrob.com/how-start-blog/), wanting to [INSERT A VERB + NOUN]. Most of the time it’s more about not doing than doing. Doing nothing instead of doing anything, in most cases, is better for your balance, health, sleep, and focus.

## Stacking Habits

The concept of habit stacking is a set of habits that acts like a script of your morning routine. This set of habits ensures you that you get the most of your morning and prepare yourself for running the day like a boss.

_“Either you run the day or the day runs you.” – Jim Rohn_

Habit stacking works like magic for me. My current morning miracle looks like this:

- Wake up at 5 am
- Drink water
- Stretch
- Eat
- Meditate for 15 min
- Read 20 pages
- Write 500 words
- Plan the day and define MIT
- Do the affirmations (What do I want? Why do I want it? What am I committed to doing in order to get there?)
- Visualize and imagine doing the tasks
- Work on MIT
- Exercise

Habit stacking is a concept of introducing a new habit to an existing one.

For example, when you’re brushing your teeth, you can read 2 pages right after doing it. You’re more likely to develop a new habit on top of an old one because your brain has lots of synaptic connections for that habit to run it on autopilot. After you start stacking habit upon habit, your order becomes a habit too. But the best part is that those habits are automatic and don’t require your willpower allowing you to basically program yourself to do one or the other thing without even thinking about it.

In fact, I write this article 6 am as a part of my morning miracle after waking up at 5 am, drinking water, stretching, eating, meditating, and reading.

## Stretching

Recent research shows that after just 30 minutes of sitting, your metabolism slows down to 90 percent. The enzymes that move the bad fat from your arteries to your muscles, where it can get burned off, slow down. You already know that sitting too long and staring at your screen is not very good for your posture, mental and physical health. Did you know that the office chair is worse for your health than [smoking and kills more people than HIV](https://www.cnbc.com/2014/08/18/why-your-chair-might-be-killing-you.html)?

One of the newest habits I am developing is stretching inspired by my buddy Ivan Shulev who does it every day for at least an hour. At the beginning, I saw it as a waste of time but as I incorporated it into my morning and workout routines, I can see and feel the benefits of it as I began to sit straight longer, have reduced back pain, and better flexibility.

My goal is to develop a habit of stretching every 30 min while working since most of the time, I am just sitting and staring at my screen. Along with that, I started experimenting with working standing up but my current nomadic lifestyle seems to pose a little problem about it. It doesn’t allow me to work in just one place so I need to get creative and use different things, such as a fridge, chairs on the table, books under my laptop to make my stand up desk the right height. Once again, I have my friend Ivan to thank for leading by example.

## Listening to Podcasts

For a long time in my life, I was constantly looking for instant gratification, specifically entertainment, to escape my boring lifestyle. I also daydream by looking at cartoons, movies, and series that portray successful people. I allow myself to impersonate with people on the screen and feel the success they have.

_I have never in my life learned anything from any man who agreed with me. – Dudley Field Malone_

No matter how fulfilling and immersive these experiences are, I decided to invest in the future I want to live in. The investment was not easy because it requires hard and consistent work to become the best person I can be. I decided to give up on watching series, stop wasting time on weird videos, and minimize the time I spend listening to music. Instead, I listened to podcasts so I can learn more, be inspired, and have a positive impact on my personality and mindset development.

Below are some of the benefits I have listening to podcasts:

- Learning new things
- Gaining a new perspective
- Getting more focused
- Finding inspiration
- Uplifting and increasing happiness

I am curious about the top performers, best-selling authors, industry disruptors, creatives, entrepreneurs, lifestyle designers, and leaders that inspire and change the world. I want to know what makes them tick that gets into the level of success they are currently in.

Check out my list of the podcasts I listen to and find something that can inspire you.

- [The School of Greatness with Lewis Howes](https://lewishowes.com/podcast/) – Lewis interviews bestselling authors, top athletes, successful entrepreneurs and other inspiring individuals.
- [The Tim Ferriss Show](https://tim.blog/category/the-tim-ferriss-show/) – Tim talks with scientists, authors, entrepreneurs and people who change the world. Topics range from neuroscience to psychology to business and more.
- [The $100 MBA Show](https://100mba.net/) – real life business lessons in short form episodes with Omar Zenhom and Nicole Baldinu.
- [The Fizzle Show](https://fizzle.co/show/) – fun, actionable and inspiring show for creative entrepreneurs.
- [The Cubicle Crashing Podcast by Lydia Lee](https://screwthecubicle.com/category/podcast/) – Lydia interviews creative entrepreneurs and individuals about unconventional lifestyle and escaping 9-5.
- [Entrepreneur on Fire](https://www.eofire.com/) – John Lee Dumas interviews most inspiring and successful entrepreneurs.

## Meditating

I’ve been meditating inconsistently for over a year now. Inconsistently means I’d meditate 5 times in some weeks and only once or twice in some. However, after spending [10 days in silence](/blog/vipassana) in the mountains of Northern Thailand, I started meditating at least 5 times a week for at least 15 minutes. It really helps me to calm down, accept the things happening in my life, get in peace with the present moment, become more grateful, and relaxed.

According to a new research from the Shamatha Project at the [University of California, Davis](https://www.ucdavis.edu/news/mindfulness-meditation-associated-lower-stress-hormone), mindfulness and meditation help lower the levels of the stress hormone, cortisol.

I’ve been an active mindfulness advocate for the last year and I suggest that if you haven’t tried meditation yet, do it and try it for at least 3 days and observe how you feel. I recommend starting with [Headspace](https://www.headspace.com/) or [Calm](https://www.calm.com/) app and spend at least 10 minutes a day focusing on your breath and relaxing.

The world is buzzing with many things are happening all around you. This busy-ness makes you unaware of the world around you. The sadder thing, however, is we become unaware of our inner self, too. Do you know that humans can think of 60,000 stories and feel 300,000 emotions every day? How many of them are you aware of?

## Reading

How do you read more books?

I was obsessed with that question and tried to find all the hacks possible - speed reading, reading excerpts, summaries, listening to audiobooks, watching videos that explain the most of the book concepts, and so on.

After trying all of them, I’ve discovered a mind-blowing hack that was there all the time - If you want to read more books, simply spend more time reading. If you don’t have time to read, make more time. Always carry a book with you, read after you wake up, read when you commute to work and read while you wait for your morning coffee at the cafe. Having a break at work? Read. Read before going to bed. All of these will add up and give you 20-40 pages a day which is around 2 books a month. I used to waste months without reading a single book.

The benefits of reading books a are enormous. If some of the wealthiest people in the world like Warren Buffet and Mark Zuckerberg read hundreds of books a year, and Elon Musk taught himself rocket science by just reading, it must be important.

Here's a secret: ordinary people seek entertainment, but extraordinary people seek education and learning. That’s why most of the successful people are reading books instead of wasting time watching TV.

As time passes by, reading will certainly reshape your thinking. It will make you more knowledgeable and have more ideas on many topics; you will think and see differently; you will have answers to common questions, and you will feel more confident and creative.

Make reading your priority.

## Writing

Writing is definitely one of the major skills that have influenced my lifestyle in a positive way. It’s not only a very meditative activity as it helps me think deeper but it also allows me to create stories, makes me a better communicator, and increases my creativity. When I get into the zone, words just flow naturally.

What I love about writing the most is the impact it can have on other people. One article has the potential to reach millions of people anywhere in the world. Writing also makes you a better person because it allows you to put everything that has been bothering you into words. After freeing all those feelings, you feel calmer, more satisfied, and inspired.

When what you're writing clearly expresses your thoughts and ideas, you can gain more friends and influence people. Whether it’s your personal relationships or career, clear communication will help you build smooth and bulletproof future.

Continuous writing can easily lead to additional or passive income stream. Think about it, you can contribute a couple of articles a week to your favorite blog or magazine and make some cash. You can also work on a book, sell it online and make money while you sleep. I’ve tried both and will be improving on what I’ve learned.

Another benefit of writing is it helps you clear your mind. According to social psychologist Roy F. Baumeister, our brain is always looking to complete tasks. If you have a thought or idea circling in your head, it may not stop until you write it down. Once you do it, your brain registers it as a completed task and then your mind can rest again. That’s why people wake up at night and can not sleep again until they write down their idea on a napkin or whatever is close to their bed.

Writing also helps you learn. Read and you will forget, see and you may remember, teach and you will understand. Once you learn something new, write it down in your notes using your own words and how you understand it. After that, teach what you learned to others. Once you start teaching what you have learned, you’re taking a critical look at what you want to say leading to a better understanding.

It’s a key to success or, at least, one of the keys. I’m not surprised that these wealthy and highly successful individuals like Warren Buffett, Richard Branson, and Bill Gates regularly take the time to put down a pen to paper to express their thoughts.

When you write, you will remember things long forgotten. Writing about daily experiences and feelings provides a recorded history. It also allows you to dig deep and access these memories; thus, write them down so you can learn from your past and recall those amazing moments. Start writing.

## Defining the Most Important Task (MIT)

Most of the time, I’d just write a to-do list of some random tasks I want to do during that day and my over optimistic to-do list would go unfinished every day. Now, I focus on one major task, the most important task (MIT) of the day that will help me achieve my vision and contribute the most to the future I want to build. I wrote a piece on Forbes about decision fatigue and its consequences which are all about making a limited amount of decisions every day and consuming a certain amount of willpower for each and every decision.

Defining and focusing on my most important task helps me get the most vital task done and move closer to my main goal. If I still have energy left for other tasks, I’d work on the secondary and tertiary importance level tasks to run errands, ensure the cash flow, and work on improvements for my business and life.

## Doing the Affirmations

Doing the affirmations is quite new for me, I heard about the concept but never really took the time to do them. Now, I am doing a short positive self-talk every morning telling myself that I am already creative, productive, confident, influential, calm, loving, leading, inspiring, humble, intelligent, innovative, attractive, sensible, and successful. It really helps me get that little positive boost for the day and adds extra confidence to whatever I do.

The next step for me is to do it in front of a mirror with more energy and belief to really pump up myself with positive energy for the day.

## Visualizing

Imagine all the details - how does it look, smell, sound, and feel? What emotions you’d have, how would you look, what would you do? Make it as realistic as possible and truly believe it. Practicing visualization daily helps me stay on track and accept the inevitable. I’ve already been there and done that. Now, I just need my body to get where my mind already is - the victory.

_The mind is everything. What you think you become. – Buddha_

Visualization is a process of recreating all the images, sounds, and feelings in your mind in order to practice in a perfect environment. In fact, visualization is very popular in sports psychology.

I was active in athletics for around a decade. During that time, I would watch videos of great athletes and analyze their techniques. I’d look at the pictures of pole vaulters and imagine myself doing the same movements jumping over the bar. Before the competition, I’d imagine myself warming up, stretching, and finally competing. I was visualizing without even knowing about it.

_I am a big believer in visualization. I run through my races mentally so that I feel even more prepared. – Allyson Felix, 2012 Olympic champion, a 3-time World champion, and 2-time Olympic silver medalist._

What is the difference between a good and great athlete? Their mental strength and power of visualization. One of the most overused cliches in sport is that 90 percent of performance is mental. According to Doug Gardner, sport is 100 percent mental and that's true.

### Visualization Might Be as Effective as Physical Training

Australian psychologist [Alan Richardson](http://www.llewellyn.com/encyclopedia/article/244) made a little experiment on the power of visualization. He took a group of basketball players, divided them into 3 groups, and tested each player’s ability to make free throws.

The first group would practice 20 minutes every day. The second would only visualize themselves making free throws, but no real practice was allowed. The third one would not practice or visualize.

The results were astounding. There was a significant improvement in the group that only visualized; they were almost as good as the guys who actually practiced.

Another [research has revealed](http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/14998709) that mental practices are almost effective as true physical practice and that doing both is more effective than either alone.

### There Are Many Benefits of Visualization

The visualization process works as a form of relaxation as it reduces anxiety. Visualization has no limitations - you can be and do anything, you can gain inspiration to pursue your dreams as you have already seen them happen, boost your confidence, and improve your focus on working toward your goals.

One of the most mind-blowing benefits of visualization was discovered by Dr. Maxwell Maltz. In his classic book Psycho-Cybernetics, he noted that your subconscious cannot tell the difference between a real memory, and a vividly imagined visualization.

_Your subconscious cannot tell the difference between a real memory, and a vividly imagined visualization. – Dr. Maxwell Maltz_

It may sound incredible but when you visualize, you effectively “implant” new memories into your self-image. Meaning that your subconscious mind “thinks” you are already the success you dream of becoming.

Start with a simple skill that you want to learn, like waking up earlier or eating slower. That way you can practice with something easier and strengthen your visualization skills before tackling the big complex skills.

## Exercising

I’ve been exercising for over a decade now. I’ve been involved in athletics from a young age of 12. I’ve faced many personal defeats, struggles, and growth of my physical and mental body. For the last three years, I switched to training at the gym, running and stretching, and occasionally trying new things like yoga, surfing, ultimate frisbee, tennis, and surfing.

Now I am regularly exercising 4-5 times a week, with exceptions when I get sick or travel. I recently switched from a 3 to a 4-day program that you can see below.

**Monday - Chest and Triceps**

**Chest**

- Barbell Bench Press 1 x 10, 8, 8, 6
- Incline Bench Press 1 x 8, 8, 6
- Decline Bench Press 1 x 8, 8, 6
- Dumbbell Flys 2 x 10
- Dumbbell Pullover 2 x 8

**Triceps**

- Tricep Extension 1 x 10, 8, 8, 6 (adding weight)
- Tricep Dip 3 x 10
- Tricep Bench Dip 3 x 8

**Tuesday - Back and Biceps**

**Back**

- Chin Up 2 x 8
- One Arm Dumbbell Row 3 x 8
- Seated Row 2 x 8
- Bent Over Barbell Row 2 x 8
- Lat Pull Down 1 x 10, 10, 8

**Biceps**

- Standing Barbell Curl 1 x 8, 8, 6
- Close Grip Preacher Curl 1 x 8, 8, 6
- Incline Dumbbell Curl 2 x 12-14
- Concentration Curl 2 x 10

**Wednesday - Rest Day/Cardio**

**Thursday - Shoulders and Forearms**

**Shoulders**

- Machine Shoulder Press 3 x 10
- Dumbbell Reverse Fly 3 x 8-10
- Military Press 4 x 10
- Dumbbell Lateral Raise 2 x 10
- Dumbbell Shrugs 2 x 10
- Upright Row 2 x 10

**Forearms**

- Standing Wrist Curl 4 x 10
- Barbell Wrist Curl 4 x 10

**Friday - Legs**

**Legs**

- Squat 1 x 10, 8, 8, 6, 4
- Leg Extension 3 x 12
- Leg Curl 3 x 12

**Calves**

- Standing Calf Raise 4 x 12
- Seated calf Raise 2 x 12

According to [David J Linden](https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-compass-pleasure/201104/exercise-pleasure-and-the-brain), intense exercise can bring about short-term euphoria, reduction of anxiety, and increases in pain threshold, which I have proven as true. Therefore, if I had to leave only one daily habit in my morning routine it would definitely be exercising because it leads to numerous physical and mental health benefits.

**Improve memory and thinking skills.** Many studies have suggested that the parts of the brain that control [thinking and memory](https://www.health.harvard.edu/blog/regular-exercise-changes-brain-improve-memory-thinking-skills-201404097110) (the prefrontal cortex and medial temporal cortex) have greater volume in people who exercise versus people who don’t.

**Increases productivity.** Exercising increases the endorphins that are released into your body which increases productivity.

**Exercising boosts self-confidence.** Exercising can help ease your mind and rejuvenate your body. Working out will make you feel great and boost your confidence.

**Working out helps you sleep better.** If you are someone who has trouble sleeping or staying asleep, then working out is your answer. Exercise helps to clear your head and helps you feel relaxed.

**Improves your mood.** Exercising lifts your emotional state and, as mentioned before, reduces stress and anxiety.

## Conclusion

This is one of the longest posts I have ever written and I appreciate you reading all of it. These habits of successful people, routines, and realizations didn’t come overnight. It was all based on trial and error, waking up at 5 am for 7 days and then breaking the chain and waking up at 11 am. I wouldn’t read or write for weeks. I would get sick and wouldn’t exercise or meditate.

My point is, you will certainly fail with your new lifestyle managing your new habits. Your old, even more powerful habits will creep in and try to get you back to your comfort zone, but don’t give up. Start over and over again until you realize you are the person you always wished to become.
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            <title><![CDATA[Write Down Your F*ck It List to Avoid Regrets in Life]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Thu, 11 Feb 2016 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
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Squirrels don't give a damn, why should you?

Let me remind you something very simple yet impactful you already know.

**You’re going to die.**

Sooner or later your time will come and all of the things that look important now will vanish and only moments of love and joy will remain until your last breath. You want to avoid having regrets in life.

_Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart. – Steve Jobs_

After a near death experience, Scott Jones realized life doesn’t need a long list of wishful events but rather more simplicity. Never do things you don’t want to do, ever. After watching his [TED talk](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9o5jAaZn2p0) recommended by my friend and a life coach Lydia Lee I decided to work on my “_stop doing”_ or in other words “*f*ck it”\* list.

The f\*ck it list is practical as it affects my [present moment](/blog/if-not-now-when) as I simply let go of things and enjoy my life without doing anything I don’t enjoy.

I highly recommend you watching the talk and writing down your own f\*ck it list. It doesn’t necessarily have to be public but I am sure people will appreciate it if you share it.

Below is mine.

1. Choosing relevant photos to illustrate my writings.
2. Overanalyzing. It never helps me make a better decision and simply holds me from making ideas happen.
3. Saying YES to people and ideas I don’t like or don’t fully believe in.
4. Being on every social media network.
5. Ruining my morning routine on weekends.
6. Apologising for being me.
7. Swearing like a sailor.
8. Blindly following my diet. I get a cake on Monday or Wednesday if I want to.
9. Committing to something I know I will give up.
10. Getting into the toxic relationships.
11. Tolerating sexist & racist jokes.
12. Getting too drunk. Having two beers on Friday is absolutely enough.
13. Staying up late.
14. Writing too much on my to-do list.
15. Replying to people I don’t like.
16. Being broke. Doesn’t feel good and having debt is the worst thing in life.
17. Researching for too long. Just write, create, design, build.
18. Trying to be perfect.
19. Going out on Friday nights. Sometimes I want to have ice cream and watch a movie.
20. Spending time with the negative people.
21. Lying to myself. Yes, I could be this and that but I am who I am.
22. Beating myself up for past mistakes.
23. Comparing myself to others.
24. Trying to buy happiness.
25. Thinking I am not ready.
26. Judging people.
27. Playing a victim.
28. Mindlessly consuming and not questioning why.
29. Taking the easiest path.
30. Expecting that in the future everything will be much better.
31. Over-scheduling myself and trying to meet everyone in the room.
32. Putting things I am excited about for later.
33. Watching, reading, listening to something I don’t enjoy.
34. Trying to manage and change people.
35. Doing everything on my own.
36. Not asking for help or advice.
37. Trying to please people.
38. Trying to control life.
39. Working when I don't feel like working.
40. Tolerating constant whining.
41. Getting in touch with my parents when I need something.
42. Updating social media when I am drunk.
43. Taking too many photos on my smartphone.
44. Spending most of my money on eating out.
45. Giving up when things get hard.
46. Starting new projects when there are many unfinished ones.
47. Texting while driving. My life is more important.
48. Stressing out about getting sick.
49. Asking what would I be if?
50. Having regrets in life
51. Waiting for the magical change to happen.
52. Buying cheap products that break or don’t satisfy me.
53. Criticising myself and others. Never ever, nor privately nor publicly.
54. Ignoring my dreams.
55. Saying “I love you” when I don’t mean it.
56. Working overtime.
57. Folding my underwear.
58. Doing repetitive tasks over and over again.
59. Guessing, assuming and not asking.
60. Using smartphone before bedtime.
61. Leaving important stuff for the last minute.
62. Overnight flights.
63. Giving up to the peer pressure. I don’t do things I don’t like.
64. Wasting time on social media.
65. Breaking my word.
66. Tinder.
67. Finish eating food I don’t like just because I bought it.
68. Coriander.

## Over to You

There you have it. An ever evolving list of things, ideas, actions and behaviours I want to let go to enjoy my life now and avoid having regrets in life.

What are you willing to give up to enjoy the present moment and avoid regrets in life?
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            <title><![CDATA[If Not Now, When?]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Mon, 11 Jan 2016 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[Here's a friendly reminder to do the thing you want to do. If not now, when? The only time you can do something is now.]]></description>
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Here's a friendly reminder to do the thing you want to do.

If not now, when?

The only time you can do something is now.

I just finished reading A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle which empowers the idea of the present moment.

The book inspired me a lot and allowed me to look at myself critically and identify how ego was taking over my life to be accepted, to be right, to be liked, to be praised, to be offended, to be suffering and victimised. Time doesn’t really exist, humans came up with a concept to make our ego grow bigger and navigate easier throughout the life.

## Inner and Outer Goals

Tolle talks about the inner and outer goals. The inner goal for everyone on earth is the same, to awaken and live in peace with the present moment. The outer goal depends on every person but has to be aligned with the inner goal. My outer goal is to serve and inspire one million people to change their lifestyle for good.

I’m trying to awaken myself by meditating and being more aware of my emotions, my reactions and behaviour in certain situations. For example, when someone offends my work, I’d catch myself being defensive and come up with arguments to protect myself. The more I’m aware of that the happier I become, just because I accept it and don’t try to change it.

I’ve met an old friend recently who asked me, "don’t you get lonely or miss something when you travel?" I do, but that’s the thing if I allow myself to suffer and miss something I feel low and become sad, but if I just accept it, and know that at the present moment there is nothing that makes me sad, it eventually disappears. You can not have it all. Once you give up on something negative you open the door for something positive. The only way to truly enjoy life, I believe is to accept it fully.

When you accept whatever is happening to you or around you, you stop suffering and just become aware of life. You and life are the same, I used to say "my life is good", but Eckhart Tolle reminded me that is it’s inseparable, therefore, "life is good”. Try to catch yourself getting angry or sad for no reason, there must be a thought, a memory behind it, or an external trigger like rain, favourite team loss etc. Train your awareness and accept things the way they are. You will become way happier and more grateful for the things happening in your life.

## A Story About an Old Farmer

I’d like to share a [short story](http://truecenterpublishing.com/zenstory/maybe.html) that inspired me a lot when I heard it from a monk in Northern Thailand mountains during a [silence meditation retreat](/blog/vipassana).

There is a Taoist story of an old farmer who had worked his crops for many years. One day his horse ran away. Upon hearing the news, his neighbors came to visit. "Such bad luck," they said sympathetically. "May be," the farmer replied.

The next morning the horse returned, bringing with it three other wild horses. "How wonderful," the neighbors exclaimed. "May be," replied the old man.

The following day, his son tried to ride one of the untamed horses, was thrown, and broke his leg. The neighbors again came to offer their sympathy on his misfortune. "May be," answered the farmer.

The day after, military officials came to the village to draft young men into the army. Seeing that the son's leg was broken, they passed him by. The neighbors congratulated the farmer on how well things had turned out. "May be," said the farmer.

## Accept Responsibility for Your Life

If you don’t like something why do you keep waiting for someone to come to your life and change it? I know you’re scared of the change as it’s uncertain, you may lose everything you have, but is it better to live with that guilt of not trying to pursue your dream?

_Accept responsibility for your life. Know that it is you who will get you where you want to go, no one else. – Les Brown_

You may want to get to the point which is very far and seems impossible. Take small steps. Do things necessary to train yourself for success. Want to become a writer? Start writing daily. Want to lose weight? Visualize your goal, sign up for the gym, find a partner, commit, tell it to everyone to keep you accountable and most important put in work every day.

## Don’t Wait for the Right Time

We always wait for the right time. The only time that exists is now. You feel grateful for someone? Tell them. You feel like learning a language? Start today with basic words. You wait for that amazing lifetime adventure to start? Book a ticket anywhere and feel that excitement and aliveness flowing into you.

The worst that can happen is you that will lose everything you have now. Your friends, money, car, job title, but is it all irreversible? As Paulo Coelho said, _“You must understand that love never keeps a man from pursuing his destiny. If he abandons that pursuit, it's because it wasn't true love…”_

_People are capable, at any time in their lives, of doing what they dream of. – Paulo Coelho_

You will not lose your family or friends, you will find out who is truly supporting you because people who care about you will support you in any venture. A job title? With your knowledge and experience, you will most likely get back to a similar or even better position in less than a year. Money? You will definitely have a hard time earning money after you invested everything in your dream but it’s also not a big issue, you will find a job, you will find a way to make money again and get back on track.

If not now, when? Give it a shot.
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            <title><![CDATA[Life Lessons I Learned in 2015]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Fri, 01 Jan 2016 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[I've traveled the world, lived as a digital nomad, sold a startup, released my first online course, ran half-marathon, meditated in silence for ten days and became a contributor on Forbes.]]></description>
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![Mount Batur, Bali, Indonesia](/images/mount-batur-bali-indonesia.jpg)
Mount Batur, Bali, Indonesia.

Today, I'd like to share what I learned in 2015. I've traveled the world, lived as a digital nomad, sold a startup, released my first online course, ran half-marathon, meditated in silence for ten days and became a contributor on Forbes.

If you are interested in my previous yearly reviews, check life lessons of **[2013](/blog/life-lessons-2013)** and **[2014](/blog/life-lessons-2014)**.

**Flying taught me to trust people more than ever.** In the last year, I’ve had 18 international flights across North America, Europe and Asia. Most of the flights were smooth but sometimes there would be moments when I’d panic a little and come to a conclusion that there is nothing I can do except trust the crew. Most of the time I’ve spent at the following airports: Bangkok, Stockholm, Copenhagen and Vilnius.

**Connecting and talking to people allows me to become a better storyteller.** In March, I've done a skill sharing session at Hubud about getting started with self-publishing.

**Consistent work leads to results.** Stop questioning everything, simply define your vision and work hard. After more than two years of hard work, Despreneur has been viewed by over 2,330,000 people around the world. In July, I’ve released my first freelance web design business course that now has over 3,000 students.

**Podcasting is the future.** I learned so much this year from different podcasts I listen almost daily and it definitely inspired me to start one. After a quick discussion with Justas in July, we launched a podcast with an extremely original name - Podkastas. Our goal is to inspire Lithuanians by talking with interesting people about an unconventional lifestyle, traveling and self-development.

**Get in touch with a teacher that helped you grow.** Thank them. Let them know it mattered. The best way to appreciate people who inspire you is to simply let them know by leaving a comment, sending an email or going an extra mile and writing a letter.

**If you truly want to help someone you need to listen first.** In November, I’ve been honored to be one of the mentors at the Startup Weekend Bali organized by Hubud, a co-working space in Ubud. No matter how excited I was to share my experience and help people I tried to keep quiet and let them find solutions themselves rather than me pointing it out.

**I learned to enjoy being on my own.** After taking the **[10-day Vipassana meditation retreat](/blog/vipassana)** in the mountains of Northern Thailand, I learned to recognize my emotions, become more aware of the world around me and relax being on my own.

**If you want something, go and get it.** This year I wanted to become a contributor on Forbes. It took me over 6 months but here I am, covering design, tech and unconventional lifestyle on Forbes.

**Best networking technique is producing high-quality work.** The work I do have led to the front page of Medium and interviews with the following well-respected business and design publications.

- **Forbes**: **[How To Pack Like A Digital Nomad](http://www.forbes.com/sites/kaviguppta/2015/12/01/how-to-pack-like-a-digital-nomad/)**
- **Fast Company**: **[How To Go From Idea To Prototype In One Day](http://www.fastcompany.com/3045934/passion-to-profit/how-to-go-from-idea-to-prototype-in-one-day)**
- **1stWebDesigner**: **[How to Hack Web Design Learning Process](http://www.1stwebdesigner.com/hack-web-design-process/)**
- **15min.lt**: **[„Skaitmeninis klajoklis“ Tomas Laurinavičius: „Mūsų kartai svarbiausias dalykas yra laisvė“](http://www.15min.lt/pasaulis-kiseneje/naujiena/kelioniu-istorijos/keliaujantis-ir-dirbantis-tomas-laurinavicius-musu-kartai-svarbiausias-dalykas-yra-laisve-639-520928)**
- **Screw The Cubicle Podcast**: **[Creating Your Environment to Thrive as a Solopreneur](http://screwthecubicle.com/tomas-laurinavicius/)**
- **IMCreator**: **[Hacking the Web Design Business: 10 Experts Share Their Best Tips and Experiences](http://www.imcreator.com/blog/hacking-the-web-design-business-10-experts-share-their-best-tips-and-experiences/)**

I’ve been fortunate enough to collaborate with the following business and design publishers.

- **[DesignModo](http://designmodo.com/author/laurinavicius/)**
- **[Tuts+](http://tutsplus.com/authors/tomas-laurinavicius)**
- **[1stWebDesigner](http://www.1stwebdesigner.com/graphic-web-design-trends-2015/)**
- **[UXPin](http://studio.uxpin.com/blog/what-it-takes-to-succeed-as-a-product-designer-part-1/)**

**Sorry America but Internet stole the American dream.** Nowadays people are able to make it anywhere. I’ve met so many incredibly inspiring people working on exciting things and living anywhere in the world.

**Exercise is a big part of a productive daily routine.** I’ve just confirmed to myself that being productive is being constantly physically active and taking care of your body to perform at the highest level.

**Touching lives in a personal and meaningful way makes me realize and understand the meaning of my life.** Getting emails, messages on Facebook and comments on Twitter confirm me that things I do inspire people and help them change their lifestyle.

**I’ve come to the point where I’ve been asked about my life’s purpose.** Here it is: Help 1 million people to change their lifestyle and reach their dreams.

**Kindness doesn’t have borders or stereotypes.** People are people in every country I go to and it doesn’t stop impressing me how great people are.

**Selling a startup is a relieving experience.** In January, I've sold my first startup **[Refe](https://getrefe.com/)**, a marketplace of natural looking photos. However, extremely important to look back at what worked what didn’t and have these notes and facts ready for a new adventure. Start something you’re extremely passionate about. Kill ideas when the time comes.

**Long-term traveling is not as expensive as it may look.** It requires some smart hacks and research time but you can easily travel the world with a budget of $1,000/month.

**My dream of visiting the New York City came true.** Not as glamorous as I’ve imagined it but love it nevertheless and want to come back again.

**Ideas are international.** No matter where you go if you talk genuinely and care about your purpose people will find it appealing no matter the language, cultural or religious differences.

**The design industry is a place to be.** Jon Newman at the Dribbble meetup in New York reminded me once again how much fun you can have in the creative industry. Work is good, but the play is also very important. Oh, and stop bullshitting that story to yourself that you don’t have time.

**Some people might be more important than other.** I like meeting up with friends but I came to the point where I have to be strict on choosing people I hang out with, I want to reach greatness, and normally spending time with great people will lift me up to that level.

**There is no such thing as “I don’t have time,” there is only “my priorities are different.”** This is what I struggle to say when I mean that my goals don’t allow me to waste my energy on something that doesn’t get me closer to my dreams. I have time, just can’t or don’t want to spend it with you.

**Entrepreneurship makes you tougher.** Entering the business world as a designer, I was quite insecure about myself, my skills, talent, abilities. I feared failure, I was shy to pitch myself and my work, I was afraid to say no and hurt people. I realized It’s my life and I want to leave a legacy after me, build something greater than I could ever be and if that means cutting out some people of my life, I’m sorry.

**Embrace real relationships.** No matter how far or hard it is to get to someone if you really care about your people and find joy and value in spending time with them go for it. Quality over quantity.

**Traveling lifestyle is not expensive.** Unless you carry half of your house with you including useless things you never use. I and my best friend Justas finally achieved our goal of traveling around the world. On February 2nd we landed in Vilnius International Airport and that ended our 6-month trip which itinerary was as follows:

- Vilnius, Lithuania
- Prague, Czech Republic
- Budapest, Hungary
- Lviv, Ukraine
- Chernivtsi, Ukraine
- Bucharest, Romania
- Podvis, Bulgaria
- Burgas, Bulgaria
- Sofia, Bulgaria
- Dubai, UAE
- Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia
- Singapore, Singapore
- Bali, Indonesia
- Cebu, Philippines
- Phuket, Thailand
- Krabi, Thailand
- Ho Chi Minh, Vietnam
- Los Angeles, CA, United States
- Baltimore, MD, United States
- Washington, D.C., United States
- New York, NY, United States
- London, United Kingdom
- Vilnius, Lithuania

All journey costs were around $6000 USD including flights, transportation, accommodation, Airbnb, hotels, restaurants, gym memberships, massages, scooter rentals and nights out.

**People make more than half of their daily decisions on autopilot.** Meaning that habits decide for us for half of the decisions of the day. I’ve been developing my early rising habit followed by meditation, reading, writing, drinking water, exercising and goal setting. I’ve decided to dig deeper and write a book about the habits of success.

**Growing up is a myth.** I still try to figure out what is so different from being a grown up. Nothing glamorous actually, you realize that you and only you are responsible for the things you get and don’t get. There is no one obliged to help you, to take care of you, to make you successful. When I was a kid I didn’t have to bother about many things like food, shelter, future. Now having this nomadic lifestyle I am always thinking and planning ahead in order to go places, to meet people, to ensure I do enough client work to pay for my accommodation, flights, gym membership, food.

**Rest is underrated.** I work, work and work. But honestly, all I do is sit in front of my laptop for 8–9h a day and do distracted work that can be done in 3–4h. Resting more and working less is what I learned works better. Only the idea of working less is hard to accept coming from the consumer world where working less means that you are lazy.

**Fear of missing out is scary.** What if I ignore this email and miss another great partnership opportunity? What if I don’t go to this networking event and miss meeting my future co-founder or investor? What if I don’t work on this idea I have and someone steals it and makes billions of it? My answer: what if you keep wasting your time and energy on these things and miss out an opportunity to focus on something you truly believe in and try to get somewhere ignoring these distractions?

> “You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future.” ― Steve Jobs

**Hiring people is a damn hard process.** I’ve read a lot about the hiring process, interviews, have been there myself and now once the time is to actually get someone on board is extremely hard. What I learned is that even if you have 50 applicants go one by one, don’t try to have everything done at once.

**Never compare your weaknesses to other people’s strengths.** As Einstein once said, “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”

**Own your life or someone will own it for you.** As Oprah said, “You are responsible for your life. You can't keep blaming somebody else for your dysfunction. Life is really about moving on.”

**Comfort is the ultimate enemy of achievement.** If you want to get something, get up and work your butt off. It’s not going to be easy and comfortable.

**Don’t blindly listen to what anyone says to you.** Everyone these days gives you an advice how to live your life. Don’t listen to everyone. You don’t have to eat dinner with them, live with them or go to bed with them.

**If you risk nothing, you risk everything.** Playing safe won’t take you far. Believe in yourself and your dream, stand for it and do bold things to achieve greatness in your life. Winner takes it all.

**Climb up not to show yourself to the world but to see the world.** Achieving things that for some people might look like a waste of time is going to open your eyes and show you what you are capable of.

**If you don’t do stupid things now, you will have nothing to smile about tomorrow.** Failure is inevitable, understand that you will not be right all the time, just have fun and make bold moves.

**Don’t waste your time with an explanation, people only hear what they want to hear.** Do your thing and be proud of it. People who matter don’t mind and people who mind don’t matter.

**Don’t think of changing the world, think of changing yourself.** Become more loving, caring, trusting, creating, accepting. Everyone thinks of changing the world, but no one thinks of changing themselves.

**Open your eyes and look around, you might be living in the paradise already.** I rediscovered my own country. I visited beautiful Nida and Neringa for the very first time. I’ve been traveling tens of thousands of kilometers around the world but forgot to really appreciate what was around me all the time. Beautiful and pure nature.

**I learned to enjoy running.** I’ve beaten my half-marathon time by 23 minutes. On September 13th, I’ve completed the half-marathon distance in 1 hour 47 min 29 sec. After training hard for 5 weeks, I came to the start line more than ready and I came to enjoy the whole distance. Breathing the competition, being among like-minded people competing not against each other but against themselves and their limiting mindset was an exceptional experience. Everyone was a winner that day.

**Get rid of anything that isn’t useful.** Declutter your physical, mental and digital life. Things weigh you down, they end up owning you and stopping you from making your crazy ideas happen.

**The comparison is a waste of time.** Accept what you already have, not what you think you need. Getting more and more will not make you happy. True happiness is accepting what you already have, wanting more will create more suffering.

**Everyone is looking for the "right" person, but no one is trying to be the right person.** Stop blaming others and take full responsibility for your life and what happens in it. Become the best person you can. Be just a little bit kinder, more honest, more loving, more positive, more supportive, more listening, more compassionate and you will notice how many *“right”* people are around you.

**Forgive yourself.** Yes, you hurt someone, yes you failed an exam, yes, you cheated on your partner, yes, you lost everything. Forgive yourself and move on. You can choose to keep the guilt inside of you or release and fill it with love and compassion.

**Be present and practice mindfulness.** Our lives are rushing at an incredible pace, tablets, laptops, smartphones, there is so much going on. Where are we rushing? To live? Life is here and now. Practice mindfulness to really embrace the moment. Right now, sit straight, take a deep breath, count from one to three and exhale. Notice how your belly is raising when you inhale, notice how it is falling when you exhale. Look around and be more mindful of the things you see.

**There is no right or wrong.** Thinking makes things right or wrong. Imagine you have a great pool party coming and you want to show off in your fancy swimsuit but suddenly it starts raining. There are two things that can happen, you will get mad and angry and will try to resist the rain, but the rain can't be stopped, or you will accept and dance in the rain.

**However good or bad a situation is, it will change.** You might be going through a very hard time now, you might be enjoying yourself very much but it’s important to know that everything will change, don’t fall in love with the moment, just accept it as it is without expecting anything.

**What other people think of you is none of your business.** You can’t make people happy, angry, proud, sad or feel any other way. They are fully in charge to choose how to feel so stop thinking about what others might think or feel.

**No one is in charge of your happiness but you.** Remember that **[no one owes you anything](/blog/no-one-owes-you-anything)**, you are not meant to be happy by default. It’s your intentional choice to live happily and do everything to enjoy your time on this magnificent planet.

**Sex is not the ultimate intimacy.** Openness, connection, trust and vulnerability lead to the amazing and unforgettable experiences. Work on your emotional intelligence, practice gratitude and speak up what’s on your mind. You will be surprised what lies outside of your emotional comfort zone.

**Life is unfair, but it’s still good.** This year was insanely mad and chaotic. There is war, hunger, diseases, children abuse, inequality, racism. But life is still good nonetheless, don’t let all the negativity weigh you down.

**You don’t have to win everything.** Losing is a part of the process. I’m still learning to accept the loss but victory is so much sweeter once you know the bitterness of the defeat. Believe in yourself and keep giving it all.

**Don’t overthink, trust your gut and make decisions in a snap.** Analysis paralysis is not the best thing to suffer from, your brain is capable of making the right decision in a snap, well, most of the time, trust yourself and allow life to happen.

**Stop searching for yourself and trying to define yourself.** Just be aware of how you react to certain things and let yourself unfold. No need for close moderation and investigation of who you are.

**Wear your fancy shirt, open that expensive wine, eat that luxury chocolate.** Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special. Stop collecting things and waiting for something, create and enjoy experiences, let go of physical commitments.

**When you have a dream and believe in it, do whatever it takes to make it happen.** Don’t take no for an answer, don’t let other people decide for you, don’t let negative thoughts hold you back. Nobody said it will be easy, but it will be worth it.

**The past is over and future not yet come so enjoy the present because it’s the only thing you can change.** Experience the **[present moment](/blog/if-not-now-when)** and give it all. Make peace with your past as it won’t come back, stop worrying about the future as it is yet to come.

**You will have to face adversity, don’t give up.** You have a dream, you have a vision of who you want to be, what do you want to achieve but you will be constantly bombarded with challenges and obstacles in your way. Don’t give up and keep going.

**The only constant is change.** You may want things to be one or the other way but only accepting things the way they are and adapting to the change will make you happier and more alive than ever before.

**Learning a language is hard but helps you to connect with people on a different level.** I’ve started learning Indonesian this year and just knowing basic phrases allowed me to connect with locals on a completely different emotional level.

**Life is a traveling experience.** Most of the time you’ll be alone, there will be some people sticking to your travels long-term, some of them will only show up episodically. Enjoy the journey.

**In the end, all that truly matters is that you loved.** Another year is over and I don’t care how many arguments I won, I don’t care how many times I was right, I don’t care if I grew my business. All I care is that I loved myself, moments in the world, people surrounding me, my family and friends supporting me no matter where I am. Once I think about it fills me up with calming love for life.

**What did you learn in 2015?** I'd love to hear your ups and downs and learn from you. If you’ve found this article inspiring I would highly appreciate if you could share it with someone who might find it interesting.

If you are interested in my previous annual reviews, check my life lessons of **[2013](/blog/life-lessons-2013)**, **[2014,](/blog/life-lessons-2014)** **[2016,](/blog/life-lessons-2016)** **[2017](/blog/life-lessons-2017)**, **[2018](/blog/life-lessons-2018)**, and **[2019](/blog/life-lessons-2019)**.
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            <title><![CDATA[Lessons I Learned From 10 Days of Silence and Meditation]]></title>
            <link>https://tomaslau.com/blog/vipassana</link>
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            <pubDate>Thu, 05 Nov 2015 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[Silence meditation (Vipassana) is one of the hardest and most rewarding experiences in my life.]]></description>
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![Vipassana](/images/vipassana-retreat.jpg)

Silence meditation (Vipassana) is one of the hardest and most rewarding experiences in my life.

The first time I heard about Vipassana meditation was back in 2014 when my friend and business partner decided to take a break in a hectic startup world and realign his values and vision for life.

I've never been that much into meditation and taking a 10-day course seemed like a very strange thing.

It felt like it's highly connected with religion and as I am not very particularly religious I thought it may not be for me, however, after reading numerous of articles about [successful people and their routines](https://tomaslau.com/blog/habits) I've noticed that they practice mindfulness and meditate daily.

I had to give it a try.

Just before starting my digital nomad adventures I started meditating using [Calm](https://www.calm.com/) app. I didn't find it particularly impressive so it didn't stick with me.

Later I've discovered [Headspace](https://www.headspace.com/). I liked that Andy Puddicombe explained everything in a simple, yet meaningful way.

After a while I learned these things about meditation:

- You don't have to force yourself to stop thinking.
- Thoughts will never disappear, you need to let them come and go.
- It's about focusing on the present and not worrying about the past and future.
- You don't need to change anything (thoughts, emotions, and feelings) – just accept them.
- Our mind is like a clear sky, but there are clouds from time to time, meditation helps get back the clarity we want.

After some sessions, I've started to notice the benefits of taking the time to observe the environment, breathe and relax.

I've been meditating for years now, quite inconsistently, though.

I'm always agitating my friends to try it out, just for three days and then quit if they don't see the benefits.

## Why Would I Consider Going Silent for 10 Days?

It's always a great idea to stop, look back where you have been, think about where you are going and reflect on your life, relationships and surrounding world.

I'm extremely grateful for the people in my life and my current position that allows me to travel the world, improve myself in every possible way and build a business that not only supports my ventures but also helps people.

I haven't really had holidays for years and disconnecting from all the electronic devices, internet and people sounded like a good idea to evaluate everything I've done, experienced and learned.

I think it's a good idea to restart myself, calm down and get down to the essentials to understand what is truly important for me and find out what I want in life.

## What Is Vipassana Meditation Technique?

Vipassana meditation is an ancient practice taught by Buddhas, in which mindfulness of breathing and of thoughts, feelings and actions are being used to gain insight in the true nature of reality.

_It is often translated as “insight” or “clear-seeing,” it also may mean “seeing deeply.” – [Wikipedia](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vipassan%C4%81)_

After coming to Northern Thailand, a beautiful city in the mountains called Chiang Mai, I knew it was the time to finally do it.

One Saturday afternoon, after watching _“_[Seven Years In Tibet](https://amzn.to/2RfVVI8)” I've made my mind and booked a room to attend the Vipassana silence meditation course for 10 days.

## What Is a Silent Retreat?

The course is very strict and comes with clear **guidelines for meditators**:

- You're not allowed to mix the practice with other meditation techniques or yoga, tai chi, aerobics.
- No smoking and drinking alcohol.
- No solid food after midday.
- No speaking with people.
- No reading, writing, listening to music, using internet, telephone.

### Daily Routine

- 5 am: Wake up time
- 5:30 am: Dhamma talk
- 7 am: Breakfast
- 8 am: Morning meditation
- 11 am: Lunch
- 12:30 pm: Afternoon meditation
- 1:30 pm: Meditation report
- 2:30 pm: Afternoon meditation
- 6 pm: Evening chanting
- 7 pm: Evening meditation
- 9 pm: Day ends

## How I Felt Before and Throughout the Course?

I was quite nervous and scared of the experience.

I tried to calm myself down by telling that it's good for me. It's a break from the world and all the noise. After all it's just spending time on my own and developing myself.

I was confident I could do it and I made a promise to myself. No matter how hard it would be, I wouldn't quit.

The first couple of days were _extremely_ hard.

I was bombarded with my old habits and cravings for instant gratification, like social media, coffee, the internet, music, reading, and eating whatever available at any time.

First seven days were going very slowly and my mind was going crazy. All the memories, thoughts, feelings and emotions were mixing up and making a big noise in my head.

I was thinking about all sorts of things. Moments that I hated when I was a kid, I would find enjoyable. Like washing dishes after Christmas lunch with my family, because I could recall that warmth and connection with my family, I could recall how much love I have in this world even when some adversity comes along the way.

After numerous of Dhamma talks, which are the teachings of Buddha taught by a monk I learned to forgive myself, let go, accept things as they are and move on.

_If you are sad to the world, the world is sad for you, but if you smile to the world, the world smiles for you._

On the morning of the 8th day, I felt a strange relief, thanks to a monk who was telling that we forget to relax when meditating. We just do it because it's good for us but don't really enjoy it.

It was the breakthrough point for me.

I accepted everything.

I accepted the fact that I'm spending my time in the meditation center voluntarily and I came to enjoy the experience, relax and find myself.

On the last day I knew, I love my life how it is.

There are so many incredible things that happened to me already, so many people I love surround me and there is not much I want to change.

I just need to appreciate it more, express my gratitude and show people that I care.

Meditation is a never-ending practice and my goal is to never stop purifying my mind, praising the moment and seeing more clearly.

## Lessons I Learned

**Recognition of emotions**. I can identify my emotions and feelings better and not get angry for being sad. Instead, I can get to the root of sadness, understand that it comes from the past and just let it be. With time, it will dissolve.

**A sense of calmness**. I'm calmer and can enjoy things more by simply doing them slower and reminding myself about the present moment. If I'm drinking coffee, I can notice and repeat in my mind, “I'm drinking coffee, drinking coffee, drinking coffee,” to bring back thee focus on present moment and prevent my mind from circling around.

**The suffering and negative emotions come from me, not other people**. I've learned that people don't hurt me. I hurt myself by poisoning my mind with negative emotions and simply blaming other people or the world for whatever bad happens to me.

**Increased awareness of the inner monologue and disguised thoughts**. Sometimes I was just sitting, staring at the tree and thinking nothing (at least I thought I was thinking nothing). After some time, I started to uncover thoughts that were running circles in my head and I was simply not aware of them. Meditation allowed me to become more aware of thinking.

**I see worrying and problems differently**. Before the meditation retreat I'd get stressed about my personal and professional goals, about all the possible bad scenarios that can happen to my health, family, friends, and future. Meditation reduced that stress.

**I've learned to move on**. Most of the Dhamma talks were emphasizing the fact that life goes on, you may have lost everything but your mind, so all you need to do is to _move on_. Good or bad, it will always change, find the strength and move on.

**Forgiving myself**. I'm very competitive and have big dreams. I used to beat myself up and feel guilty for not delivering on plans, not achieving as much as I potentially could. I learned to enjoy the process, be proud of my work because no one is perfect. Someone had to remind me that.

**I've learned to enjoy being on my own**. I've never ever in my life have been separated from human interaction for so long. There was no one to speak to, no one to listen to, just me and my crazy thoughts. Sometimes I'd bring up sad memories, sometimes happy memories, sometimes angry ones, but at the end it was all me and my mind. I can't run away from it so being more aware of it and accepting everything had made me more relaxed.

**I don't need to constantly look for quick fixes**. There is no way you can do something and expect a miracle happening. Whatever you decide to give up or learn, remember that it's a long process. Take it step by step and you'll start seeing results.

**The world slowed down**. I don't have that extreme urge to consume, experience one thing and move on to the other one. I'm more aware of the urgency and have enough willpower to say no, slow down, take a deep breath and be present, even if just for a short moment.

**I can sit still longer**. I can focus on things longer. I can ignore urges, like scratching, feeling hot or cold, feeling emotionally high or low and just focus on whoever is speaking. I can pay more attention to whatever is happening and bring myself back from wandering in my thoughts.

## Want to Take the Course?

If  you ever consider doing a Vipassana retreat, simply Google it to find the nearest Buddhist centre, or check the [Vipassana Meditation](https://www.dhamma.org/en-US/index) website.

If you're visiting Chiang Mai, check [Doi Suthep Vipassana Meditation Center](https://www.fivethousandyears.org/). All meditation courses run by donation.

How you decide to reflect and slow down it's your decision.
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            <title><![CDATA[Life Lessons I Learned in 2014]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Thu, 01 Jan 2015 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[Design your life you want to live every day. You are the designer of your life. Review your values, goals and vision for life.]]></description>
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![Venice Beach, California](/images/venice-beach-california.jpg)
Venice Beach, California.

**Design your life you want to live every day.** You are the designer of your life. Review your values, goals and vision for life. Cut off the things that don’t bring you happiness, hang out with people who inspire you, be more adventurous, adopt a growth mindset and enjoy every single day.

**Quitting job.** After the *Dare With Us* Eurotrip last summer, I returned back to London and was working at *Studio N3RD*. While it’s fun and not too challenging I wanted to build my own things and have more freedom. I feel very grateful for the opportunity to learn from people I call friends at *N3RD*.

**Pursuing my dreams.** One of the biggest dreams in my life was to go to America. More specifically New York. A land of opportunity. I am currently in Los Angeles and will be traveling to Washington D.C. and New York later this month. Another dream of mine was to travel around the globe, right after the USA me and Justas are flying to London and going back to Lithuania, that will end the long trip around the planet Earth.

**Running half-marathon.** I’ve been running a lot since 2012. A couple of thousand kilometers so far. My first serious challenge happened this summer at *We Run Vilnius* where I completed my first half marathon (21 km 97 m) in 2:11:14. I’ve realized that you can push yourself much more than you can think of.

**Slow traveling.** This is probably the most important thing of the year. *Dare With Us* has started out as a crowdfunding campaign on **[Indiegogo](https://www.indiegogo.com/)**. Me and my buddy Justas tried to raise some funds to travel around the world. As you may know, our plan didn’t work out very well. However, I’ve decided to leave London and work on **[Despreneur](https://despreneur.com/)** and **[Refe](https://getrefe.com/)** for the most of the time while saving up some money for the world trip. Justas has quit his job and started freelancing. Now we’ve traveled in Europe, around South East Asia and will be hitting the United States in January.

**Co-authoring a book.** It’s extremely hard, you need lots of willpower to push yourself through the times of fear of self-doubt, find motivation and manage the life that happens in between. Start small, write about something every day. Build a habit, expand your capacity for writing and take up a challenge. Announce it publicly, find someone to help you, make it fun, push yourself a little. Eventually, you’ll have a book. Maybe second or third one will be a bestseller. Maybe not. The fact that people read it will make you feel extremely accomplished and happy.

**Getting up early.** I always thought that I am a night owl and night is the time where most of the stuff gets done. However, having the freedom to work for myself allowed me to experiment with my routines and I decided to give a try for early mornings. I’ve been interviewed on **[My Morning Routine](https://mymorningroutine.com/tomas-laurinavicius/)** **where you can read more about it in detail. After reading “**[12 Lessons of Waking Up at 4:30 a.m. for 21 Days](https://medium.com/life-hacks-for-business/12-lessons-of-waking-up-at-4-30-a-m-for-21-days-90d1053c3634)\*\*” I decided to push myself even more and now I am waking nearly consistently at 5 am except weekends for more than 6 months.

**Winning Startup Weekend Kaunas.** My second time participating at Startup Weekend this time in my home country. I am honestly impressed by the quality of the event, organization, mentors and overall experience. The team I’ve joined was fortunate winning a couple of awards. Positive attitude is everything.

**Meditating.** I have been using **[Calm](https://www.calm.com/)** and **[Omvana](https://www.omvana.com/)** apps to start clearing up my mind and getting rid of useless thoughts out of my head. Not every session helps me calm down and adopt calm mindset but taking time off, focusing on present, appreciating current moment and breathing will help you focus and be happier.

**Saying “NO” more.** It’s extremely hard to refuse great offers from friends or potential business partners. However, it is crucial to your success and peace of mind. Doing less but better will lead you to massive success instead of taking more than you can eat and being so-so in execution.

**Building meaningful relationships.** Meeting everyone in the room may be cool and you’ll have more exposure but what really matters to me is a meaningful and deep connection with an individual. I don’t like to pretend that I am interested in person so if I am not interested I prefer to connect with the ones who share similar views, values and work toward similar goals.

**Becoming more patient.** Some circumstances just force you to be more patient like missing a flight and being stuck in Singapore for three days or taking a bus ride for 10 hours. Some things are not in your control and the only thing to get along with life in these moments is to accept the facts and be patient. Stop whining. If you want to complain about something propose a solution, otherwise shut up and keep silent.

**Being happier with less.** Last year’s eurotrip has taught me to carry less and have more freedom and mobility to move. I thought I’ve learnt it, I was wrong. Packing up for the *Dare With Us* world tour I’ve once again had taken too much stuff but luckily on the way I was getting lighter and lighter. Now my life fits into a backpack and I have never been happier owning so little.

**Learning Ruby.** 2014 was called *“Year of Code”* and I spent some time playing around and learning Ruby. I’ve had some experience of PHP programming language so I’ve picked it up pretty quickly but honestly didn’t really find time to complete the whole course on **[Codecademy](https://www.codecademy.com/)**. Learning code is not so hard as you may think, if you want to acquire a new powerful skill in 2015 visit Year of Code.

**No drinking challenge.** I’ve started drinking just 3 years ago and it didn’t take me long to realise that it can be very harmful to you and your environment. Moderate intake is fine for social purposes mostly but other than that is just a waste of your life that could be spent experiencing the world, learning something new or spending quality time with loved ones.

**Pain is temporary.** When you hit the road running 10k or do exhausting leg day training in the gym with heavy weights you feel the burn, you push the limits, you feel the pain, the pain of growth. This pain is not comfortable and not everyone is willing to take it, that is why you grow every day by taking these temporary pain doses that make you stronger. Pain is temporary, glory is eternal. You’ll never be the same.

**Serve others**. Find your life’s purpose. Your life is worth nothing if you don’t make other people lives better. You will simply waste your life. Yes, you want to be happy, but happiness is more about giving and not so much about taking. Be grateful for what you get and make your happiness flourish by serving others and making them happy.

**Listen, listen, listen.** Many people listen with an intention to respond but not to understand. I know many people who don’t even need your response, they need a great listener to talk to. That’s enough. Without saying a word and just listening you can make someone’s day better.

**Everyone has a story. Silent ones have the best ones.** It may take some time to make the introverted person to open up and trust you but don’t rush the process, listen carefully, relate to that person and be patient. Great things are worth waiting for.

**Accept the things you can’t change.** This thing has been bothering me for a long time, but I finally got to a conclusion that I need to enjoy life as it is without worrying too much about the things I can’t change. Instead of worrying, figure out what is in your control and start taking action.

**You can’t change people, change your attitude or change your environment.** I just love some people but I’d love them even more if they have changed their mindset or attitude towards life but it’s too hard. Instead find new people or deal with them as they are.

**[How many people want to see you succeed?](https://despreneur.com/how-many-people-want-to-see-you-succeed/)** You don’t need millions of fans to make a living. It’s enough to have 1,000 true fans who really care what you do and will support you with their time and money. Pay it forward, start building deeper and more meaningful connections instead of trying to appeal to everyone.

**Quit more often, try it, if it doesn’t work discontinue.** Quitting is not for losers. Doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results is what defines a loser. Try more things, push a little bit more and see what happens, if you don’t like the outcomes — quit. No regrets or hard feelings. There are too many things to try out in life.

**Building a startup is an all-in activity.** Try it. Experience it and learn from it. Unfortunately, Refe doesn’t look to be the “all-in” project for me and the team has lost interest in it so I’ll see how I’ll go about it next year.

**Admit that everyone is better than you at something.** Can be very hard if you have this winner mindset and are very stubborn as I tend to be. However adopting a growth mindset and admitting other people’s strengths and empowering them will do more good for both of you.

**Don’t make ideas die because of your ego.** I wanted to get all the credit, I wanted to be the one everyone adores, I wanted to be known for my work. But this strong desire to be important and not share anything is killing the collaboration possibilities, your ego might be going against you so stop for a minute and think if it’s not about the time to let go your ego and start living for others.

**Getting noticed is a result of passionate and hard work.** One of the biggest acknowledgment this year was probably an **[interview on Forbes](https://www.forbes.com/sites/kaviguppta/2014/07/10/tomas-laurinavicius-of-despreneur-visual-design-is-overrated-and-becoming-a-cult/)** magazine, one of the most prestigious and globally recognised success publishers. I was quite surprised when Kavi, Forbes contributor reached out and asked me if I would have time for an interview as he sees me as an expert in the design and technology fields. I was extremely happy to share my insights.

**Some people will come to your life and will totally change it**, if you will allow them. Sometimes it’s hard to take up new challenges, let go people who do not really support you or share similar beliefs. Let the life happen, be open and brave, some people will change your life for good if you let them.

**There are moments in life that matter and teach us more than others.**Identify goodwill, honesty and kindness everywhere you go and take everything you can from these positive and extremely powerful moments.

**Peace of mind is everything.** Once again I’ve learned that doing less is more, having less is more, experiencing less (but very genuinely and deeply) is more.

**Eating clean is a lifestyle, not a diet.** I take care of my body so my mind is clean and ready to do great things in life. Eating clean is challenging but worth it and it’s not a diet, there is no deadline for clean and healthy lifestyle. I’ve made a decision to take care of my body and live healthy for the rest of my life.

**World is not just sunny beaches and rainbows.** World is a very dangerous and unfair place where people suffer from crime, poverty, hunger and diseases. But you and me are the privileged ones to have an option to ignore everything and just live the life as we want. However, having this privilege you get a responsibility to make sure that your existence will make a change. Learn more about sustainability and green living. Donate some money to your favorite charity, spread the word that helps the non-profits, support companies that give back: **[TOMS](https://www.toms.com/)**, **[Sevenly](https://www.sevenly.org/)**, **[Charity:water](https://www.charitywater.org/)**.

**Learning new skill is not hard but becoming great at it takes years.** Just recently I’ve turned entrepreneur from being a designer and had to learn many new things like accounting, recruiting, team building, public relations and much more. While it is relatively easy to learn something new it takes years to get great at it. Don’t waste your time.

**People are amazing.** This year I’ve met so many people and most of them are amazing, their attitude, their beliefs, their passions and their stories are simply unique sources of inspiration. See the good side of people, you’ll be surprised how many amazing people are surrounding you.

**Technology breaks when you’re not ready for it.** My MacBook’s SSD has crashed and I basically lost everything, luckily I had around 90% of my data in **[Dropbox](https://www.dropbox.com/)**. It’s 2014, the cloud is so powerful and making lives better, take advantage of it, use **[Google Docs](https://docs.google.com/)** instead of *Microsoft Office*, backup your files automatically on Dropbox, **[Google Drive](https://drive.google.com/drive/)** or **[Box](https://www.box.com/)**. Upload your photos to **[Flickr](https://www.flickr.com/)**, they give 1TB for free, upload your videos to *YouTube* and have everything, everywhere you go.

**Discipline is the ultimate key to productivity.** It may take some time to organize things daily, weekly, monthly, yearly. But it is essential step in order to make clear actions for achieving your goals.

**Slow down.** The world is not going to break if you don’t push yourself this time. It’s hard to take time off of the things you enjoy but doing too much of the same thing day in and day out will result in burn out and lost passion.

**Stay true to your values.** You can read, learn, watch and say one thing and in a certain situation do totally opposite thing. Don’t allow stress and pressure change your values, if you are about helping people help them even if you are the one who needs help.

**Become a connector.** I am pretty sure you know someone who would like to read this article, don’t wait for them to find it, initiate the action, send the link, say why you think they will like it. I’ve been introduced to so many people this year and tried to connect like-minded people that I know to give back. Results are amazing.

**Open mind and positive attitude will win no matter what.** Yes, you think that this startup idea won’t work, yes, you do think that it should be done differently, yes, you have doubts whether it work or not. Screw these negative thoughts, always be the supporter, encourage things to happen. At the end of the day not ideas or projects matter but relationships and experiences with people.

If you are interested in my previous annual reviews, check my life lessons of **[2013](/blog/life-lessons-2013)**, **[2015,](/blog/life-lessons-2015)** **[2016,](/blog/life-lessons-2016)** **[2017](/blog/life-lessons-2017)**, **[2018](/blog/life-lessons-2018)**, and **[2019](/blog/life-lessons-2019)**.
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            <title><![CDATA[Life Lessons I Learned in 2013]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Wed, 01 Jan 2014 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[Everything in this world is a remix or a combination of something. Giving a credit when due will make you look more trustworthy and honest instead of pretending that everything you say or do is 100% your work.]]></description>
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**Say thank you more often.** It doesn’t cost much to say thank you for the person who opened you the door, who let their place in a queue, who smiled at you for no reason, for a friend that you just remembered listening to that song, to your parents who brought you to life, to that writer whose thoughts inspire you and to yourself, because you’re amazing (in a way).

**[Give credit when due](http://everythingisaremix.info/).** Everything in this world is a remix or a combination of something. Giving a credit when due will make you look more trustworthy and honest instead of pretending that everything you say or do is 100% your work.

**Just do it!** I learned that doing first and thinking after brings you into some cool adventures and make up stories worth telling.

**Traveling sets your mind free.** 2013 was the year I’ve traveled the most, I’ve visited many countries in Europe, lived in Denmark and United Kingdom for a while, grew up as a personality and started to see what really matters for me.

**There are not so many people that care.** Most of the people and businesses don’t really care about anything than their ass. I’ve learnt that caring for 5-10 people genuinely will make wonders instead of pretending to care about 50-100 people.

**World is wonderful.** No matter how good or bad your current situation is, it will change. You are living in a golden age and now is the best time to start fighting for your dream. You are free to do anything you’ve dreamed of, quit your job, travel, learn Spanish, start cooking, everything is in you.

**Read more.** The best way to learn something fast is to read what other people already done and conducted in a book. Do not forget to act and apply the knowledge you have gained and always share the book with your friends. Inspire them too.

**Happiness is more important than money.** I’ve never thought that I’ll be turning down job offers for more than $65k/year right after graduating from college. However, working for myself and building a business that resonates with my values but makes me less money still make me happy.

**Write to people you care about.** You do not have to wait for someone to write to you. If you care write them. Be an initiator, don’t wait for wonders to happen. Sending a real postcard into a physical mailbox makes wonders, try it (hardest part is to get a mailing address).

**Planning rocks.** At least it works (in a way) for me. If I plan a lot of stuff I clear up my mind and feel less stressed. Even though I am usually too optimistic about my plans I tend to achieve more if I have a plan for the upcoming week rather than working without a plan.

**Big goals might work against you.** I thought I am a f\*\*king superman, turns out I’m not. You might not be surprised but I am. I had so many goals and these goals were really huge, building a million dollar business in a year or so. Big goals will kill you slowly mentally and physically. I am having smaller goals now. It makes me happy.

**It’s not about a destination it’s about a journey.** Everything reaches an end and nothing special happens. Unless you value the journey instead of the destination. Traveling around the Europe with my buddy I’ve experienced many odd situations and funny adventures that are stuck in my memories, I don’t remember how cool it was to finish the trip.

**Building a habit is hard but beneficial.** Habits > goals. I believe that building a habit is changing your lifestyle, for example I started to eat cleaner and healthier in 2013, on the way I realised that I don’t want it to work as a goal, because a goal has a deadline, I wanted to change my lifestyle and eat healthy for the rest of my life. That’s is why I am building a habit to eat cleaner which doesn’t have an expiration date.

**Discipline is a crucial part of success.** I’ve been into sports for 13 years and it became a huge part of my life. However entering adulthood, college and working full-time dictate other rules you need to play by. Having a routine and cutting off all of the unnecessary shit will let you slowly move towards your goals.

**Action is what changes everything.** You can read all of the existing books on cooking but no one will remember you as a person who read all of the books on cooking. Write one yourself, no matter how crappy it will be, someone will find value there and you’ll be remembered for it.

**Produce more than you consume.** Unsubscribe from most of the newsletters, unlike stupid pages on Facebook, unfollow spammers consuming your time on Twitter, stop watching YouTube cats, read and write rather than reading all the time. Create more than you consume.

**Big numbers won’t make you happy, focus on relationships and people rather than fans/followers.** Having 5 people on Twitter that I can ask advice at any time makes more happy than having 15k followers who don’t really care what I am doing.

**Running is fun, not always.** It’s free, recharges your batteries, lets you get familiar with local area and burns fat. However it might not be that fun when it’s freezing outside, windy or you had a huge party last night but you’ll never regret that you went for a run.

**You are capable of more than you think.** I proved it to myself running, even though I was in athletics for 10 years I have never run more than 2 km so running 13 km for 5 days in a row made me think that I can do more than I was thinking I can.

**Digital detox works.** Being a designer and entrepreneur I spend too much time online, designing, answering emails, reading, writing, checking notifications on my iPhone and other digital shit consumes my time and energy. I am trying to plug off for Sundays and enjoy outdoors, watching movies, reading a book, going for a walk. Mondays became more productive.

**Traveling is not expensive.** I went from London to Paris for £10 return. I’ve traveled around the Europe for £1000. Try cheap flights on **[Ryanair](http://www.ryanair.com/)**, cheap buses on **[Megabus](http://megabus.com/)** and cheap or free accommodation on **[Couchsurfing](https://www.couchsurfing.com/)**.

**There are no rules.** All of the rules were made up to make certain people achieve their goals. Realising this will take some time, but when you get it, you’re free to do anything.

**You will not die.** Most of the times you resist of doing something because you are afraid of failing, you don’t want people to judge you. If there is no threat for your life you shouldn’t be resisting doing something stupid.

**You will die (one day).** Death is probably the best motivator for me. One day I won’t be able to wake up and say hi to my friends and family, I won’t be able to go for a run, I wont be able to travel the word because I’ll be dead. You’ll die too, think about it.

**Love yourself, no matter what.** You didn’t finish your 5 km run, you just missed a deadline, you cheated on your diet and drank too much alcohol last night. Does’t matter, it’s you and you should love yourself.

**There is no personal or professional life, you’re the same, take advantage of it.** You are the same person in every situation in life, stop pretending or playing by the rules that are not yours. Be yourself, people will like you, if they don’t you probably shouldn’t be dealing with them.

**Failure doesn’t exist.** Start seeing failures as a part of process and you will realise that it simply doesn’t exist. 5 years ago I had to design 5 websites for free to get one paid client. It is not a failure, my process simply was 5 free designs for one paid.

**Building a startup is hard, very hard.** I am building a startup with my friend and it is freaking hard. There are so many different thing to take care of, lack of money, skills, time and experience make it very hard, hopefully rewarding.

**You can’t judge people.** I used to judge, assume and underestimate people. There are no rules in life and you don’t know what other people are living for. Stop judging and hopefully you won’t be judged.

**It’s never too late.** Unless you’re dying tomorrow, only then it might be too late to start something, otherwise you have plenty of time. Focus on the things that matter and make time.

**Time flies, you want it or not.** I’m already 22, time just passed by since I’ve been 18. For you it may seem funny but I feel it was too quick.

**You have the responsibility to empower other people, share experience.** Yes you just built your business, you have run your first marathon, you just wrote a song. Now share your knowledge and experience. You have learnt from someone, be that someone to the next genius.

**[Apply 2 minute rule and get shit done](http://jamesclear.com/how-to-stop-procrastinating).** I discovered this 2-minute rule not so long time ago and I love it. I don’t get dishes piling up, my email inbox is empty at most of the evenings and I feel more productive.

**Talk only nice about others, there are too many bad things around.** It is very hard because humans are very emotional creatures but talking only nice about others will go a long way.

**Stop collecting physical things.** All my life can be put in my backpack, I don’t have anything and I don’t regret the things I got rid of. Becoming more minimal made more time for myself.

**It is hard to change everything at once.** Take small steps everyday, build a habit. I started running 2 km at the very beginning, then I increased it to 3 km and now I am running 5 km every morning.

**Invest in yourself.** Eating better food, getting enough sleep, learning a certain skill, going to a gym and paying for the services or products that will make you a greater person are totally worth it.

**Get enough sleep.** I used to sacrifice sleep to get more work done but I can honestly admit that getting enough sleep will make you more productive and happy. I sleep 7 hours every day.

**I don’t miss school, life learning is different.** Learning from real situations, dealing with real problems and making ideas happen will teach you much more than fake projects and outdated books in school.

**Inspire others.** Pushing yourself and refusing to give up are doing much more than you can think of. Inspiring people to take action towards their dreams is absolutely amazing. Most of the cases people won’t tell you that you were their inspiration but when they’ll do you’ll go crazy how happy you’ll be.

If you are interested in my previous annual reviews, check my life lessons of **[2014](/blog/life-lessons-2014)**, **[2015,](/blog/life-lessons-2015)** **[2016,](/blog/life-lessons-2016)** **[2017](/blog/life-lessons-2017)**, **[2018](/blog/life-lessons-2018)**, and **[2019](/blog/life-lessons-2019)**.
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            <title><![CDATA[You Have the Permission to Live]]></title>
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            <pubDate>Sat, 09 Nov 2013 00:00:00 GMT</pubDate>
            <description><![CDATA[I believe life can be designed and it’s your responsibility to make it a journey of a lifetime. Self-doubt is a prison you must escape.]]></description>
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You have the permission to live. Stop seeking validation.

Stop seeking validation.

_– Hey Tomas, what do you think of this website idea? – Me: I love it. – Thanks, Tomas._

Most people won’t take action until they feel they’ve got a permission. Who the hell came up with this concept? Why was I taught like that?

Stop looking for excuses not to start and start coming up with solutions. Life is so unbelievably amazing. You can do whatever you imagine. There is no one stopping you.

_Everything around you that you call life was made up by people that were no smarter than you, and you can change it, you can influence it, you can build your own things that other people can use. – Steve Jobs_

Everything was **made up**. When you realize it you feel free and empowered to do whatever you like.

For a long time, my understanding of life was to finish school, get university diploma, get a job appreciated by society, create a family, buy a house and live happily. What the heck is that? Who came up with this model of life?

Fortunately, my mind has changed and this post is meant to inspire you. Ask yourself what is stopping you from doing the things you’re dreaming about? Usually, it’s just your mind. Set it free.

Want to start a blog? Start on [Medium](https://medium.com/) and in less than 5 minutes you’ll be writing your first post. Want to start drawing? Picking up a pencil and paper doesn’t cost that much. Want to start your own business? Nobody is stopping you but your mind.

You have the permission to live.
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